my mum

Hello
my name is sharon. I am presently supporting my mum through her cancer journey. To say the last 4.5 years has been a nightmare would be an understatement. She first had bowel cancer major surgery, then a second op after which she ended up in intensive care wasn't expected to survive but she pulled through. Then in august last year had another major op which she could have died during or after but she battled again and finished her second course of chemo and now were waiting for a ct scan to see where we go from here. I really do feel for everyone who has to go through these heartbreaking circumstances. My thoughts and prayers are with you all love sharon

Hello and welcome Sharon,
 
My heart goes out to you, I'm so very sorry about your mom,she has gone through so much. I know this is a very difficult time for both of you. You mother sounds like a fighter. Bless you for standing by her.
 
I send you much love and I will pray for your Mother and you to give you strength.  I will also go to the "ALL" candle group and light a candle for both of you.
 
Embrace your Mother dear Sharon she needs you and you need her. And that in its self is a true blessing from God.
 
I will keep you in prayers and thoughts.
God Bless,
Blue
 

Dear Sharon, welcome! Your mother has gone through so much and you with her. I am so sorry that you have to deal with so many adversities. My prayers are with you. I, too, will light a candle under "ALL". Perhaps you would like to start a candle group for your mother. The instructions are in the top threads.
Wishing you everything good,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Hi Hildegard, Bluemoon
thank you both for replying, its so nice to know that others care. I'm off to see mum this afternoon. She has her next scan on the 20th june then results on the 29th so it is an anxious time. I also have problems with my kidneys I presently have stage three kidney failure so that is a worry also. How are you two. I haven't managed to read all the messages om this forum so don't really know anything about people yet but it would be good to know what you are going through if you don't mind. Anyway take care of yourself and you are both in my thoughts and prayers love sharon

Hello
I'm feeling really low today. My dad came out of hospital yesturday after been sectioned under the mental health act for 4 weeks. Its bad enough that my mums ill and now they have sent him home far too soon as my mum feels. As she now has to cope with him everyday. He has had mental health problems all my life and I have never had a proper relationship with him, don't if its because of his illness or that he doesn't care. I am really worried about mum she's going through so much she has her scan next week and I'm stressing over what the results will be. I just don't think I can take it if its more bad news. I have enough health problems of my own with my kidneys. I'm sorry to sound like a real complainer but just having a really bad day today. How is everyone else. I hope you are all coping with your situations take care all love sharon

Adding my prayers for you Sharon. May God bring you peace. I know this is such a hard time right now. My heart goes out to you. I pray for your Mother to be healed as well as your Father and for you to find some peace and time to center yourself so you can be strong. God Bless.

Dear Sharon, I am so sorry that you are having one of those really bad days. It is easy to feel overwhelmed at certain times. Know, that we are all rooting for you. For me, the best way to manage is to take one day at a time and see what it brings. For myself I also believe that God gives me what I need when needed.
I'll keep you in my prayers and light a special candle for you today.
With much love,  Edda

Peace and joy!

Thank you both so much it means so much to me that even on our bleakest days so many people care. I am thinking about you both and will keep you in my prayers also love sharon

Sharon: I will go light a candle under group JESUS for you and your family. I hope all goes well. Please let us know if you start a group so we may go there to offer you further support.
 
As for me, I have three arteries which are completely clogged and am waiting to be legally declared disabled (difficult thing in Texas); I live with my mother who also has many health problems; but, I am probably the happiest I've ever been in my life -- and so is my mother -- since we feel God's presence in our lives.
 
May He bless you and yours.
 
Best regards,
Emil

I am saddened that you should carry such burdens. I am glad that you have a place to not feel alone. I am grateful to be here, now, sharing my love. 'One day at a time' is easier said than done. But once you start doing it, it becomes easier to do it than to say it. Trust in that.

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings

Dear Sharon,
I believe we are all here on earth to help each other. I have felt great comfort from all the love which is shared on this site and I hope you will too.
Love J

Love is the only way

Hi All
thank you all for replying to me it really means a lot. Saw mum yesturday she looks really ill and so tired at the moment don't know why whether its the stress of dad been home or the cancer I don't know, but I am scared and worried about her scan next week.
 
Emil arows1faith buttington
I will say a prayer for you all and ask fro strengh to get you through difficult times. You are all in my thoughts love sharon

Hi
mum has had her scan this morning, they have done chest abdomen and pelvis. We have to wait till next friday to see the oncologist to get the results. So many things going round in my head. I don't want her to die but at the same time I don't want her to go through anymore pain and suffering. She has gone through so much three major operations one when she ended up in intensive care and one where she could have died during the op. My heart is broken when I think of whats happened over the last four years. I find I cry everyday and just can't stop the tears from coming. I so want her to be well and to live for a long time yet but I don't think she will do. I need to go as I'm struggling to see through the tears love to you all sharon

Continuing to pray for you Sharon, may God grant you peace during these times.

Dear Sharon, My heart goes out to you. I can understand your ambivalence about how much more your mother needs to go through. And there is the uncertainty of the outcome.This is an awfully hard place to be. Just one thing - try to treasure every moment you have with her. Every little thing you do for her is an expression of love. You can be at peace that you have done all you can for her.
I'll keep you and her in my prayers.
Love and hugs,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Edda
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart I really do appreciate it. You are right about treasuring every moment I have with her. That is what I have been doing as I don't want to have to live with regret later. Mum knows that I have been there from day one and will be there til the end whenever that time is other people in my family can't say the same but they have to live with that. I know i have and will do everything I can for her. Yesturday was a bad day for her as she found out her cousin who has been battling cancer for two years died I think thats knocked her. As in the last 12 months three relatives and one friend has died and three of those from cancer, so it does really make you think about what the outcome will be for her. I try to stay strong in front of her but its not easy I nearly always break down when I leave her. Thanks you for your love and prayers it really does mean a lot. I also remember you and the people here in my prayers also love sharon
 
Star5776
Thank you so much for your love and prayers it really does help to get through these dark times. You are also in prayers love sharon

Dear Sharon,
 
I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time, I understand your pain, I have lost many loved ones to cancer.
Keep the faith, love,

yorkiemary - North of England

Love becomes a light, which shines from behind the eyes.

Dear Sharon:  I do so hope your mother's scan comes out okay.  Blessings to you for being there for her.  I wish  you peace.

Dear Sharon: I think that at this point in your life, you are in need of support -- whether it be from one person or more -- so I have taken the liberty to start a candle group for you. I named it SH. I have already gone there to pray and light candles for you.
 
All my best,
Emil

Praying this morning for your mum , you and your family. May you feel supported and loved during this journey. Namaste

Here is a link to Sharon's candle group  sh .
Edda

Peace and joy!

We are with you, Sharon.

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings

Sharon, I will light a candle for you. Your parents raised a beautiful daughter, they are lucku to have such a wonderful daughter in you. I pray for your parents and for God to give you strength. God bless.

With Hope each of us can have a life with Peace, Faith and Love.

i feel  so lost without my  mom  she  past away on feb 21 2007 .. she led a gr8 life she taught me well .. i  very proud to say  tht i was the baby of the family and my mom n i were  close together i lived with her she had a stroke 5 yrs ago and i am  the 1  tht took care of her .. missing her much 
 
R.I.P  mom  love you ... ur Angel  lise
 
july 24,1935 - feb 21,2007

Dear Angel,
Welcome to our  forum. I understand your loss, I too did the same with my mom..I was the youngest, I moved her in with me, and I took care of her for over ten years.  I know how much you miss her and feel so lost. You were both caretaker and daughter. The caretaker in you has lost an especially special person you were the one she depended on for all her needs her very survival, the daughter in you is missing the love of  her mother. It has been a while and still to this day I'm still lost with out her and I miss her so very much.
But with time and prayer I have come to realize just how wonderful it was that I was able to help this blessed mother in her last days. To go through it with her,she was NOT alone.  How blessed I was and didn't see it for a long time......
But now I realize God choose me to go on this journey with my mom, and I'm so happy I did. With time I began to feel so much more love from her, I embrace all that I learned about Gods will. He used my mom to teach me patients, love, kindness, understanding, compassion and the list goes on.
Yes I still miss my mom, I'm lost and yes I still cry for her.  But God will heal you in his time... embrace what you are going through right now don't loose it! He also chose you Angel, you are special. With time you will be able to remember and feel the love. You will be happy that she no longer struggles with life. She is well and watching over you. And there are times I think mom puts in a good word for me!! And believe me I need it!
So Angle the world will have color again, you will be able to remember with joy and laughter and how grateful you will be for memories.You have only to gain. It might help to think...What would your Mother want for you right now.Open yourself to feel her love come to you. A step at a time. And remember you have the right to grieve as long as it takes.
I will be thinking about you and will say prayers for you, I will light a candle for you and your mom in the Jesus group. If you should start a candle group for her please let us know. There are others here who by the grace of God are more then willing to help you, and keep you in prayers and candles.
I send you many hugs and much love Angel,
Blue

i have a candle  lite for her under lo  n i feel sooo  blessed  tht im the 1  tht took care of her but alot of ppl took advantage of her i tried to tell  her but u know moms  lol

love always,Angel O'Brien

Dear Angel, I, too, welcome you to the forum. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mother. Blue has already offered you some very good suggestions. My own mother died many years ago in my home country. I could only care for her while I had vacations and could travel back to Europe. I last talked to her on the phone on her 80th birthday, three days before she died. So many details remain in my memory so many years later!
I am sorry I can't find your candle group. Could you please spell out the name? You might want to check if not someone else is already using it.
With every good wish,
Edda

Peace and joy!

URRad is  the right 1

love always,Angel O'Brien

Sharon,
I have been off for quite a while and was just catching up on what's going on.  I am so sorry to read about your mom.  I know it feels like a real burden now, but no matter the outcome, you will have peace because you have stuck by your mom and done your best for her.  All of the effort now will turn into a blessed memory later.  You will be glad you were there.
Ellen

today  isnt a gd  day for me  nor was yesterday  i feel so down  n i dunno  why  thts all ive been doin 

love always,Angel O'Brien

Dear Angel, I am so sorry that you are having some bad days. There are times when the loss of your mother will hit you more intensely. Tears are good; let them flow and carry out your grief. There are many here who understand. No one can fill the empty place your mother left, but it is also a place where you can gather the good and happy memories. You honor your mother when you let them bring a smile to your face!
I'll light another candle for you and pray for peace and comfort,
Love,  Edda

Peace and joy!

Candle Group: SH

I'm still pulling for you, Sharon! And your mum, as well! I'm saddened to hear that the future ahead of you is so bleakly drawn. You do not carry this burden alone; we are here for you!

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings

Angels with mom's candle group: URRad

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings

ty all for lightin a candle  glad i found this site  its  helpin me a lil at a time

love always,Angel O'Brien

Hi to everyone
sorry I haven't been here a few days, my heads all over the place. I am feeling so so low today mums results tomorrow I can't begin to say how I'm feeling right now. I wasn't to bad when I saw her yesturday but when I was leaving it hit me the next time I see her we will get the results and know where her future lies. I am so scared and I can't stop crying at the moment. I need to somehow find my strong head by tomorrow when I meet her at the hospital and we see the oncologist. We have two options either the cancer gone back in remission like it did before or that the cancers cells in her body have already started growing back and the chemotherapy will have been a waste of time. Obvisouly we want the cancer to be in remission but we've been there before and it came back and took away any hope we had left, I just don't know what to think at the moment. Whatever happens tomorrow I will be there for mum however long this journey is. I feel honoured to be supporting her through this and I don't just do it because I should as her daughter but I do it because I really want to and to show her how much I care and love her even if I don't always say it. I feel after 4.5 years we are living on borrowed time as at any time she could be gone so the time I have with her now is precious. Its ironic we were not close when I was younger but when she first got ill we became a lot closer and now we are as close as we have ever been, we don't have fallouts like we used to have about really silly things life is just to short. I think when you have faced death as I have with mum three times it really does change your outlook on life and whats important. For me now nothing is more important than my mum. I have been there from day one and I will be there til the end. Anyway I'm rambling on so I will stop now and I will let you all know about mum as soon as I can. I hope everyone else is coping ok love to you all sharon
 
Angel
I was so so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. I hope you find some comfort from the lovely people on here you take care and I'm thinking about you sharon

Dearest Sharon, my heart goes out to you. The uncertainty of waiting can be more difficult than to have to deal with whatever the results are. I am sorry you feel so badly, but I am glad that you feel free to share your feelings with us. It is at least one safe outlet. You mention that your mother's illness has brought you closer to her than you were ever before. Perhaps this is the gift in this illness. You have a chance to care for her and won't have any regrets of never having had a close relationship with her. This day will go by and tomorrow you will know the answers. I pray for you to have all the strength and courage you need. My candles are burning for you!
With much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Sharon:
Albeit my heart is heavy for your burdens, the devil's advocate in me has found goodness in your situation.

I feel honoured to be supporting her through this and I don't just do it because I should as her daughter but I do it because I really want to and to show her how much I care and love her even if I don't always say it. I feel after 4.5 years we are living on borrowed time as at any time she could be gone so the time I have with her now is precious. Its ironic we were not close when I was younger but when she first got ill we became a lot closer and now we are as close as we have ever been, we don't have fallouts like we used to have about really silly things life is just to short.

You find it a blessing that the Creator has entrusted you with such a special and important task. You know what so many people forget; and you're reminded daily: Life is too short! The possibility of each moment being the last one is immediate to you; and you are not wasting it! Kudos to you!!! (I've a ridiculously cheesey smile plastered upon me face, now!)

I'm very much still praying for you and your mother. I'm also sending you some energy to reclaim some of the stillness that's been shaken out of you at this time.

We're here for you, hon. (And your mum, too! Have you shown her the candles, yet?)

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings

Hi all
thank you so much for your messages. It was a long night yesturday had about a hours sleep. met mum at the hospital and saw her oncologist. We had to wait about 45 mins for the scan result as it hadn't been reported. But I can tell you that the scans were clear no sign of any cancer. So she is offically back in remission. Obvisiouly the future is uncertain as the cancer could return at anytime, but I'm going to try and not dwell on that and just spend some quality time with her however long we have left, although I do find it hard to stay positive as we have been here before and its gone wrong, but hopefully this time she will stay in remission at least for some time. She has to see the oncologist in three months and then she will need a ct scan in six months which hopefully will still be clear. Thats my news for today, I hope maybe what my mums been through with this illness may give other people hope for there loved ones. I send my love to all sharon

Dear Sharon, I am delighted with your good news! You are right to dwell on the  "now" and hope for the future. We all tend to worry about the future, but it is really wasted energy since we are not in control of it. I have a hard time learning this lesson myself!
I'll continue for pray for you and your mother.
Wishing you and her everything good,
Love,  Edda

Peace and joy!

Dearest Sharon:
I'm so happy for you that the 'now' can be filled with relief and rest. I'll light a candle for you and mum with the hope that this 'reprieve' turns out to be permanent.

The Goddess is alive and there is magick afoot.
Arow Blackdragon
Valley of the Kings