please light a candle for our family and pray

hi am new here, stumbled across the site by accident.

our family has been having the most awful year possible and at the moment i am struggling with even daily tasks.  we lost my Gran, who was 104yrs old in january, husband has been walking in and out of marriage since august and now wont even acknowledge i exist, and then my son's girlfriend gave birth to a stillborn baby two weeks ago.

there are moments when i dont know if coming or going.  on top of this i am now a single parent to adhd 17yr old son who has learning difficulties.  my temper over the past few days has reached new heights as well as the general sadness about all that is going on.

i know there is a God and He loves me and has got a plan for my life but just dont see it at the moment to be honest.  there are moments when i dont feel i can carry this load anymore and other moments when i find to my amazement that i am enjoying myself to a limited degree.  just dont know how i am going to get through the next few weeks let alone christmas. 

sue
 
have started a candle group - sg

Welcome to the forum, Sue!
I am glad you found us! I am so very sorry for all the trouble you are experiencing and my heart goes out to you! We are glad to support you with our prayers and candles. Let this be a safe place where you can share your thoughts and feelings. I think it is helpful to be able to do so. You will meet many compassionate people who struggle with their own difficutlies and understand what you are going through.
What many of us have found helpful is to try to take one day at a time and make the best of it. We have more strength than we often realize until others tell us so.
 
I will light a candle in your group and keep you and your family in my prayers,
 
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Sue,
Welcome to the forum. I am very glad you found us.
I am so sorry you are having such a hard time at the moment......me too! And quite a few of us here on the forum, you will find. Sometimes I think I will scream at the next person who tells me "it's the nature of the beast." (meaning life) They are well intentioned I know, but it really doesn't help does it?
 
So I won't say that to you. But I do identify with what you say about some moments not knowing if you can carry the load anymore, and others where there is just that little glimmer of optimism.
 
You certainly do have a lot to carry and I'm wondering if you have tried to get some kind of support for yourself? Your doctor might be the place to start.
If you are anything like me, you are the typical mother, trying to keep going and supporting everyone else whilst putting a lid on your own needs, worry and grief. Sooner or later the lid flies off. I have reached that point and, like you I'm not coping with every day things at all.
One of my dear friends here on the Forum advised me to just take one day at a time, or even one hour at a time. Focus just on what is needed in that hour.
For me, housework, except for the very basics, has gone out the window. I vacuum, do the laundry, cook a meal and wash the dishes. Even having to take and collect my granddaughter from school is a big struggle, and the only reason I go to the shops is because I have animals to feed.
 
For now, that is enough. This Forum has been my lifeline...literally.
 
Do come back and talk to us. There are lots of loving people here to listen.
 
Much Love and Hugs,
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear, dear Sue . . .
I don't think it is truly by accident that any of us have found this forum. I like you am relatively new here and would like to add my welcome to Edda's and Jude's.
You are certainly going through much change and turmoil in your family and it is no wonder that you might feel you are on a bit of a roller coaster. Please know that you will always find a compassionate ear and an open heart in the forum.
A candle has been lit for you in the ALL group with the others, and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers throughout the day. I hope that you will come back to visit and share more when you feel comfortable.
with much love...
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

thanks so much for your kind welcome.  it helps so much to know that it is not just me that is having such a hard time at the moment.
 
thank you for the advice.  i am only making minimal effort with the house and stuff.  the poor dog isnt getting the exercise he needs either because i find it hard to go out in case i bump into people and they expect to get a logical conversation.  also it is embarassing to walk along the road in tears.  other people just dont know how to cope with it
 
will pop back often
 
sue

Dear Sue,
I can identify with everything you have just said! It's as if the world is still going on out there, but I'm not a part of it. Making decisions is hopeless, and all interactions, except on here make me feel like a gibbering idiot.
 
I know I'm putting my head in the sand, but I'm not strong enough yet to take it out. Yes, it is a help to know you aren't alone.
 
I keep trying to think that "This too will pass."
 
Lots of Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Sue
Prayers for your family and you that you may feel surrounded
with the peace of the Lord and Know that he will carry you
leaving one set of footprints in the sand I will light a candle
in your sg
 Namaste
Barbara T

God I gratefully await and accept your miracles for me that I may be a witness to your wonder

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Dear Sue,
I can identify with everything you have just said! It's as if the world is still going on out there, but I'm not a part of it. Making decisions is hopeless, and all interactions, except on here make me feel like a gibbering idiot.

I know I'm putting my head in the sand, but I'm not strong enough yet to take it out. Yes, it is a help to know you aren't alone.

I keep trying to think that "This too will pass."

Lots of Love, Jude

 
hi jude
thanks for reminding me that 'this too will pass'  - i know in my heart it will but it is so hard when you are walking through the middle of the storm.
 
sending you hugs to get your head out of the sand......
 
sue
 

ORIGINAL: Hope coach

Dear Sue
Prayers for your family and you that you may feel surrounded
with the peace of the Lord and Know that he will carry you
leaving one set of footprints in the sand I will light a candle
in your sg
 Namaste
Barbara T

 
thank you so much - i really love the footprints poem.  thanks for the prayers.  seemed so much calmer today.
 
sue

Dear Sue,

Let me welcome you to the Forum, too! I am not here daily, but having read your posts my heart also goes out to you. I, like everybody else, have known times when I had to let myself be carried. Yes, hard times do pass, and looking back at them later we are able to realize what the challenges have taught us.

I wish you strength, courage and hope. A candle is burning for your concerns.

Love to you,
Juliana
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Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

ORIGINAL: J1937

Dear Sue,

Let me welcome you to the Forum, too! I am not here daily, but having read your posts my heart also goes out to you. I, like everybody else, have known times when I had to let myself be carried. Yes, hard times do pass, and looking back at them later we are able to realize what the challenges have taught us.

I wish you strength, courage and hope. A candle is burning for your concerns.

Love to you,
Juliana
_____________________________
Speak Peace in a World of Conflict

 
thanks
 
sue

Hello Susie, i am sad to "hear" your words on the forum, but am glad you have kept in touch.
the forum is full of many sisters and brothers, to me it is a bit magical as there is lots of comfort, wise words, listening ears, prayers and love here.
I will light a candle for you; and pray that as the days go on you will find strength and comfortx Godlove Suex

Gina and Jackoryx

Dear susieg,
 
First let me say I am sorry for your sorrows over your loss of your grandchild, your marriage, your difficulties with your son and your passing of your grandma. I really care and hope that your knowing that helps ease your burden. I am glad you reached out here so others can help you carry your load. I also love the Footprints in the Sand poem as well....
 
I will go light a candle for you now, in hopes that you can keep remembering that the storm will pass as you described it. I have to remember that often too. If I can hold onto knowing that things will go on, and that things will probably ease from time to time, hope has a way of staying in my heart. Sometimes in the back of it, but always there if I acknowledge it. I hope it can be that way for others too.
 
Regarding anger, mine is often fear disguised as anger. If you need someone to talk to so you can vent your feelings, we are here.
 
Peace and Love to you,
Karen
 
PS I am sorry to hear about your ex. I have one like that too; feel free to pm me if you need someone to talk to about him and/or the anger and depression you feel.

integrity is shown when no one is looking

Sue , I am so sorry for all the dificulties and pain you and your family are experiencing at the moment. Prayers of peace and comfort for you for everyone whom you hold dear. Namaste
Glenys

SUE, I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT ALL YOUR PROBLEMS THAT YOU HAVE HAD THIS YEAR. ESPECIALLY THE LOSS OF YOUR GRANDCHILD. I KNOW THAT WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THEY SAY "WILL PASS" BUT THAT DOESN'T HELP SOMETIMES HUH? I DO HOPE THINGS LOOK UP FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE GOING TO BE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. PLEASE KNOW THAT IF YOU NEED TO TALK THAT I'M HERE FOR YOU. I AM ALSO HAVING DIFFICULTY DEALING WITH A ADD/ADHD CHILD MYSELF AND I KNOW THE FRUSTRATIONS THAT COME ALONG WITH THAT! 

Dear Susie,
I came across your post again and thought I would write to let you know I will light another candle for you today in the All group. My heart does go out to you, as I know a little of the immense problems that families face with learning difficulties, like tiredness, for one!
Susie you are in my thoughts. Godlove you, your sons, and your family
gina and jackory

thank you for your responses and prayers.  God - i believe so strongly - is begining to open the door and show me the way to go.  have been offered a car (havent had one for 3.5 months) so that is going to make my life a lot easier and pleasenter.  God has also provided the money even though i have tried to interfer and do things my way.  it was from an unexpected source and amount.
 
my eldest son and girlfriend are still going through the mill as we all are over Oscar's death.  please continue to pray espicially around december 1st as that is when the funeral is. 
 
God will guide me through this time and i know there is a purpose to it all
 
love and hugs
 
sue

Dear Sue, isn't it amazing how help often comes from unexpected places? I'll be thinking of you on December 1, but I'll light another candle for you now.
 
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

holding you and your loved ones prayerfully in my heart.

love to you and your loved ones,
kriann

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Dear Sue . . .
I believe, like you, that "God is beginning to open the door and show you the way . . ." I also believe there is no such thing as "coincidence".
You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers my dear, especially as 1st of December approaches.
If you allow it to happen, miracles will continue for you and your family
with much love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥