....I feel the same and I think that pain will never go away. ...
 
yes, that´s it.
Is it enough to be with you, because of understanding - I think - ? I would like to give something, which can help... and I just have these words for you and a part of my heart, l. Is.

If you want to know something about someone, listen to your heart.

Thank you Sandra, Sparrow and Isabella for holding my hand....
 
~with love to you all~
Buba,Goran's mom  

"What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments,
but what is woven into the lives of others." Pericles

Ladies hello
 
I know it's so hard for you both right now and
I too want Louis tonight more than anything and
once again my empty arms ache for the child I longed
for, for so long... broken hearts never really mend completly..
  
  
 
Can I share this with you all...
 
I read dear Sparrow's post in our Gratefulness Cafe
 

I am concerned. Has Buba gotten any sleep last night? Check in please, and let us know . . .

 
then I headed off to pick up my car.I was walking
and for some reason all I could think of was Buba
and what Sparrow wrote.
 
 
I was thinking how hard it is and as I said to myself
'I really hope Buba is ok'.I looked on the grass don't
ask me why but you may not need to ask because
look was was calling me....
 
 
 
 

 
I got out my camera from my pocket and took this photo.
 
I knew then Buba was fine and I walked on feeling
happier.
 
I know it's so hard for you both but we all get so
many wonderful signs that our children are indeed
still with us.I know you would rather have your
precious children back but this for now is not
possible.We will meet them again but only when
they call us and not before.
 
 
 
 
Sorry now to ramble but today I was blessed by
your Angel's and mine too.
 
Love to you  both and everyone else,Sandraxxxx
 
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

 
 
 
          ~with love ~
  Buba,Goran's mom  

      Oh Buba my sweet gentle friend
   thank you precious ones   
        
           Thank you Buba
                 ~ 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Who is that woman in the mirror?
I can see her every morning
in my mirror,
who is that woman
with deep sea
of endless sadness
in her green eyes,
with no smile , no hope ,
no shine , no sparks in her eyes,
so sad that I feel pity for her...
Who is that woman in the mirror???
She looks somehow familiar to me...
Oh, now I realise...that woman is...ME!!??

Dear Buba . . .
I wish that I could take your pain away
with love . . .
sparrow
  

everything counts... ♥

Dearest Buba,
Sending you much Love and Hugs,
 
Jude ♥

Love is the only way

Thank you dear Sparrow and Jude....
 
 
    

Dearest Buba,
 
My thoughts and my heart are with you!
 
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dearest Buba,

May I take a minute to tell you what I see in that mirror and in those deep
green eyes?  I see a woman who lives very honestly, courageously.  She
has experienced pain and loss that no mother wants to feel.  When
those moments of deep sadness and sorrow come, this Healing woman allows these feelings; openly admits to them and then walks through them, rather than
allowing those feelings to control her and her life.  This honest, courageous, healing woman has allows herself to be on this journey of healing, setting no time limits; yet allowing herself to be open to the comfort and healing of beauty she sees in this world, in creation, in family and in her online familyhood. She has taught many to see beauty in the simple ordinary things of life.  She has shared her wonderful sense of humor that has brought laughter and joy to so many when they needed it most and has allowed herself to share in that laughter and those sunny moments of joy.  This woman with eyes of green that hold the depths and color of years of forming this multifaceted precious gem continues along her courageous healing journey never giving up, but instead walking through those days of pain and
sharing with all the signs and sights of beauty and moments of laughter that she finds along the way.

Yesterday is gone forever.Tomorrow may not come. Live Fully each moment today. Look for Good Things that Happen to you Every Day.

Dear Buba,
 
Honor thyself!
 
Love, peace, honesty, sorrow, joy, beauty, grace, tears, creation, purity, healing, light.
 
I'ts there, Buba....just deeper sometimes.
 
Love you....hearts all joined.
 
(((((Group Hugs)))))
 
Peace, Love and Joy,
Diane

Grateful to be here!
What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
Love who You Are

Thank you dearest Betty,   Edda  and Diane
for your kind words, too kind....     
             
          Sending you  hugs and love
              Buba,Goran's mom  

As Diane says,

I'ts there, Buba....just deeper sometimes.

Just remember this,
dear Buba . . .
 
. . . and I think that Betty has painted a beautiful portrait
of what I see in you as well.
You share of yourself so unselfishly
and so joyously,
we cannot help but laugh and cry with you.
Don't forget
that you are a 'multifaceted precious gem'
even though sometimes the sorrowful part
seems to overwhelm you.
You are very much in my heart
dear sister,
on the sad days
as well as the happy ones
with much, much love . . .
sparrow

 

everything counts... ♥

Dear Spparow,
Thank you from my heart
for your so, so kind and healing words...
With love ,
Buba,Goran's mom

Easing the healing process

by Edward Creagan, M.D.

Painful as it was, the experience gave me new insight into what those with serious illness and their families and friends go through. There are no quick fixes for the grief and anguish after the death of a loved one. No shortcuts, to be sure.

But there are ways to make the coping easier:

Actively grieve and mourn. Grief combines the inner feelings of loss, sadness and emptiness. Mourning is the external or outward manifestation of that grief. You may wear black, cry or carry a somber demeanor. Both grief and mourning are natural and necessary parts of the healing process.
If you don't face your grief, your wounds may never quite go away. Acknowledge the pain and know that it's part of the healing process. Unresolved grief can surface years later as headaches, intestinal problems, psychiatric difficulties, eating disorders or chemical dependency.
We grieve alone, but we heal in community. A friend, a confidante, a clergyperson can all help you along the journey of healing after a loss. We need community — connectedness — to heal. It helps to have someone to share feelings with or simply to be there when we cry, to share in our sorrow and listen in a nonjudgmental way.
Don't make major decisions. Grief clouds our ability to make sound decisions. So when you're grieving, try to defer major decisions. If possible, wait four to six months before making big decisions, such as moving, taking a new job or making major financial changes. If you must make decisions right away, seek the input of a trusted family member or friend for guidance.
Take care of yourself. Grief drains our energy. Each of us handles problems in our own way. You may develop a tremendous appetite or not eat at all and lose weight. Try to get adequate sleep and continue to eat healthy. If at all possible, don't be alone during this time. Let others take care of you. Spending some time alone is fine, but isolation can become unhealthy and interfere with the healing process. Your will to live and desire or ability to follow normal routines may quickly erode. That can put you at higher risk of health problems, such as depression, insomnia and heart disease. Consider visiting your doctor to make sure your health isn't being adversely affected.
Time helps, but it may not cure. We're told that time heals all wounds. That's not entirely true, of course. Time does have the ability to make that acute, searing pain of loss less intense, to make your red-hot emotions less painful. But your feelings of loss and emptiness may never completely go away. If you question this, ask any parent whose child has died, even if that death occurred 60 years ago.
You may never return to your previous baseline. The death of a loved one changes us forever. Instead, you may find yourself at a new "normal." Accepting and embracing that can help you reconcile losses.

A final thought
....
But someday again, the sun will shine. The day will seem brighter, and your life will go on, even if it'll never be quite the same.

But someday again, the sun will shine. The day will seem brighter, and your life will go on, even if it'll never be quite the same.

This is true dear Buba.
But may I add one more thing . . .
that even though you will never be the same,
you have the opportunity
of becoming a better person as well . . .
one with a bigger heart,
one with more wisdom,
one more capable of compassion for others
with love . . .
sparrow
(((♥)))

everything counts... ♥

Dear Buba,
Yes that is a lovely piece of writing, and I too would add what Sparrow has added.
 
I too see in you what Sparrow describes in the post above.
 
With Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

 
My Dearest Buba time does help  but there is no
cure as we both know.
The loss of a child is the hardest thing in the world
to 'cope' with..
 
 
The empitness is with us both daily and I know it
is with other's too.

 
All we can do is cherish the memories and live a
life that our children would want for us all.
 
We are forever changed Buba as our children
have taught us many many wonderful things
and left us all with so many precious gifts...
 
 

But someday again, the sun will shine. The
day will seem brighter, and your life will go on,
even if it'll never be quite the same.

 
 ~ 
 
For a single moment,
I feel you walk with me
Sharing still my dreams on Earth
Where always you will be.
 
   
 
Thinking of you lots Buba with love xxxx
 ~ 
    

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

what a precious sign dear Buba ..
~
 
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥