My friends

please could you pray for my friend Joy. 
 
5 days ago her husbnad was diagnosed as having cancer and that he had about three months to live...however 5 days later he died in his own home.  my friend Joy watchned and held him when he was pronounced to have died and she is very distraught because her and her hursband wertre a very close couple and he was only 42 as it is.  he also leaves behindd two teenage daughters who are still at school.
 
Please could you pray for Joy and her family.
 
Dancing Dolphin
 
*ps ive been trying to work out how to set up a cnadle group for my friends and cant work out how to do it.  if anyone knows how to do it please could you tell me.  thanks... 

Dear Eleanor,
I'm very sorry for your friend Joy. It must have been an awful shock.
I have started a candle group called 4Joy
 
4Joy
 
 
 
If you go to the top threads in the "Light a candle" Forum you will find instructions on how to start a candle group.
If you have any trouble do get back to me or Edda.
 
Love,
Jude
 
 
 
 
 

Love is the only way

Dear Eleanor,
 
I am so very sorry about the sudden death of your friend's husband! This certainly was a shock to her, especially since she had not even had time to deal with the news about his cancer.
 
I will light a candle in the group Jude has started for you!
 
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Thanks Jude for starting the group for me.  i will have a look about howto start a group myself in the future.
 
Thanks Edda.  i will tell my friend that people i know online are praying for her, and lighting candles as well.
 
I will be seeing her later today and i have been praying that our Lord will give me the words to see.  
 
with love
 
Dancing Dolphin 

I am so sorry to hear the news
of the sudden and terrible loss for your friend Joy
and her family,
dear Eleanor.
Five days is such a short time to prepare,
and I hope they are able to find comfort.
I light a candle and keep a prayer in my heart
for them
with much love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Eleanor, I want you to know I'm praying too. I'm adding a candle to Joy's group.
 
(hug)

i saw my friend today.  she keeps feeling like she didnt do enough to realise her husband was unwell, and is beating up herself about it.  she was crying alot and she sat there on a chair ans her head on my chest ans i was trying to soothe her by stroking her hair.  i just keep asking the Lord to give me the words to say from him.  and i have a good natter to God about my friend as he gives me the strength to just be there for Joy which i couldnt have handled otherwise.  Thank you for that God. 

Dear Eleanor,
I'm sure your friend is so glad to have someone like you who cares about her and I'm sure she knows you do your best to comfort her.
It's amazing where we do find the strength to be there for others sometimes.
 
With Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Eleanor,
 
Joy is fortunate to have you. Just be with her and let her cry and talk. You might reassure her that there is nothing she needs to feel guilty about. Such feelings are quite common and normal. It is always easy to have 20/20 hindvision!
 
I'll light another candle for joy!
 
Much love to you,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Eleanor . . .
Edda and Jude have said it so well . . .
Indeed
you are blessing to your friend Joy,
more than you know.
As you have experienced
in your own times of need,
there is much comfort and healing
in the warm embrace of someone who truly cares
withmuch love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Prayers of support and strength for Joy and her family. Prayers  of thanks for the gift and blessings of friendship 
Namaste
Glenys x

thanks everyone.
 
joy has been hiding away in her home not wanting to see anyone much except me.  but by the same token she doesnt like been there either because there are so mqny reminders of her other half there.  please Lord give Joy your peace and love right now.
 
amen.

Dear Eleanor,
These are hard days for your friend. I'm glad she will see you.
I will light a candle for her now.
 
Love,
Jude

Love is the only way

Dear Eleanor,
 
Joy is lucky to have you in her life. At least she can entrust you with her grief. Yes, her home is full of reminders. Would it be possible to take her for a walk for a change of surroundings? It might do her good!
 
I'll keep Joy in my prayers and light another candle for her!
 
Much love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Eleanor,
 
Speaking from my own experience, I`d like to tell you that your friend will need times all to herself; at the same time she will benefit greatly from your presence. I remember how I used to just sit quietly all by myself, simply being after the passing of my husband... Joy may slowly enter a state where she treasures all the tokens that remind her of the Beloved and the time she was given to be with him.  Once one can feel grateful for the (unmerited) gift of togetherness that one has received, grief becomes tolerable. I am going to light a candle for both of you.
 
With Love,
Juliana 

"Speak Peace in a World of Conflict" (M.B.Rosenberg)

Dear Eleanor . . .
Prayers continue for your friend, Joy.
It is good that she has a friend such as you,
and also, as Juliana says,
has time to treasure her memories
and begin to heal
with love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

i took eddas advice and we went to the boating lake near us, as there are alsorts of birds and parkland and my wheelchair fits on the buses now and so i can go with her wherever and whenever she wants to go out. 
 
we had a drink and i just let her talk.  at the moment she wants people to be with her alot, and we have alot of quiet time where i just hold her hand and brush her hair and braid it for her, as she finds people doing that are quite calming. 
 
she wants to cry alot but hte words never come out.  please continue to pray for her.  and please Lord may i been a gentle warm light to her  being there just as she wants me.  and help me to be able to have the right words, just what You want me to say.  amen.
 
dancing dolphin

Dear Eleanor,
If you ask...the right words will come from your heart. You are being such a good friend.
 
Blessings,
Jude

Love is the only way

It sounds,
dear Eleanor,
as if you are indeed
being guided . . .
you are being
just the friend she needs
with love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥

Dear Eleanor: I went and lit another candle in Joy's group tonight. As I lit the candle, I was sending up a prayer for Him to please watch over and bless her and her family. I'm praying and won't quit.
 
(hug for Joy)
(hugs for Joy's daughters)
 
I'm praying for you too. I'm glad to do it.
 
(hug for Eleanor)
 
--Kelly