Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed

Dearest Jude, Juliana, Sandra & Edda, thanks again for posting. It was good to come and see you post to me. I have to admit that when I came back in from having to run errands, taking Kayla to dance class, then going and seeing my grandfather I was sort of down. I left my grandfather crying as he looks so bad tonight. He has faught hard so many times. He has pulled through so much in the last few years. I can't tell you how many times that we thought that we had lost him.  He somehow pulls through. He is so tough. It is so hard though seeing him get so bad. Then we think that he has come through the worst.  Two weeks ago I was called and told that we needed to make the decision whether to put him on a ventilator or not. Luckily we never had to but the time is coming. I know it is. I have been fighting my family as they don't want him to be on the ventilator. I have talked to him about what he wants done as far as having a DNR. Right now he wants to be resessitated. My grandfather has had a hard life and he has not made the best choices to make but he is still my grandfather, so that being said I feel like I will fight till the very end. We are trying to get his affairs in order with his will and everything. It is sad to know that my uncles and aunt don't really have nothing to do with him. I can only picture me being in there and no one coming to see me. I can't do that to him. It has been very hard. The rehab place almost put him out the other day as he was not going to therepy and my father was like I don't know where he will go and I told my hubby I said " what does he mean?" That is his father! I told my hubby it would be hard to care for him here but if that means he is not going out on the street he will come here to live with us.  I am just scared that I can't take care of him like he needs it! I do hope somthing works out! I am trying to find out what options we have and to see that if he can't do the rehab anymore, if there is a nurse that can help come out to my house and take care of him some or something. Something has got to work out.I am fighting so much right now as I can't lose another family member ! My baby Kelsey was to be born Nov. 9 (that was my due date). This in itself is upsetting, I just can't handle losing my grandfather or anyone else. Please pray for my grandfather and my family as we are just having a hard time right now.
 
As far as me, I will try as hard as I can to try to rest when I can. It has been sort of hard to but I know that I can't go on like I have been or I will be back in the hopsital.  I have a good support team with you and my family and friends here. I have a hard time asking for help as I feel like that I should be the one keeping up with everything. Thanks for you love and support as it is very appreciated right now. Love Always, Joya
 

Dear Joya,
 
I certainly will keep your grandfather in my prayers in addition to you, of course!
Please, do ask for help! Do your children the favor of being a healthy mother. It takes a bit of humility to admit that one can't do everything, that one has to learn to say "No". I know because I hate to ask and don't like to let go of doing certain things, but the circumstances of my life have taught me to get over this false pride!
 
I'll light a candle for you and your grandfather!
 
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Thanks Edda!  I have learned to ask more than I used to. Being sick the last few months has taught me that I am not wonder woman! I guess though us parents think that we are suppose to act tough huh?

I guess though us parents think that we are suppose to act tough huh?

 
Here's one parent who doesn't think so.......me!
 
Dear Joya, it's as if you really can't hear us all saying, "if you don't look after yourself first, then you are not going to be able to look after anyone else!"
 
Children need to understand that parents are vulnerable too and need looking after sometimes.
 
With Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

I am fighting so much right now as I can't lose another family member

Dear Joya, I can understand that feeling very well,
because I am feeling the same,worrying about to lose my dear dad
who is sick and have strong pains...I can't stand to lose him ,cause in 3 years
I have lost 3 family members, very, very close to me ( my mom,my son and father in law )...
I am going to light a candle for you and your grandfather.
Take good care of yourself because you ARE NOT A WONDER WOMAN!
~with regards~
Buba,Goran's mom

Dear, dear Joya . . .
It was with much gladness of heart
that I saw you had been here and posted,
but I am disturbed by some of what you write.
We tell you always,
that you must take care of yourself,
and then,
the next thing we know,
you are in the hospital and very, very sick.
Now you have returned,
have not yet been restored to strength,
and are not only continuing to work too hard,
but considering taking on an even bigger burden.
Truly, I do not fault you for this,
but you must be reasonable in your expectations
of what you actually can and cannot do.
I know that you love your grandfather
and will not allow it to happen that he live on the street.
But surely,
you are not the only person who cares about his wellbeing?
Perhaps others in the family 'allow' you
to bear the brunt of the burdens
because you invite it . . .
truly, Joya dear,
I do not mean to criticize or cause you more pain,
but if you do not look after yourself
you will surely not be able to help your family . . .
making yourself a martyr to the cause
will save no one.
 
If you want to raise your children to be kind and caring human beings,
it is good to show them how to be kind and caring . . .
it is good to allow and encourage children to help.
It gives them the opportunity firsthand
to experience the true joy of unselfish giving.
If we do not instill generous values in our children,
they will grow up to be ungenerous adults.
It is a gift that you as a caring parent
can give them.
Who else will, if not you?
 
Please, dear Joya,
do not pay lipservice to our pleas.
Think on this seriously.
You do your children a disservice
by not enouraging them to participate in active love and responsibility . . .
I know you must feel that you are sparing them,
but in truth you are not.
Your children--
my children--our children
are the future.
We need to think seriously
of what we want to teach them . . .
what we want to arm them with
as they prepare to face the world on their own some day.
Please be well,
and allow those little hands to help.
It is perhaps one of the greatest things you can give them as a loving parent
with much love . . .
sparrow
 
 
 

everything counts... ♥

Dear Joya,
Please look after yourself and try and get some rest otherwise you will not be able to be there for anyone else
love sharon
 

Hi Joya, it's lovely to hear from you, I am so sorry that you are having such trying times at the moment. I can only echo what everone else is saying about needing to look after yourself - easier said than done sometimes! But please do take care of yourself.
Prayers of healing, strength and love for you, your grandfather and everyone whom you love.
Namaste
Glenys x

Dear Joya,

I am also praying for you and your family. Having also lost a baby through miscarriage I empathize with you. I pray you may be able to find comfort and strength in knowing that Kelsey is spiritually present to you like Theresa is to me. A candle is lit. (4joya). May it give you warmth!

Much Love,
Juliana

"Speak Peace in a World of Conflict" (M.B.Rosenberg)

Juliana, thanks for your post, candles and your prayers as this means so much to me and my family. It really does. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you and your Theresa. My heart goes out to each and every family who has lost baby or child far too soon. Please know that I really appreciate your love and support. I am lighting a candle for you and your Theresa in the all section. Love ALways, Joya