Hi Wordless,
I am reading the posts here.
I have to compare myself to others I feel superior to, to make myself feel good
I had many teachers who, in class, would talk about judging oneself against the accomplishments, of lack thereof, of others. They called it "being in competition". for some, it is a deeply ingrained pattern, taught at an early age, that has helped them to succeed in studies and career. But at some point hopefully we all realize that the patterns that we thought worked so well, are not what we want for our lives now.
In moving beyond "competition" type thinking, the first step is to figure it out. How can anyone release old learned behaviors or thoughts unless they are willing to go there. Compasssion ! I stand in honor of anyone who desires to look deeply at their patterns. I do not think any of us are pure angels, no matter what others may think. But if people are calling us that, then we must be doing something right, even with our hidden flaws.
Compassion for yourself. I do not think it makes you bad at all to be in judgement. Nor do I think it should clip those wings that have touched some people. The question you may want to ask yourself is where you learned it from. Where did you learn to compare yourself against others? Therefore to judge others, as well as yourself?
Compassion. Did someone teach you this behavor?
I stand impressed that you are willing to see this and desire to move beyond it. Well, maybe some of these words feel right to you. Take anything that makes sense. I only offer my observations of myself and others. You get to decide what fits for you self and circumstance. Except, I
do stand by recommending compassion for yourself !! Blessings, liliwings
No need to spend endless hours, days, weeks searching for the rainbow. Open your heart and your eyes to see and know you
are the rainbow you seek. Rejoyce in the beauty of the co-creation of you.