Can You All Please Pray for Me

Dear Donna Marie,

It has taken me some time to read your story. I want to let you know that my heart goes out to you. It is so hurtful to realize one has been let down by people one trusted. I know it can hardly be of any comfort if I say: It happens to all of us in one way or another. Maybe when the time is right you will know what caused the change in members on that other website. You are here with us now, and I hope you will feel welcome and accepted. You are so right, it helps to put in words what one thinks and feels. Gratefulness teaches us to count our blessings - and this can truly change our lives. It is my experience that all the negative cannot outdo the goodness, the beauty, the love that surrounds us. On another thread of this site "Bernie" has posted this quote:

Twixt optimist and pessimist
The difference is droll:
The optimist sees the doughnut,
The pessimist, the hole.
 -  Mc L. Wilson, Optimist and Pessimist

Hopefully you will not consider it superficial if I say that we do have a choice of rather focusing on the positive than on the negative. One thing is for sure: people who cause trouble have issues themselves. May this be of comfort to you!

Blessings,
Juliana

"Speak Peace in a World of Conflict" (M.B.Rosenberg)

My question is what can I do to change it. Do I just stop trusting peopel all together?

 
Dear Donna,
No, don't stop trusting people. Keep taking a risk........
People are often unreasonable, illogical
                         and self-centred;
                         Forgive them anyway.
 
                         If you are kind, People may accuse you
                         of selfish, ulterior motives;
                         Be kind anyway.
 
                         If you are successful, you will win some
                         false friends and some true enemies;
                         Succeed anyway.
 
                          If you are honest and frank,
                          people may cheat you;
                          Be honest and frank anyway.
 
                          What you spend years building, someone
                          could destroy overnight;
                          Build anyway.
 
                          If you find serenity and happiness,
                          they may be jealous;
                          Be happy anyway.
 
                          The good you do today,
                          people will often forget tomorrow;
                          Do good anyway.
 
                          Give the world the best you have,
                          and it may never be enough;
                          Give the world the best you´ve got anyway.
 
                          You see, in the final analysis,
                          it is between you and God;
                          It was never between you and them anyway.
 
                          Words spoken by Mother Teresa!
 
I would say it's best for you to stay away from the forum you mention. Don't try to justify yourself because you don't need to. What's important is that you know who you are. When you do, it doesn't matter so much what others think of you.
 
I have a nephew who was adopted at 6 week of age after a rather bleak start, and I would say it has affected him very much, even though he was too young at the time to remember it. But he has worked through it and come out the other side a whole and loving man.
 
You have an opportunity to reinvent your life in the present and not dwell on the pain of the past. You don't need to 'try' to change anything. Intention is all, as they say. From today you can reinvent your new life....the new you.
 
I don't know how much counselling you have had, but maybe you still need some to help you now. The disappearing mind of your beloved "Sweet Momma" is bringing it all up into sharp focus because she was your one anchor, and without an anchor we can be "all at sea." Be kind to yourself. You deserve it.
 
With Love,
Jude
 
 

Love is the only way

Hi Donna,

I understand you.

It must be tough growing up as an adopted child, even when the parents who adopted you showered love on you. But then, there is a reason to cheer about in that, you were a God's child from birth itself whereas those like us have to shed our attachment to our parents before becoming God's child. Do not blame your birth mother because she herself was on the path towards God and hence was on the learning curve on how to care for her child. This is the reason for her shortcoming.


I know from my own experience of how loneliness can be a terrible thing, though yours might be far greater than mine. You can  view the lonely times as opportunities to be alone with God.


Regarding those who didn't appreciate you, reflect on this quote by Helen Keller...

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”


Reflect also on this Chinese wisdom quote...

"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours. If it does not, it never was."

And finally...do not go out of your way to forgive others. If you ignore them, that itself is forgiving them and protects you from getting hurt.

Welcome to the forum, Arvind!
 
Thank you for your heartfelt and wise words to Donna Marie!
 
I hope you will return and tell us more about yourself if you like!
 
With every good wish and love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

You can view the lonely times as opportunities to be alone with God.
 
Regarding those who didn't appreciate you, reflect on this quote by Helen Keller... “When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”

 
Thank you Arvind for your wise and heartfelt reply to Donna Marie. I like very much your quotes.
 
Welcome to the Forum. I hope you will visit again.
 
Blessings,
Jude

Love is the only way

Welcome to the forum from me, too, Arvind! I also appreciate your wise words and quotes and would like to hear more about you.

Blessings,
Juliana

"Speak Peace in a World of Conflict" (M.B.Rosenberg)

I too,
would like to welcome you to the forum,
dear Aravind . . .
and hope you will return often
and share your journey.
 
Thank you Jude,
for re-posting this insightful quote.
I remember you posted them
when I was a new member,
and the words have always stayed with me.
 
I hope,
dear Donna Marie,
that the words resonate with you
as they do me . . .
wherever you direct your energy
is where you will get results.
Also, as Juliana said,
"People who cause trouble have issues themselves."
Tnere is no need to get caught in their snares . . .
you can be above that.
Prayers continue for you
with love . . .
sparrow
 
 

everything counts... ♥

Thanks buttington, J1937 & lilsparrow for your warm welcome. This site is nice. :-)

Thank you all very much for your kind words and encouragement. Please know that I am not an ungrateful person. I am even grateful for th epain because I know that God has allowed it in order for me to persevere and on the otherside there will be joy.
I have been blessed in so many other areas of my life and I thank God that I am. Understand  and do focus on the positive, but sometimes it is hard when blindsided with deception. I can still be grateful and have pain.
Hopefully when I am able to catch my reath so to speak  I will be able to shake the dust off my feet and move on knowing that I gave it my best, that is all I could do.
I am just so grateful that my feet are firmly planted on the ground and I am pretty stable, because I can see how easiily  this type of thing can throw someone over the edge. Due to the nature of the site where a majority of those who post there in a last ditched effort to get help.
Thank you all again.
Blessings
Donna Marie

 ~The Joy of the Lord is my  strength~

I am just so grateful that my feet are firmly planted on the ground and I am pretty stable, because I can see how easiily this type of thing can throw someone over the edge.

 
I am just so grateful that it isn't doing that to you dear Donna. The people who have been so unpleasant have big problems and don't care what effect their unkindness has on others. You would do well not to waste any more of your precious energy on them.
 
Blessings,
Jude

Love is the only way

Im so sorry you are going threw this.Did you ask them what you did wrong?You said blocking you from what? I"m here if you want to talk.I dont judge people by what others say. So i will leave that up to you.And what site are you talking about?

Dear Donna Marie,

I am taking the time now to share an experience with you that I already meant to post this morning. Your story has brought it back to me.

I have a very good friend, who works as a nurse in an old people´s home. A couple of years ago she called me one day, to ask if I would be willing to go for a trip with her, an inmate of the old people´s home and her daughter, who had come from another continent. I agreed. The story I learned was this: The old woman had given her baby daughter for adoption and never seen her for many years. My friend knew how much the mother wanted to meet with her daughter and had arranged for her to come and see her for the first time. As the daughter spoke English only, I was asked to translate from German into English and vice versa. I will never forget that memorable outing. It was charged with deep emotions on either side. The daughter was a well-educated young woman of best manners; she had been brought up in a loving family and had one of her own at the time. The same could not be said of the mother, who must have suffered a lot during her childhood and youth. It must have been a strange experience for the young woman to become acquainted with her birth mother for the very first time. I was able to translate how the adoption had come about. The mother had not been able to keep her, since she had had severe mental and emotional issues; she had had to go for clinical treatment at the time. - When the two of them parted, I had the feeling that they were reconciled with each other. This was confirmed in a Christmas card which I later received.

My friend has told me that the old woman has been at peace since getting to see her daughter...

This is one of the stories of which I feel I was granted the grace to be in the right place at the right time.

With my best wishes and love,
Juliana     

"Speak Peace in a World of Conflict" (M.B.Rosenberg)

I looked up the site in question.And i didnt see anyone really putting you down.You collected way 2,000 .Maybe you just think they are turning against you.I would say you are very loved.Just give it time.People will respect you. I will light a candle for you.
 
 

I am EXTREMELY grateful for any help I have recieved any site regardless of what form it came in. Furthermore there is simply no way of knowing which site I am speaking of. My intentions are sincerely not to debate sites and forgive me if I appeared to endorse any sites. . I actually belong to a few online sites so it could very well be one of many.
My reason for needing prayer and encouragement is in dealing with  current hurt and rejection stemming from the past. It could have been any type of situation that could have triggered these past emotions and I refuse to give any person place, web site or thing enough power for my current pain. The situation is more or less interchangeable. In other words whether I lost a job, broke up with  a boyfriend,ect, these situation would cause the same feelings.
It is an issue of trust and feeling unworthy of being loved and low self esteem.
 
Thank you for all your words  and prayers  of encouragement.
Blessings
Donna Marie

 ~The Joy of the Lord is my  strength~

Hon you had a site listed at the bottom of your message.That said WISHUPONAHERO.COM .So thats where i went. I"M sorry if you took something the wrong way.I was just so sorry that things went bad sometimes.I dont no what sites you are on. I just went to the one that was posted on your forum message.Have a great evening.And i will be praying for you. And hopeing that things will get better for you.
 

Hon im so sorry things are going the way that they are.Im here if you wannt to talk.Im adopted also.And i know how it feels.I have 3 sisters and brothers that i havent met.And would give anything to. You are a great person i can tell by your messages on here.You are a great person to indure all that you are going threw.I dont have much.But i can help you a little if you need it.I dont have many friends either.

I refuse to give any person place, web site or thing enough power for my current pain.

 
My thoughts too Donna. You are worth more.
 
Blessings,
Jude

Love is the only way

Welcome to the forum, Marsha!
 
Thank you for your compassion for Donna Marie and your offer of support!
 
I hope you will tell us more about yourself and share with us your experience!
 
With every good wish and love,
Edda

Peace and joy!

Dear Donna . . .
You seem to have some wise insight into your pain.
This can truly help you sort out what is real and what is not.
Prayers continue for you
for a calm and peaceful healing heart
with love . . .
sparrow
 

everything counts... ♥

I too,
would like to welcome you to the forum
dear Marsha,
and hope you will return to visit often
with love . . .
sparrow

everything counts... ♥