could i ask you all to light a candle for my dad

Dear Denise,

Let me tell you that I feel with you, and let me also say what comes to me spontaneously as I am reading your post. I think it is not necessary at all for you to "keep up a good face in front of dad" - show him how you truly feel, show him your loving face! If tears come, do not try to hide them... Hold his hand, talk to him as your love for him prompts you...
I am going to light a candle for you and for him.

With much Love,
Juliana
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Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

hi all
thankyou i just been sitting with dad holding his hand while we wacth some of a film he loves westen
there have been time at the beging of this that we hug and cry togther
he been a sleep alot to day i have  to grab every min while he is a awake  he still not eating  very little
oh how i wish i a magia wand  to lift this from him
also today i been thinkng back when i was little  i used to follower him around
oh how i do love him
and it breaking my heart
thankyou all  for your support you  all so kind denisexx

Dear Denise, we all have at one time or another wished for a magic wand! From what you are writing you are doing all the right things. As Juliana says, don't hide your face from your dad. He knows you are hurting. When you were little he took care of you, now you are doing the same for him. Do make sure that you get enough rest. Sleep when he sleeps!
 
You are in my heart and prayers,
 
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Denise . . .
Looking through your posts from first to the most recent one yesterday I can sense how you have grown from shock and fear and utter devastation towards an openness and gentleness of spirit for your father. This is a journey of love you are on together. You are blessed to have such love, and your father is blessed to have you.
As Juliana says, "don't hide your face...he knows you are hurting." This is no time for pretending. I know that you love him my dear, I can 'hear' it in your voice . . . you are such a gift for him right now, and he for you. Be sure though, to remember to take care of yourself. Have a nap when your father has a nap.
sending you love and prayers and compassion . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Thankyou for you lovley words sparrow denise..........

Prayers of love and support for you Denise and for your dad.
Namaste
Glenys x

Dear Denise,
 
I am so sorry to hear all of this.
 
May your loving care be magnified for your father's journey.
 
I hope you can get some care for yourself as others here have voiced.
 
It is such a blessing that the two of you can share this time together.
 
You are in my prayers,
Sending you love and light and strength.
May God bless you.
Love,
Diane

Grateful to be here!
What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
Love who You Are

ithankyou you all for your support
dad alsleep he is sleeping alot now and a little weaker
we had our cup of tea togther and i got him wash  then back to sleep
oh hard this is for me  and must be for him
i cant  say what i am feeling  its just  i know soon i have to say goodbye
i know my mom is waiting for him
and that i have had him for 15years after my mom passing
it will be 15 years my mom pass away on the 24 november  oh how i hate noveber
thankyou all for listen to me denise xxx

Dear Denise,
It's lovely to hear how you are finding the strength to do this for your Dad. How wonderful to spend his last days with such Love.
You will look back in years to come and see it as a blessing to you and your Dad. To be there for someone who is dying is a privelege, and you will have no regrets. Just make sure you tell him now, everything you want to tell him.
 
And don't forget to look after yourself, and get as much help as you can.
 
Much Love and prayers, from Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Denise . . .
I have been thinking back to when I shared a similar journey with my own father, and found myself posting on another thread this morning. Reading how it is for you reminded me acutely of how it was for me...that after we brought my father home to die we felt like we were wrapped in the softest, most glorious cocoon of love, and that the petty concerns of the outside world suddenly meant nothing . . . our love was everything.
When the time comes that you must say goodbye to your dear father, don't hold back . . . give him all the love that is in your heart. It will not empty you, but will fill you up more than you can now imagine.
I hold you and your father close, close to my heart
with much love . . .
sparrow
I light a candle of love and prayer for you and your father in a group called "brum".

everything counts... ♥

Dear Denise,

I agree with my friends here who are saying that Love is all that counts, not only in the situation in which you are now, but always. Great Peace will fill you when have said good-bye to your Father. I was given the Grace to be with my Mother during the last week of her life, and the experience was one of Love and Peace only.

Warm Hugs,
Juliana
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Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

sending you a hug denise and adding you and your dad to my prayers.

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Denise, thinking of you and your dad at this sad time. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle for you both. You are such a special person for taking care of your dad like this. I know that this must be hard for you. I can't imagine what all you are going through. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Dear Brum,
My heart goes out to you and your Dad. It must be so difficult for you especially with your mum gone too.  I am sure your mum is looking over  you and is so proud you are taking care of your Dad in the way that you are doing.
 
Brum, love is a miraculous thing. It heals and comforts and gives strength. Every single minute and every second of your care is doing so much, more than words can say, or describe, for your Dad. 
 
You are loved too. In so many ways. I am going to light a candle for you to shine on brightly, I will be away for a few days again but will be thinking of you Brum.
Godlove
Gina and Jackory

Hello all
just to say thanyou all for you kind thoughts
i am in a day dream today dad is sleeping alot more now  just grabing the odd couple of mins
it true gina i have ask myseif many time why us
i feel so numb inside
i look at my dad and think a good man  and you going thought this
it not fair
anyway thankyou again denise ............................ ps thankyou all for lighting candles foe my dad xxx

Dear Denise,
I'm sending you lots of hugs. The numbness could be nature's way of protecting you at the moment. It's too much for you to take in and your time and energy is needed for looking after your Dad...and I hope yourself.
 
I will light another candle for you and your Dad.
 
Much Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Denise, I agree with Jude! Sometimes we need to distance ourselves a little to be able to continue caring without falling apart. It is never easy, but, I am sure later on you will look back on this time with your father grateful that this opportunity was given you to show him how much you love him.
 
Much love to you and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Denise, continued prayers for you and your dad, take care
Glenys x

Dear, dear Denise . . .
Please know you and your father have been in our thoughts and prayers since you first told us your story . . . thank you for telling us how your are today. Jude and Edda are right I think . . . nature protects us when we need protection, and I feel that you and your dad are being held lovingly in the arms of an angel.
Peace be with you . . .
you are a dear person.
with much love to you and your father . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Denise, thinking of you and your dad today. I have lit a candle for you.