ORIGINAL: buttington
Thank you Xanadu. That was lovely! I have sent the link to my Son via email. He may ignore it, but I hope he watches it.
With Love, Jude
Dear Buttington,
reminds me of the horse and the fish story: you can lead a horse to water, can't make em drink it, or you can teach to fish and feed a mutitude ongoing.... So I pray he will have an open heart and ears for the video song. I just don't know that it is enough to change ones' being, it takes a life altering, emotional ripping to change an outlook on life. I remember 9-11 everyone stopped, thought what if it was me or my family, and for a while they focused on whats most important, but as time went on people got back into their routine and it seems that complacency settles back in an they are warded off as if that won't happen, i have used 9-11 as a focus point and in the rush or the anger or the ____________ situation I really do always try to remember that and take an extra breathe, and figure out if it is in our control. I can say that I try so hard each day as I listen to coworker or customers and what is so troubling to them, to give them just a token of outlook without giving a sermon, and I apologize if this is a sermon, it just hurts I guess because I don't have anymore chances and I don't want him to feel the regret or guilt of not being able to take back angry hurting words. I try to tell my girls 9 & 13 when they say the things sisters say to each other what if those are your last words?? and is it really all that significant to get that upset over ____________
Which I guess it all goes back to what my father always has said, one day you'll learn, it may be to late- but you will learn it the hard way. My oldest son now its so funny when he tells me things with all that anger and emotion and frustration, and I just keep saying I am listening, I can't tell you how to feel, he always tells me, this is what you would have said and has it word for word, and I say you are now an adult to make choices. If he really asks I give him some perspective as to how I look at it now reminding him that I have some time and I also have to think about the rest of the family I am accountable too, so I just can't quit a job, or fly off, or move or give up paying bills or the list goes on and on....
I will just keep you and your son, granddaughter and girlfriend in my prayers .
WLAP