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June

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Jeff - 1/7/2009 11:43 AM ( #1 )
My nephew Jeff, 42, has been in hospital for almost 4 months now suffering from acute pancreatis. God has given him another chance at life free from alcoholism but he has lost over 100lbs & has also contracted the superbug MSRA for which he has been prescribed anti biotics. He has had countless blood transfusions & was in an induced coma for about 6 weeks to begin with & his stomach still needs to be drained of excess fluid. However he is able to walk now for a little while & to leave the hospital for a few hours a day but he needs to regain his appetite & to gain weight so any prayers would be greatly appreciated. Jeff has always been a hard worker, never been unemployed. He is a good father to his daughter Molly who is 12. Jeff is a lovable rogue so I hope that you will join me in praying for his recovery. Thank you, love June
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 12:20 PM ( #2 )
Dear June,
Welcome to the Form. I'm sorry to hear about your nephew Jeff. A very sad story.
I will certainly keep him in my thoughts and light a candle for him. Have you started a candle group for him? I will light one in the 'All' group, but if you would prefer something else, let us know what his group is called. Instructions are at the top of the Light a Candle Forum
 
Jude
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 1:55 PM ( #3 )
Dear June,
 
I join Jude in welcoming you to the forum! I am sorry to hear about your nephew's prolonged illness. This must also be very hard on his family.
I, too, will light a candle for him in the ALL group,
 
With love and every good wish,
Edda
Peace and joy!
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 4:18 PM ( #4 )
Dear June
 
I will light a candle for Jeff and his caring Aunt June.
 
I am so glad Jeff is regaining his life and I hope his recovery goes from strength to strength.
 
Take good care,Sandraxx

 
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 5:18 PM ( #5 )
Dear June . . .
I too, would like to welcome you to the Gratefulness forum . . .
and thank you for sharing the story of your nephew Jeff.
It does seem that he has been given a second chance
and is slowly working his way back to health.
I pray for strength and courage and love
for him and for your family in the days ahead
with much love . . .
sparrow
 
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 5:21 PM ( #6 )
Sandra,
Thank you so much for your kind words & for lighting a candle. At the moment I am still trying to work everything out - without much success! I need my daughter's help but she is in bed right now.
Love June
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 5:28 PM ( #7 )
Dear Sparrow,
Thank you for the warm welcome & encouraging words. Jeff's illness has been a terrible ordeal for his parents & sisters (3) & brother. My sister & her husband have been at Jeff's bedside every single day sometimes for up to 8/9 hours at a time & their health is not 100% but it is what we do for our children isn't it? Jeff is much loved by all the family. So thank you for your prayers it means so much. Love June xx
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RE: Jeff - 1/7/2009 5:32 PM ( #8 )
Dear Jude, thank you for welcoming me to the site. thank you for lighting a candle for Jeff. I am just trying to get around to everything & I'm not having too much success as yet! So please be patient with me, love June xx
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RE: Jeff - 1/8/2009 10:42 PM ( #9 )
JUNE, I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR NEPHEW. MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIM, YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. PLEASE KNOW THAT YA'LL WILL BE IN MY THOUGHTS. I WILL LIGHT A CANDLE FOR YOU , HIM AND YOUR FAMILY
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RE: Jeff - 1/9/2009 7:52 AM ( #10 )
Dear June . . .
It took me awhile to learn how to get around on this site too,
but once I finally figured it all out, it was easy .
Patience
with love . . .
sparrow
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RE: Jeff - 1/9/2009 8:14 AM ( #11 )

June, 
So glad your here!  There's a lot of love on this site -
you'll fit in just fine.
I lit a candle for Jeff.  I started a group candle for him, under JEFFO.
How's he doing?  Can I still use the same address for the hospital?  I would like to send him another card. 
Lord,
   Watch over my Dear Friend June & heal Mr. Jeff.  Give
  this young man peace.  In Jesus, Amen.
  Blessings .....


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RE: Jeff - 1/9/2009 4:51 PM ( #12 )
Third Step Prayer
God, I offer myself to Thee — to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of life. May I do Thy will always!
 
Seventh Step Prayer
My Creator,  I am now willing that you should have all of me, good & bad.  I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you & my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here to do Your bidding.
 
Eleventh Step Prayer
Lord, make me a channel of thy peace--that where there is hatred, I may bring love--that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness--that where there is discord, I may bring harmony--that where there is error, I may bring truth--that where there is doubt, I may bring faith--that where there is despair, I may bring hope--that where there are shadows, I may bring light--that where there is sadness, I may bring joy.  Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted--to understand, than to be understood--to love, than to be loved.  For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.  It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.  It is by dying that one awakens to eternal life.
 
Serenity Prayer
GOD, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,  Courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.  Living ONE DAY AT A TIME; Enjoying one moment at a time;  Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.  Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it. Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;  That I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. 
 
St Francis Prayer

Lord, make me a channel of thy peace, that where there is hatred, I may bring love; that where there is wrong, I may bring the spirit of forgiveness; that where there is discord, I may bring harmony; that where there is error, I may bring truth; that where there is doubt, I may bring faith; that where there is despair, I may bring hope; that where there are shadows, I may bring light that where there is sadness, I may bring joy.
Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort than to be comforted; to understand, than to be understood; to love, than to be loved.  For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.  It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.
It is by dying that one awakens to Eternal Life.
 
For Jeff from a recovering Alcoholic over 30 years sober
 
God I gratefully await and accept your miracles for me that I may be a witness to your wonder
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 7:39 PM ( #13 )
Debbie, thank you for lighting a candle group for Jeff. I sent you an email with an update on how he is doing. he isn't in hospital now but you can write to him c/o my sister's address ;
Mr J Ashcroft
34 Pepys House
Kirkwell Place
Globe town
London E2
UK
love to you & your family, June
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 7:41 PM ( #14 )
Thank you so much for your kindness, love June xx
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 7:43 PM ( #15 )
Amen to that! I think I need help from my daughter but she isn't feeling too well at the moment, she has an upset tummy, sickness & diahorrea. Hoping it is only a 24/48 hour thing. Love June
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 7:50 PM ( #16 )
Thank you so very much for those wonderful prayers. My own son Jamie would know them for sure as he spent 18 months in rehab 15 years ago for his addiction to crack cocaine. It was a christian rehab & everything about the programme was based around Christ & my son also did the 12 steps.
God bless you for your sobriety, you are wonderful. Love June
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 7:59 PM ( #17 )
June
I have had a learning curve here just ask and someone with computer skills will help so happy to hear Jeff is out of hospital and about your son's treatment. Recovery is a journey Im just a bit further along...please share my web site  with any family members or interested others who may benefit.........I will say a prayer for your daughter to feel better
http://www.famrecov.com
Namaste
Barbara T
God I gratefully await and accept your miracles for me that I may be a witness to your wonder
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 8:26 PM ( #18 )
Barbara, thank you. I have learned quite a bit from my son's recovery. Although he went into treatment (1993) for the crack addiction he also used cannibis, took ecstacy(?), cocaine, & drank till he was sick. His recovery was a miracle &  3 years later I & my daughter who was 4 years old at the time gave our lives to the Lord.It is without a doubt the most wonderful thing to happen to me.
It took my family; my sisters & their children a while to get their heads around our faith but they are all finding their own way now.
Although Jeff was never a fall down drunk or violent or aggressive I knew that he would be unable to carry on for much longer drinking the amounts that he was. I am amazed that he was always able to work. His illness came as a huge shock to his family who didn't realise he was an alcoholic.
I do believe that God has His hand on Jeff now & I hope & pray that he will use this second chance wisely. My son & I have tried to give constructive advice to my sister. All our family know that I chose not to drink alcohol or to have it in my house again for the sake of my son's continued recovery. It may be challenging for everyone now as Jeff is out of hospital & in the 'real' world. Jeff's  partner Taryn is also an alcoholic & he has moved back to the home they share but of course how practical will this be.
I can only keep all this in prayer & lay it at the foot of the cross.
My trust is in the Lord.
God bless you, love June
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RE: Jeff - 1/10/2009 11:04 PM ( #19 )
Overcoming an addiction is no easy feat! - the 12 Steps is truly the most complete treatment ever if it's accomplished at the core, the 12th Step, when there is somehow a miraculous intercesson or blessing by the Higher Power, i.e., Transcendence. Most, however, attain maintenance, the final stage in the stages of change for addictions on the rational level, if they persevere but are always prone to relapse, a fall from grace, esp. if they don't continue w/ supportive, recovery groups , AA/CA/NA, preferably w/ a sponsor, for instance, to maintain their sobriety.

Carl Jung, renowned psychiatrist, used to tell alcoholics in exasperation that he coudn't help them and to go have a religious experience. This, of course, was before the advent of AA. Today, fortunately, so much more can be accomplished and recovery is always possible along w/ hope & healing at the core...

 
Step 2 (for Addicts and Alcoholics in Recovery): I came to understand that my peronal beliefs about my Higher Power were unique and personal, which was the way it was meant to be. My Higher Power is the God of my understanding. This isn't a religious program; it is a spiritual program set up  in a way that everyone with his or her diverse beliefs can utilize. My Higher Power only wants the best for me. Now through the active process of Step 2, I was competent to release the binding grips of fear and insecurity that hindered my forward progress. 
 
Your belief in a Higher Power can be private, and it should be. Our members (A.A.) don't have to choose among our religion, or our search for recovery because we can have either. Always know that the Fellowship is a spiritual program that uses universal spiritual principles and practices for the foundation of our recovery. It has been proven, and it unquestionably works, I know from personal experience. If it wasn't for the 12 Step program, I would probably be dead, and for that I am everlastingly indebted.
 
When I completed working Step 1, I was in a state of total powerlessness. I couldn't surmount this disease (addiction) under my own power. I urgently needed a Higher Power to show me the way. After surrendering my will, I had to become willing to permit God to work His miracles in my life. I had undergone a 100% change in all aspects of my life. No longer did I have to rely on my own power to overcome the obstacles that recovery handed me. I began to "Let Go and Let God" take charge of my life. As I noticed and observed all of the miracles of recovery in others and in myself, my faith matured, my hope increased, and the knowledge essential to stay clean and serene was revealed.
 
In Step 2, we come to accept as true that God can convert us into spiritual beings, devoid of all apprehension, misery, and failure. Increasing spiritual expansion leads to enhanced awareness and clarification in our journey. The more we seek righteousness and clearness of mind, the greater our personal improvement. The routes to victory are countless with the help of our Higher Power showing us the way.
 
(Complete 12 Steps by Terry: Step 2 of 12 Steps at Recovey Life)

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