Marriage breakdown

I'm asking for your prayers and candles for my nephew, his wife and 2 little children.
I have just heard from my Sister that her youngest son has left his wife this morning.
His wife is devastated, and worst of all, his 10 year old daughter is blaming herself. She sent her Daddy an email saying 'sorry she was so naughty that he has left them all, and if he comes back she promises not to be naughty again.'
Heartbreaking.
This family suffered another great tragedy some 7 or 8 years ago when twin girls died because of a medical mistake. This same little girl thought that was her fault too.
 
I don't begin to see why children blame themselves, but they do, and I can't imagine how this one little girl is feeling today and my heart goes out to her, and also to her brother and mother.
The candle group is OACO

Love is the only way

Dear Jude
I am sorry to hear of your nephew leaving his wife today and the two children and that his daughter is blaming herself for him going. I don't know why children blame themselves for things that are out of there control but they do. I know I used to blame myself when I was young and my dad went in hospital. I used to think I'd done something wrong and thats why he went away. It wasn't till later that I understood his illness and that it wasn't my fault. I hope that she will be able to stop blaming herself its not her fault this happened or the loss of the twin girls.
I will light a candle for the family
love sharon
 

Dear Sharon,
Thank you for your reply and candle. It's good to see you again.
 
Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Jude,

My heart goes out to you, to your nephew´s family and especially to this sweet little girl, who is so unhappy right now. The only comfort I can see is that I believe she will grow into a very responsible adult. I am going to light a candle for all of you. You will let them know, won´t you?

Much Love,
Juliana
_____________________________
Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

Dear Jude, I am so very sorry to hear about your nephew and his family. The story is heartbreaking! I hope the little girl gets all the assurance she needs that it is not her fault. Perhaps her dad has some concern how his leaving affects the children, and could tell her that this is between her parents and not about her.
 
I'll be glad to light a candle for them and keep them in my prayers,
 
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear one, I am so very very sorry to read about your nephew and his family.  It is horrible to grow up as a little one thinking that you are responsible for all the bad stuff that happens and it takes a long long time to grow out of it. Edda is correct. The little one's dad needs to tell her that it is between him and the little one's fault and that she had nothing to do with it.  Know that she will be held in prayer that God will comfort this little one of His.  Perhaps there is still a lot of risidual pain between the parents from because of the twins deaths.  Deaths of children often leads the parents to separating.  Know that they will be placed on the kitchen table candle (even though it is not now in the kitchen).
Much love and prayers. 

Yesterday is gone forever.Tomorrow may not come. Live Fully each moment today. Look for Good Things that Happen to you Every Day.

Dear, dear Jude . . .
Betty is right . . . there could be some residual pain over the loss of their twins. My own first marriage broke up after the death of our first son. Each time we looked into the other's eyes all we could see was that terrible, terrible loss. It was more than either of us could bear.
I do hope that the parents of your niece will really make an effort to relieve her undeserved (but real in her mind) guilt. They need to rise above their own suffering over the break up, and attend to her needs.
My thoughts and prayers remain with your family
with much love to you . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Dear Sparrow, you have described it so well. Yes, you and Betty are probably right as my Sister says that things have not been right since the twins died. They hardly speak to each other, and my nephew takes holidays apart from his family while they don't get holidays! We've been thinking how strange that is.
Bless them all. 'The family' in general terms, seems to be under huge stress in our times.
 
Jude

Love is the only way

Hi Jude, adding my prayers and thoughts of healing for your sister and for her family who are going through such trauma, may they all be protected and comforted.Amen
Glenys x

Hi Jude, I am sorry about your nephew's marriage. His poor young daughter, taking all the heartache and blame. My heart breaks for her.  I hope and pray that they can rise above their troubles and focus on their daughter who needs their love and understanding. Prayers for her well being. Love, Vicky

Separation/Divorce is such a painful thing, especially for the children. My heart goes out to the family, as I remember the horrors of my own divorce and how I blamed myself for it for the longest time.  I will light a candle for OACO and hope with all my heart that the little girl will not always blame herself for her dad leaving. I pray with time she will see it was not her fault because she was "naughty"
 
Karen

integrity is shown when no one is looking

I am lighting another candle in the OACO group today. I continue to lift this family with warm thoughts and special prayers for the child to not feel at fault forever.

integrity is shown when no one is looking

Thank you Karen. I haven't had an update on the family since so don't know how they are all coping.
 
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Jude,
 
thanks for letting me know that there is no news at this time. I will keep praying and hoping that things get better for this family. It is all I can do but it is alot at the same time. Lifting people up makes me feel lighter myself.
 
Karen

integrity is shown when no one is looking

JUDE, I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR NEPHEW AND HIS FAMILY. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHY KIDS BLAME THEIRSELVES EITHER. I HOPE THAT THEIR PROBLEMS WILL BE RESOLVED SOON.