Special prayers are needed for all who live at my house, including me!
At present all is quiet, but for several hours it's been like a mad house with my Son having arguments, first with Chloe, then with me, and lastly with his girlfriend, this last one being very frightening for us all. I think they damaged each other's cars. How childish is that?
 
Is this man ever going to see how destructive his anger-at-everyone is? He is never wrong....everyone else is of course!!!
 I'm afraid he is going to make himself ill, and he's making everyone else ill.
 
Please will you light a candle in the group.
3C's
 
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Jude,
 
I am so sorry I really am to read this,I just hope he realises just what he
 
is destroying,you are so caring and loving ,but I guess anger does not
 
see this.
 
He will make himself ill as well as his loving family,I will light a candle for
 
healing.
 
 
Jude my thoughts are with you right now as I am sure your pain is so
 
raw.
 
Please take care too as you mean the world to us all.
 
Sandraxx
 
 

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Dear Jude,
 
I am so sorry I can't find the link to your candles.
 
I will light them in all if that's ok.
 
Do take care please,Sandraxxxx
 
ps keep Blackberry near you and listen to his purrsxxxx

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Thank you dear Sandra.
To find the link...click on the Bold 3C's in my first post here. (above)
 
Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Sorry Jude,

Thank you for guiding me in more ways than one.

Do take care ,snuggle up with your puddy cat.

love and concern ,Sandraxx
 
http://www.gratefulness.org/ecards/view.cfm?e=1013W3W5

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Thank you dear Sandra for the beautiful ecard. Perfect!
 
and stop saying SORRY.
 
I'm really going to bed now. all is quiet here.
 
Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Jude,
 
I'll be glad to light a candle for you and everyone else in your house! I am sorry you had such a bad day filled with arguments. Is it at all possible to just walk away from your son when he starts arguing and refuse to engage in an argument, nor be drawn into arguments with others? Exchanges tend to get louder and louder; sometimes it helps to respond very softly so that the other has to listen. It works with children, and it seems your son acts like one, at least at times.
 
I do hope Sunday will be a better day for you!
 
Much love and long distance hugs,
Edda 

Peace and joy!

A Candle lit for you and family: 
God Please give this kind, loving and compassionate mom the guidance and strength to help her son and family. Help her son to find Love Peace and JOy take anger

Hello dear Jude ,
I have lit a candle last night for you and your family.
I hope this Sunday day will be peacefull for you.
It is so hard when you have no peace in your own home.I think that our home 
should be the only peaceful place when we feel safe from all bad things that
are going on in outside world.But when it is not that way,it is very hard to live.
So,I will pray for peacefull days for you,your granddaughter and your son.

Hi dear Xanadue,
you and your family are in my thoughts every day.

with regards to all,
Buba,Goran's mom

P.S. to Sandra: you promissed me not to say again S word! There is no need for it,
                     we love that you are with us!

Thank you Xanadu. That was lovely! I have sent the link to my Son via email. He may ignore it, but I hope he watches it.
 
With Love, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Edda, I have come to the conclusion that, while he is like he is, there is no getting through to him, quiet or not, but I agree that exchanges do get louder and louder. I was trying to explain this to Chloe last night. One of us needs to back off. That is very hard when you are under attack for something you haven't done, but a different way has to be found.
The way I see it is, it's not me, it's not Chloe, it's not his girlfriend, it's not the house, it's not his job...it's him. This is not said in an unkind way. Sooner or later we all have to learn to take responsibility for our lives and stop blaming everything and everyone outside it.
Thank you for your wise words and for the candle. It all helps so much.
 
Dear Buba,
Thank you for your kind words and candles. Yes, when your home is a battleground it's not good!!
 
Today should be quiet as there will only be me and Chloe, and possibly my ex-husband doing the digging!
 
Blessings and Love to all, Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Jude . . .
I sent you a pm last night, but was not able to respond here until this morning.
I hope and pray that it is quieter at your beloved home today.
It sounds like perhaps it is from your last post.
Dear Jude . . . Edda is so right, that responding quietly rather than in a louder voice, does make a dramatic difference . . . I have tried it and it really does work, so I continue to work on making it 'come natural' for me.
Honestly, it is worth all the effort it takes,
especially that first time.
Breathe too . . . I know I say this alot but it is so helpful.
Please know that 'it too shall pass'
and that in the meantime
I hold you close in my heart
with much love for you . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

ps. to Xanadue . . .
It is good to hear from you again . . .
Thank you for the wisdom of your words.
We all get so caught up in our lives
that we need to be reminded of this sometimes . . .
with love to you . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Dear Jude,
 
Still holding you close,love and warmth ,Sandraxxxx










Buba one word and 5 letters for you ,I know Jude will smile when she see's this  too ....

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Hi Jude
Sorry that you are having such a difficult time with things of late. Prayers of peace and harmony for you and yours.
Namaste
Glensy x

Jude, I'm so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I was hoping rthat things would get better for you by now.  I do know how you feel as it has been sort of like that in our house the last few weeks except different circumstances. My mother-in-law is the one coming over and causing the problems.  I think that things have hopefully settled down for at least awhile but who knows? Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope by now things have settled down. I will light a candle for you and everyone in your house. Sending you my love. Love Always

ORIGINAL: buttington

Thank you Xanadu. That was lovely! I have sent the link to my Son via email. He may ignore it, but I hope he watches it.

With Love, Jude

Dear Buttington,
reminds me of the horse and the fish story:  you can lead a horse to water, can't make em drink it, or you can teach to fish and feed a mutitude ongoing....  So I pray he will have an open heart and ears for the video song.  I just don't know that it is enough to change ones' being, it takes a life altering, emotional ripping to change an outlook on life.  I remember 9-11 everyone stopped, thought what if it was me or my family, and for a while they focused on whats most important, but as time went on people got back into their routine and it seems that complacency settles back in an they are warded off as if that won't happen, i have used 9-11 as a focus point and in the rush or the anger or the ____________ situation I really do always try to remember that and take an extra breathe, and figure out if it is in our control.  I can say that I try so hard each day as I listen to coworker or customers and what is so troubling to them, to give them just a token of outlook without giving a sermon, and I apologize if this is a sermon, it just hurts I guess because I don't have anymore chances and I don't want him to feel the regret or guilt of not being able to take back angry hurting words.  I try to tell my girls 9 & 13 when they say the things sisters say to each other what if those are your last words?? and is it really all that significant to get that upset over ____________
Which I guess it all goes back to what my father always has said, one day you'll learn, it may be to late- but you will learn it the hard way.  My oldest son now its so funny when he tells me things with all that anger and emotion and frustration, and I just keep saying I am listening, I can't tell you how to feel, he always tells me, this is what you would have said and has it word for word, and I say you are now an adult to make choices.  If he really asks I give him some perspective as to how I look at it now reminding him that I have some time and I also have to think about the rest of the family I am accountable too, so I just can't quit a job, or fly off, or move or give up paying bills or the list goes on and on....
I will just keep you and your son, granddaughter and girlfriend in my prayers .
WLAP
 
 
 

The Gift of Austin
http://www.totsites.com/tot/babyaustinajr
WLAP, Austin's mommy
http://www.musicalcreations.biz/samples.html

Dear bm, Hi, That is so thoughtful,  Thank you for keeping me and my family in your thoughts.  I have learned so much over this past week, I know he works in mysterious ways. I want to Thank You for sharing and caring. 
WLAP 
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Dear lilsparrow,
Thanking you for saying i have wisdom, I didn't think I got there yet, probably because my girls say i have no idea how it is and i couldn't have been their age, I was just put on this earth and skipped all that to be mom.
 
WLAP
 
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Dear Sandra67:
 
That is a GR8 picture, says 1000 words  Thanks for Posting such a lovely entry into Austin's guestbook
PS said a little prayer in church today when the Pastor was asking WIll you be ready if he comes like now?? My thoughts turned to Austin being able to show me who you are and the stories they could tell us so I just said a little prayer for you to keep taking it one day at a time to keep on keeping on. 
I hope you are finding blessings everyday
 
WLAP
 
THANK YOU LADIES FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR EACH OTHER AND ALWAYS HAVING SUCH BEAUTIFUL SENTIMENTS

The Gift of Austin
http://www.totsites.com/tot/babyaustinajr
WLAP, Austin's mommy
http://www.musicalcreations.biz/samples.html

Dearest Xanadue,
 
Thank you for thinking of us all,one can never have enough prayers bless you.
 
Lilltle Austin's  site is created with such love and he is such a gift to us all.
 
when I come onto this 'Family ' forum I feel very blessed as we all have so much
 
love and each day I m grateful to you all.
 
Thank you for the links you so kindly pm'd me ,I am trying to let the love of
 
Jesus flow through my veins without me blocking it....
 
Thank you again,take good care ,Sandraxxx

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love~and be loved in return♥♥  


 

Dear Xanadue,
I visited Austin's webpage again today and watched the video with all his lovely pictures on. Since then the song has been on my mind. what a lovely voice the singer has.
 
"I apologize if this is a sermon, it just hurts I guess because I don't have anymore chances and I don't want him to feel the regret or guilt of not being able to take back angry hurting words.  I try to tell my girls 9 & 13 when they say the things sisters say to each other what if those are your last words?? and is it really all that significant to get that upset over "
 
You never sound like a sermon  Your words are very wise and I intend keeping them in my mind as much as possible.
 
The day started with unpleasantness...it's becoming the norm here, and I don't like that at all. I didn't leave the central heating thermostat exactly on 15 degrees, (It's not working properly and 15 is more like 21 in reality) so I got a tirade before breakfast because of that!! It smacks of paranoia to me.
Going to the Forum and then on to Austin's page put it all into perspective for me.
 
"and is it really all that significant to get that upset over?"
 
Says it all.
 
Love and Blessings Xanadue, from Jude
 

Love is the only way

Oh dear Jude . . .
I am so sorry that this situation has not gotten any calmer after all . . .
I do think that Xanadue's words resonate
and can temper our responses to unpleasant situations . . .
Remember . . .
we are neither our egos,
nor our problems
in the end.
I send you much love,
and pray that sweet sleep refreshes not only you,
but those who trouble you
and may you both wake with love for one another
(that includes the 'other' too ).
sparrow

everything counts... ♥