Dear Donna,
thank you for sharing lovely memory about Jake with me.
Maybe our sons were the same generation - that is why they both liked !!!
Those sweet memories sometimes are painfull but sometimes they give strength
to our broken hearts to keep beating...
 

 
Thank you Sandra and Liliwings for your kind words and for listening....
 ~with love to all~
Buba,Goran's mom
 
 
 
 

My Dear Tea Friend
 
no need to ever thank me as I often think our two
 
hearts beat as one...
 
 
 
I really do

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

 
                                           "... Silent thoughts tears unseen,
                                        Wishing your absence was only a dream,
                      Those we love don't pass away they walk beside us every day…"
  
  
                                              
 

Yes, they do, dear Buba!
 
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

My dear Edda,
you have such gentle heart.
Thank you for being my on-line friend!
Love to you too 
Buba,Goran's mom

Those we love don't pass away they walk beside us every day…"
 
Yes indeed they do Buba. They leave us messages if only we are aware of them.
 
With Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

Thanks to the new forum format
I only just found this . . .

Thank you for the stories, Buba and Donna . . .
dinosaurs do indeed appeal to our young ones!
   ♥
 

everything counts... ♥

 ~

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

I am having such a hard time lately. I miss my son so much, and the pain just seems to go on and on. I wish I knew that he is all right (being mom still, I guess) and, I need to know if he forgives me...there's a lot to forgive.
 
Has anyone here considered or followed through with contacting a medium to see if they can 'hear' from a lost loved one?

Death cannot kill that which lives forever.
William Penn

Dear Donna,
 
I am sorry you are having such a hard time now. I don't know anything about contacting a loved one through a medium, but I am sure you son is OK, and that he has long forgiven you for anything for which you feel you need forgivenss. Our loved ones are  with God who is love. God forgets our failures, and , I believe, so do all who are with him.
 
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Donna,
It is quite understandable that you miss your son, and that you still have feelings of guilt.
 
I agree with Edda that, if there was anything to forgive, your son would have long ago forgiven you.
 
If you still feel the need to ask his forgiveness, don't forget he can still hear you. Listen carefully and you will hear him tell you he has forgiven you.
Do this as often as you feel the need.
 
with Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

Dearest Donna
 
I too am sorry you are suffering so much right now.
 
You never stop worrying about your child even in death we still 'Mother our children'.
 
I sometimes want my little Louis to forgive me but as we know Love Conquers All
 
so you have nothing to be forgiven for nothing at all.
 
As for a medium I went once when I was in a dark place,they did not
 
contact my Little one and I was so relieved afterwards because I felt I just
 
wanted him to be at rest he is too as is your son ...  
 
Take care Donna of yourself,Sandra xx 
  
    

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

I am having such a hard time lately. I miss my son so much, and the pain just seems to go on and on. I wish I knew that he is all right (being mom still, I guess) and, I need to know if he forgives me...there's a lot to forgive.

Dearest Donna,
I feel the same and I think that pain will never go away.
I often have flash backs of very hard and painfull scenes from the hospital asking myself what more we could done to save him...and it is so painfull
thinking how my son was feeling during that all ,was he afraid,was he alone,where is he now,does he now that I am his mom ,that I love him so much and miss him even more...
I would like too if it will be possiblle to talk with him , but I do not believe that is possible...
I feel like this is not MINE reality but some other's life somewhere
between dreams and reality
 
Sending you lots of love and understanding,
Buba,Goran's mom

Dear Donna . . .
I am sorry your sorrow is so strong just now.
It doesn't help to say this I am sure,
but it will pass . . .
perhaps never go away,
but become transformed into something beautiful and wise over time.
Buba has said this so well.

thinking how my son was feeling during that all ,was he afraid,was he alone,where is he now,does he now that I am his mom ,that I love him so much and miss him even more...

But no matter what your son felt,
that part of it is over for him.
He has moved on . . .
not away from you, but within you.
Only time
and the present dimension separates you now.
And I am not sure how productive it is
to try to disturb the balance.
I hope it can be enough to know your son is well,
and that there truly is nothing to forgive.
Whatever it was,
we all do the very best that we can
in any given moment
with love for you
and compassion for your grief
as someone who knows as well . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

My dear Sparrow,
you have such a gentle heart.
Thank you for your
compassion .

He has moved on . . .
not away from you, but within you.
Only time
and the present dimension separates you now.

I hope so my Sparrow,
I hope so from the bottom of my   
 
~with love to you and all~
Buba,Goran's mom

Dear Donna,
 
Very few stay in the reachable place...thank God!
 
Everyday you really can talk to him...I swear it!
I want you to know he is with the Almighty always and in every moment!
He is exactly where he should be protected and safe!
God makes no mistakes with his children!
 
Practice seeing Jesus or and the Mother Mary"s arms around him whenever you feel this sense of of longing for him or longing to know...Then practice having them hold you too!!!!
 
I'll be your instrument of peace and healing though......he is light and he is forever in your heart.......and who loved him.....really always....love never dies.....all who he loved too have him always....you see love is truth.....it is oh so pure and sweet and forever....and yes sorrow is part of love...so always honor your heart felt feelings of his loss...just remember Christ is always there to hold you. They are never divided or seperated now. Love is who you are, mom! And so it is that you are a part of all of this too. God bless you each and every moment. Share your heart always! Follow your spirit to where you can go now! You can go where many can not now because of your love. Be blessed in this wisdom. You have been gifted a sacred heart in this. A direct line of your own.
 
Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane
 

Grateful to be here!
What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
Love who You Are

 
  

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Juliana: Dear Sandra Reading all these posts I have gone back in memory to the time when I suffered very similar bruises, being in deep sorrow over my son (then 6 years old). In his case the doctors didn´t make any mistakes, but there was that terrible uncertainty as to what would happen to him. The night before he had brain surgery two doctors left me with the information that if he survived we should be prepared for his being paralyzed and having speech impediments. You say your brave sister kept the faith - I found mine then! None of the threats came true, and today I can gratefully say that these challenges at an early age have made him a sensible, courageous and very social-minded adult (more so than many of his peers). I am going to light another candle now for all of you - I know what you have been through.

 
Dear Juliana,
I read your post in James thread.I am so sorry you had to go through this but thanks to God that everything turned ok!
I went through the same when my Goran was 12 - doctors told us the same before brain surgery  that if he survived we should be prepared for his being paralyzed and having speech impediments and that would be the best case they told, prepare yourself to the worst! No need to say how we felt,but we went to another doctor to antoher country and done surgery there, miracle happened and everythig was ok but unfortunatelly it lasted only 12 years and then it happened
all over again when Goran was 24 with no miracle....Another brain bleeding,another brain surgery, another living hell to go through and no hope....
Life is like a constant war, you must fight one battle after another with no end...
~with love and thanks to all my friends who are my support here~ 
Buba,Goran's mom

Another brain bleeding,another brain surgery, another living hell to go through and no hope.... Life is like a constant war, you must fight one battle after another with no end...

 
I'm so sorry Buba I don't know what to say,I can't begin to
know how you feel.
 
All I know  is yes life does feel like a battle at times but we
all must fight this battle as our lives are precious just like
our children's were/are.
 
Buba in our 'weakness' we do find our strength  I feel for us our
children help us in so many ways..
 
 
I know it's so painful for you right now and your own personal
battle with grief may feel endless,but Buba I pray with all of
my heart that one day your happy memories will fill your heart
and your pain will ease somewhat..
 
 
No child wants to see their Mother broken no child.
 
My arms reach out to you right now Buba to hug you.
 
 I love you Buba
 
Please believe that I’m still with you and all these words are true. You
 once looked after me now I’m looking after you ....
 
                                     
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Dear Buba . . .
I too,
believe that through our sorrow
and our weakness,
is where we find peace and joy
with love for you . . .
sparrow
 

everything counts... ♥