My Brother

I have just had shocking news concerning my partially mentally disabled brother, who is 72, and is a victim of fraud to the tune of many thousands of pounds, and may possible lose his home.
The fraudster is a young man, and like an abuser, has asked my brother to keep everything secret.
My brother has been carrying this fear for a long time and has become suicidal. Fortunately my sister persuaded him to confide in her and now it's all in the hands of his bank and the police.
From my own research into financial abuse of the elderly I am shocked by the statistics for it. In Britain 52% of it is committed by sons and daughters for instance. This was a big shock to me who's own son is doing it to me in a small way. But I'm not as vulnerable as my brother who trusted this person, (I trusted my son) and my heart goes out to him despite the fact that he was so foolish.
Please light a candle for him. One of his names is Maurice so I will use that. He is very frightened now of a revenge attack because he has broken the secret. J
 

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Dear Judith, as if you had not trouble enough! I am so sorry to hear how your brother has been exploited. Elder abuse does not make the news as often as other kinds of abuse, but it is a sad reality not only in the U.K.!
I'll keep your brother in my prayers and light a candle for him. Since a group name can only be five letters, exactly what name did you give your group?
Keeping you in my heart and prayers,
Edda

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Dear Judith,
It saddens my heart to hear of your brothers plight  It brings me almost to the point of anger when i hear of someone taking advantage of an Innocent soul.  Please do not think of your brother as foolish we may never know why he did this.For me I just simply think it is our need as humans to want and need to trust and in these times it is very hard to do. I my self have trusted many times and have been disappointed. As you said more now then ever he needs understanding and prayers.
I will pray for Maurice that he will have a positive out come and that god will take his fear away.  I will also pray that the police will apprehend this individual and put him where he belongs. I too will light candles for Maurice.
Be strong for him Judith. I will keep you in my thoughts. Take care.
God Bless you 
Bluemoon 

Dear Edda,
I have just found out about the five letters thing! so it is Mauri.
 
Thank you for caring. I and my 2 sisters are still reeling. J

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Dear Bluemoon,
Yes, I agree with you. My brother has a pure heart and people do take advantage of him.
But I believe it is still better to trust. Mother Theresa would say "trust anyway." We just need to sharpen our intuition antenna.
 
Bless you.  J

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Dear J: I will keep your brother in my prayers and I hope all will go smoothly for him henceforth.
 
Best regards,
Emil

Hi everyone,
 
Just a small update on my Brother. After a wobbly start when the police seemed to dismiss the issue because it involved credit cards which my Brother had been very foolish with, they have now been to interview him properly and the other person is going to be accused of Internet Fraud, which is a start.
I think they realize how vulnerable my Brother is and not quite like you and I, who, if we had done the same thing would rightly be told we 'asked for it.'
 
So I'm now asking for your prayers for Maurice, and for my Sister who is having to bear the weight of it all, and also that the outcome will be a good one.  J

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Dear Judith:
 
I will be glad to continue supporting your brother -- and now your sister -- with my candles and prayers.
 
I hope you have a blessed weekend.
 
With love,
Emil

Dearest Judith,
You got it! Prayers and candles for your Brother Maurice and your Sister. I pray God will intervene and bring a good out come for your family.
God Bless,
Blue

Dear Judith, I thought I had replied to your last post, but it may have gone to cyberspace! Of course, I will include your sister in my prayers. I hope it all gets sorted out and a just decision will be made.
Wishing you everything good,
Edda

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Just a small update about my Brother.
 
I don't think he will recover any of his lost money because he loaned his bank cards to the crook, but the house has been bought as an investment by someone working at his bank, and he is now renting it from them. It could be worse!!!!!
 
No news on the crook who stole from him. Presumably he will be accused of Internet fraud as he set up a phoney bank account that way in order to steal all my Brother's money. I think the bank shoud be thoroughly ashamed for letting it happen, as they obviously knew my Brother very well.
 
Now the worst is over my Brother has gone all secretive on us. He probably feels a bit of a fool now.
 
There's a lesson in there for all of us somewhere.      J

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Dear Jude,
 
Thank you for the update! I am glad the worst is over, even though the losses may never be retrieved. I can understand that your brother might feel foolish, but he is in lots of company. Ever so often we see a report on T.V. how highly educated, knowledgable people can fall for a fraudulent scheme and lose their money. It is truly sad that such crooks are out there and often not found. And even when they are found, there is no money for restitution.
I will keep your brother and all your family in my prayers.
 
Love,  Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear J.:  I'm so sorry for what happened to your brother.  People who do that kind of thing can be so seductive, anybody could be victimized.  But I hate to see someone so vulnerable be hurt.  I believe that "what goes around, comes around," sometimes I just wish I could be there to see it.
 
You and your brother are in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Lori

To truly listen is to perfect one's own virtue.

Dear J: I continue to pray for you, your brother, and all your family, that all may be resolved. I'm certainly happy that your brother has been able to stay in the house.
 
With love,
Emil

Adding my prayers for you brother and your entire family. May your faith and trust in people be restored.Amen

Im glad it turned out,that he didnt loose everything. At least he can stay in his house. Prayers that the culprit will be caught before he can do it to someone else...barb

Adding my prayers for your Brother, may God keep him safe and protected always. I thank God that he was able to stay in his home and I also pray for this person who did this. May God's love fill his heart and may he find healing and peace too. I pray what is right happens for him and that he not be allowed to do this again.

Thank you all so much for your prayers for my Brother. The power of prayer is often seen here.  Love J

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Update:
 
The crook who abused my Brother's trust is not in prison, but has had most of his property confiscated to pay his debts.
 
My Brother is starting to recover emotionally and financially, but has thrown up a new worry for us.
At first glance it sounds nice............he's fallen in love.
 
Bless him, he has never had a ralationship because of his learning difficulties etc., but really longs for companionship, and joined a singles group in his church. Apparently one of the women with whom he has struck up a friendship called him "sweetheart" and, although nothing has been said, he thinks she loves him and he's already planning the wedding.
 
He's always tried to 'buy' women's friendship by giving them presents and they always get tired of it and he gets hurt. The need for a wife is made worse by his churches teaching that he can only reach a high level in heaven if he is married. (makes me angry)
 
He's on cloud nine at the moment, and we've tried to gently warn him that she may only be being kind, but he won't hear of it. He is obviously so vulnerable.
 
I would be grateful for some candles lit for him under 'Son' which was our Dad's pet name for him. (Sonny Boy, after the song)
 
Love Jude

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Dear Jude, I am sorry that your brother continues to be of concern to you. He seems to be overly trusting and setting himself up for disappointments.
'll ligh a cande for him,

Love, Edda

Peace and joy!

I'm lighting a candle for him too, and hoping all turns out well.
 
Lori

To truly listen is to perfect one's own virtue.

Jude, keeping your brother in my prayers and lighting candles for him.
 
Marie

I'm asking you to light candles for my Brother who is in hospital having tests for a bowel blockage.
 
No more is known at the moment. The group is below, and should take you to the page.
 
Jude
 
GMF

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Dear Jude,
I have lit a candle  and my prayers have been sent up for your brother and his family and you. Take care of yourself and may God be your guide inall things.
 
Love,
 Diane

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What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
Love who You Are

Thank you Diane.
 
Love, Jude

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Hi,
Your Welcome!
Love,
Diane

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What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
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Dear Jude . . .
I am so sorry to hear that your brother is having problems.
I pray that the tests find nothing serious,
and will keep him in my thoughts and prayers
with much love . . .
sparrow
ps. A candle also burns both here and in my kitchen

everything counts... ♥

Dear Jude
I am sorry to hear about your brothers health problems. I hope that he won't be waiting too long for the test results and that they will show nothing serious
love sharon

Thank you dears.
 
Love, Jude

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Dear Jude,
 
I lit another candle for your brother! I hope you'll soon know more. Waiting and uncertainty are most difficult!
 
Love and prayers,
Edda

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I've just had an update on my Brother.Apparently he had some lesions from an appendix operation and has had a fairly large operation. He reacted badly to the anaesthetic, but seems to be out of danger.
No other news at present.
 
Thank you for your prayers and candles. It sounds as if he still needs them.
 
Jude

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Dear Jude,
 
Thank you for the update! I am glad your brother got through surgery. I hope and pray that he may make a good recovery.
I'll be lighting another candle for him.
 
Much love,
Edda

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Dear Jude,
I have lit a candle for your brother and I am sorry to hear about your brothers health problems,with late ,
I did not read this thread earlier because I did not have enough time but I will keep to pray for his health
and to light candles for him,hoping for the best outcome...

~with regards~
Buba,Goran's mom

Thank you dear Edda and Buba.
 
Love, Jude

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Dear Jude . . .
I think we all can benefit from prayers . . .
I continue to keep him, and you in mine
with much love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Ditto dear Sparrow,
 
thank you.
 
Love, Jude

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Dear Jude,
 
Its good to hear that his operation was a success.
I hope his recovery goes well.
 
I will keep him in my prayers.

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What a gift and connection builder!
Love and Gratitude,
Love who You Are

Jude, both you and your brother are in my praeyr.

with love...

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thank you Kriann
 
Jude

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My Brother is out of bed quite a bit now and walking about. Apparently he is very undernourished which suggests he may have been ill for some time and not told anyone.
 
The current thinking is, it may have been Ulcerative Colitis or Diverticulitis, but they aren't sure yet.
 
They will keep him in hospital until they are sure his health is improved enough to go home.
 
thank you for all your prayers,
 
Jude

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