TODAY HEVEN GAINED ANOTHER ANGEL : A MAN WHO HAD SO MUCH LOVE FOR HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS : WE WILL MISS YOU DEARLY DAD:
 
Today My Father Javante passed away after a Long Battle with Cancer . He was 61 yrs old. Born in France. Educated in England. And a Proud American Citizen. Worked hard all his life . Brilliantly Warm Hearted  ,So very Smart,  and Exceptionally Talented  . Good with his hands he was a wonderful Builder and Handyman. And that after years in Office Work as a PR Manager . He opened his own Buisness doing what his Father Mercer had done all his life and what he had origionally trained to do FRENCH POLISHING and Restoring Antique Furniture. He had a brilliant gift with making what was once almost destroyed by time , whole and Beautiful again.
 
He had been Diagnosed originally with Cancer in His right Kidney in 2001. And had it removed. The other Kidney was okay. And after treatment he seemed to be okay for a long time. He was a Fighter. in 2003 He started getting pains in his lower abdomen again and for a while ignored it thinking he had a stomach bug. My Mother Angelina made him go back to the Doctor where they found he had a Tumor growing off his Stomach. He was operated on. And they removed the tumor successfully. And he went through treatment again. And being the strong guy he was fought it every step of the way until he  was given the all clear in May 2005. He was there when My daughter Jazzmine Charlotte was born the same year in August and was a Proud Grandpa. He so much loved kids. And walked my now Wife Sylvie down the isle at our Wedding in Januray 2006... Her dad passed away when she was 12 and so Dad offered to take his place. It was so like him . Always there for others. And helping out as much as he could.
 
He was seemingly getting better and had gone back to work when in April 2007 (Last year ) he started complaining of Severe Headaches and another series of Severe Back Pain. Thinking it was because he pushed himself into his work he was popular as a restorer and had so much work he had hardly time to rest. At the end of April my Mother called me in tears. Dad had collaped at home in the Garage he'd just got out of the car after going food shopping with my Mom. He had said "I feel Dizzy Ang (My Mom's nickname)." and Collapsed.Mom called the Ambulance to worried and scared she'd hurt him driving to hospital with him in the car. He had gone straight to emergancy and had seen a doctor in Minutes because of his history and health issues. The Doctors were worried . And they started running tests and scans. The news wasnt good.... The Cancer was back... And this time it was so bad... The Doctors couldnt do more than make sure he was comfortable. He had a Tumor on his spine near where his first Cancer of the Kidney had been... Another 3 in his lungs (He never smoked a day in his life) another in his stomach, 2 on his liver , In hs Bowel and the worst of all he had a Brain Tumor right down deep where they couldnt operate... And it was wrapped in Blood vessels and Nerves to dangerous to operate on even if they could get at it. They told us to take him home and Enjoy what time we had left. The Doctors said he;d be dead by Christmas. But My Wife was Pregnant Again and due in March ... He swore black and blue he'd be there to see his new Grandchild if it was the last thing he did. We tried what we could and told him we knew he'd fight as hard as he could to keep that promise.
 
We had longer then Doctors thought. We had Christmas 2007. Even though Dad could barely Eat much food and had a Feeding tube into his stomach to help him along too. HE enjoyed the day... All my Aunts, Uncles and Cousins. My Sisters and Brothers Turned out as long as they could to celebrate a Grand Christmas Day... It was fantastic the best Christmas Party since I was a Kid.
 
He was there when my Son Nathan Javante  was born in March 2008. And held his First Grandson only minutes after he was born.
 
By April Dad was in a Wheelchair and had lost ability to eat solid food. They operated to give him a Bag to toilet in in Late April after his bowel became to badly Damaged by the Cancer and had to be removed. With the Bowel Cancer removed my Dad seemed happy for a while some of the pain was gone now he said . And he had made peace with his life. HE told us he was ready for death when it came. He wasnt scared anymore. We knew it too be true. He would face Death as he had faced everything in his life.... Full on. And with all the Goodness and strength he had.
 
In August 2008 he was put in The St. Claire Du Masline Cancer Hospice after suffering a Cancer Related Heart Attack (His Heart now Had Cancer in it) and a Minor Stroke cause by the Brain Tumor... He was tired but still did what he could to make us all laugh when we visited. The nurses loved him too. He was the funniest Guy in the Center they said... That was Dad alright... Always the life of the party. Even when he was sick.
 
Spetember 2008 he suffered 3 more Strokes. The last one left him unable to talk anymore. So he learnt to comunicate by Writing with the one hand that still worked on a small white board. He was still fighting it all the way.
 
We celebrated his 61st Birthday on October 21st. And had a Great Halloween Party next to his bed on the Halloween . Dad got the nurses to dress him up in a Skeleton Custume. He had us all Laughing still.
 
Then Last night the call we all feared ..... At 11pm the Doctor at the Hospice rang my Mother at home... We were there with her when she took the call. We'd been there for most nights since Dad had been in the Hospice. Mom missed him and knew he's time would come soon so she asked us to be there so she hopefully wouldnt be home alone when Dad;s time came. The Doctor gently informed us that Dad had passed away very quietly in his sleep . He had , had a restful day that last one. We had seen him in the morning. He had been so happy. He talked about wanting to have his favourite Music Played at his funeral. Led Zeppelin's Stairway to Heaven. I promised him we would. We talked with him until 1 pm when he had to have his afternoon nap he was still very tired now. And we had called the hospice at 4pm to check on him. He had been fine. They had given him his night medication and  he had gone to sleep around 7pm. And the 10pm bed check the Nurses had found that he had quietly passed away in his sleep. That was Dad all over... To do it right without any fuss. He went out as he had wanted to ..... Without causeing any fuss.... In no pain. He had quietly slipped away from this world into the next..... We miss you Dad.
 
Across the Rainbow Bridge now... Resting in Heaven with his Dad Mercer and His Mom Brigette. His baby brother Marcel who died age 2. His Sister Mala who died in Childbirth aged 19 and her Baby Magdeline who was born sleeping. And of course my Older Brother Alexander who died from a Heart Condition he was born with when he was 14. All together again.... He loved his family. He was a Brilliant Father. A Caring Husband and a Wonderful Friend to many. At his funeral we will play his "Stairway to Heaven"... And Celebrate his life with the Party we promised to throw for him afterwards. He wanted us to celebrate his life not morn it... He insisted on it. So we will honor his wishes.
 
He is survived by His First Wife Panchelle and their Son Michael . My Mother his second Wife Angelina and his Children... Myself and My Brothers Hayden , Domonic and Paul. And My Sisters Daniella,and Natasha. His now 6 Grandchildren. And his 4 Brothers and 5 Sisters. And 30 Neices and Nephews. All who Love and Miss HIm...... We Love you Dad. Tears will be Falling for a Long Long time yet. In our Hearts Forever. Miss you Always. The Best Dad in the World that anyone could have... R.I.P Javante Lewis Conner - Jacquiobille (Born 1947 - Died 2009 ). Resting With The Angels in HEaven.
 
Please Light a Candle For Him..........

~ Those We Loved and Have Passed On Are Forever loved. Forever Missed... Always in out Hearts ~
THUNDERCOLT.

Prayers of peace for Javante, prayers of comfort and support for Sebastian and everyone who loves and misses Javante. Amen
Glenys

What a beautiful tribute to your wonderful father, dear Sebastion.
I can see that he was well loved. Your experience brings tears to my eyes, as I lost my own father to cancer a few years ago. Sharing in those last days was the greatest gift I think, that he ever gave to me.
Thank you so much for sharing this . . . you and your family are especially in my thoughts and prayers as you lay his tired body to rest. May you all feel uplifted by the lovely gift of himself to you all, and may you be at peace knowing that he is at peace...he will forever remain in your heart.
Welcome to the forum . . . please come back and share your love, grief, wisdom and joy. Your love for your father speaks volumes.
with much love to you and your family . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Dear Sebastian,
I agree with Sparrow.........what a wonderful tribute to your much loved father. No-one could ask more. I too am glad you could share his last journey with him, however painful for you and him. It sounds as if he lived life to the brim.
It doesn't surprise me that he slipped away like that. My own mother waited until all her children had gone home before slipping away herself. A last act of Love.
 
My thoughts are with you and I will light a candle for you, you dad and all the family.
 
With Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Welcome to the forum, Sebastian!
 
I, too, think that you have written a beautiful tribute to your beloved father! My deepest sympathy to you and all your family. Your father is still close to you and will be watching over you!
 
I'll light a candle for him and your family,
 
With loving good wishes,
Edda

Peace and joy!

What a inspirational man.  Thank you for sharing here.  I'm sorry for your loss.  Your father will live on in you.  Every time you do something he taught you to do, he will be there. 

I hope you'll keep in touch with us.  There are many people grieving losses and it helps having a community like this to help us through the good and bad times.

With Much Love,
Kriann

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Thankyou to everyone who has posted reply's to my tribute to Dad. And thankyou from all my family for your prayers and the candles. My Dad would to Thankyou of all of you for your kindness if he was here to see it Im sure.
 
I am very fortuante to have had him as a Father. He was a Very good person. Who taught me so much in my life. And supported me all the way with my studies and then my career. He made me the strong person I am today. And thankyou to for reminding me that he is still with us everyday with our memories and things we do that he taught us too or liked to see us doing.
 
He will be Buried on Sunday Week at Montijeu Locioutte Cemertrie in Clermont-Ferrand, France. He is going to make his last journey home where his parents lay in the family plot. He wanted to be there with them. So Wednesday, I make a Flight with several of our Family and my wonderful Dad's Coffin. To put him to rest in his land of Birth. Im sure he is now much better in Heaven now he is free of Pain. And God has taken that Cancer and thrown it away. STILL MISS YOU DAD , EVERYDAY!

~ Those We Loved and Have Passed On Are Forever loved. Forever Missed... Always in out Hearts ~
THUNDERCOLT.

Dear Sebastian
 
My thoughts are with you at this sad time...
 
Wow your father sounds amazing he has spread his love and wisdom to so may people.Sebastion the words you wrote really touched my heart, a big part of your Father is in you.... I can see it by your gentle words.
 
Thinking of you as you lay your precious Ftaher to rest.
 
Take care,Sandraxx
 
I found this poem and I wanted to share it with you....

Life Lessons


You may have thought I didn't see,
Or that I hadn't heard,
Life lessons that you taught to me,
But I got every word.


Perhaps you thought I missed it all,
And that we'd grow apart,
But Dad, I picked up everything,
It's written on my heart.


Without you, Dad, I wouldn't be
The man I am today;
You built a strong foundation
No one can take away.


I've grown up with your values,
And I'm very glad I did;
So here's to you, dear father,
From your forever grateful kid.


By Joanna Fuchs
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

What a wonderful story about your Dad, such a loving tribute. Sorry about your loss but he will live on in your memories.

DREAM WITH YOUR HEART!!

Dear Sebastion . . .
I will hold you and your family especially in my thoughts as you make this final journey across the sea with your dear father. You will miss him every day, but over time your grief will grow into a deeper love . . . and joy as well. You are so blessed.
Thank you Sandra, for posting the poem. I says so much so simply. I am copying it and keeping it in my "special poems" section.
with much love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Sebastian, thanks for taking the time to share you and your fathers story with us. Your dad was sure a good man. Please know that we are here for you and that you are welcome here with open arms. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family. Please know that your father's legacy will live on forever. Please know that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I will light a candle for you and your family.

Thankyou Sandra for your wonderful poem. I will keep it safe. I may read it out for him at his funeral if you dont mind. It does say alot I cant say myself.
 
Thankyou everyone else for all these wonderful prayers, candles and Messages. My Family and My Mother thankyou from the bottem of our hearts. I found this site. Purely by accident. Looking for somewhere to make a tribute to a Man I will miss so very much, I looked at alot of places. But none of them seemed right. Until I saw this site. This forum. And read some of the wonderful things that you and others have written. I knew then... This was the perfect place to put down my words. I am glad you all liked it. It took a long time to write. But Im sure I had him there next to my shoulder every word I typed.. Saying "Your Doing Good." just like he always did when he was happy with something I was doing .
 
I like to think that some of my Dad'd kindness, gentle words and wisdom rubbed off on me. I'd be proud if I turned if I finnish out  half the man he was . He was so very warm hearted , Funny to when he wanted to be. I will miss that humor to. I almost forgot that in my grief. He wouldnt be happy if I forgot to say he was the worst practical joker in every way. But we wouldnt have wanted him as anything else. He was my dad. And Im not afraid at 33yrs old to say I loved him. And I miss Him. I know I will for a long time yet. But when I look into my childrens eyes. And I see them giving me the same looks I gave my dad when I looked up to him for help and advice. I can understand Im here to pass on to them all that greatness he passed on to me.

~ Those We Loved and Have Passed On Are Forever loved. Forever Missed... Always in out Hearts ~
THUNDERCOLT.

Hi Sebastian,
I am going to light a candle for you, you know I read your last post and it does seems as if your Dad was right there beside you, sparkling on, but in you!
Godlove.
Gina and Jackory

Dear Sebastian,

Your words continue to touch me!

I am sure you will turn out just fine, honoring the example and teaching of your beloved father! And you will pass it on to your own children. You already show so much of what you praise and treasure in him!

I'll keep you and yours in my prayers,
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Sebastian,
They say children don't know how to love if they didn't receive love themselves. Your father has given you a huge gift and in turn your children are learning about love from you which they will pass to their children. What a wonderful legacy!
 
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Gentle Sebastion
 
Your words are a blessing and a learing for us  all....
 
Sebastion your Father is the foundation of what now you are passing on to your children.They see you ,like you see your father and what wonderful men you both are.
 
I was really touched when I read this poem and in many ways I feel it was written for your Father.
 
Take care of yourself ,love and warm blessings to you and your family.
 
Sandraxx
 
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

this is a beautiful poem.  i hope its ok for me to print it up.

with love,
kriann

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Dear Sebastion . . .
I think you are already the man your father wanted you to be . . .
You are very wise to see how the gift of your father has been passed to you, and now you are passing it onto your children, his grandchildren.
There can be no greater gift from father to child.
Bless you
with love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Again thankyou so much everyone for everything youve said here over the past couple of days. Being so down and having people like you helping me with your words and candles and prayers getting back on my feet again . And to help me have the energy and the strength to be there and help my family get through this very tough time we are going through now. You never sometimes realise just how special someone is until they Pass Away and you often Take from Granted that they are always going to be there. After all alot people think Dad or Mom is strong they'll be around forever. And when something happens and they pass on. Your often left feeling torn apart. So when I got these messages back from you. For a Tribute I thought people would just read and ignore or say something like Sorry but your Dad or something like that. I didnt realise that I would find more than that from people I didnt know. I am so greatful for it. It helped me rmemeber alot and get back on my feet.
 
I know my father taught me alot of good things. And I will like he did for me at the right times in their lives pass it all on to my children. I already tell them I love them everyday. I ley them know Im here for them when they want to talk or anything .... And I am so glad when my daughter already is showing signs or doing that and she is only a three years old. My son's only a a few months old. And he already smiles at me gummuly eveytime I am near him. I hope that I can continue on the great things I was taught to them. I know my Dad is proud of me. He told me so many times. Im lucky with that. The best way I can honor him I know is to give my family the best lives and the most support and love I can. Just like he did for me and my brothers and sisters.
 
I may not have followed him into the family line of work. But he did like what I do for a living. He supported me every step. I will do the same for my children too.
 
Thankyou all so much again for everything. You have all helped me more than I can say.

~ Those We Loved and Have Passed On Are Forever loved. Forever Missed... Always in out Hearts ~
THUNDERCOLT.

Peace, Sebastion . . .
You are a wonderful, warm and loving man.
You are on the right path.
Your father did an excellent job to raise such a son as you.
Let your life be a tribute to him . . .
with much love to you . . .
sparrow
ps. You made me smile when you told how your infant son smiles "gummuly" at you. Beautiful--

everything counts... ♥