So lost, So confused...years later.

Hello. My name is Heather, and I am a college student. You may be wondering why in the world I told you that. Well, let me explain. When I was in third grade, my best friend [Brittany] died. She was in second grade at the time. So young, so precious. I still cry over her, just as I am now. I miss her so much. I can only imagine how her family feels. She died of a brain aneurysm. It was very sudden and quick, though it was still painful.

I miss her dearly. I want her back. But I know that I cannot have her back. And that is hurting me. I know I am rambling, and I'm sorry, but I need to get this out of me. Everyone at home just smiles and hugs me. "It'll be okay." Or the dreaded words "I know how you feel..." No, they don't. They didn't lose a best friend in third grade to a brain aneurysm. I'm sorry. I'll quit rambling now.

I have lit my candle for her. I love her as a sister still after all these years.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Much appreciated.

Heather

Bless you sweetie and your angel ~*~ Brittany. May God watch over you both and help you to heal.

DREAM WITH YOUR HEART!!

Heather, thank you for sharing your grief. I am not going to tell you that I know how you feel. We all mourn our losses, but it is different for everyone. I don't know what your beliefs are. For myself, I believe that we are all going to meet again. In the meantime I think that those I love and have gone before me would tell me to go on with my life and live it to the fullest. Life is a gift to be celebrated. I am grateful for whatever time was given me with very precious friends. I still talk to them, some are nearer to me now than when they lived on another continent. I know they would not want me to continue to be sad but grateful. Yes, I do miss them.
Sometimes, when we remain too sad for a very long time, we may need some help in dealing with such a loss.
Perhaps talking on this site will help you.
I wish you peace, Edda

Peace and joy!

Hi Heather,

To lose someone you are so close to so suddenly can be very traumatic. If you did not have the time to fully grieve, if you did not have the space to go into the depths of your sorrow, then your wound can be a very present wound even though it may have happened many years ago.

Sometimes people think that children do not feel as deeply as adults, but I think that often it is the other way around, as children often haven't developed the sheer volume of defense mechanisms to protect themselves from the pain they feel. Maybe the people around you at that time felt they were protecting you, a child, from further pain by glossing over the event. Maybe the people around you did not feel comfortable with the topic of death.

Whatever the reason, there doesn't seem to have been any resolution within you. The good news is, you are now at a place in your life where you can give yourself and that beautiful child you were both the time and space to finally grieve, which is not the same as aimless sorrow. And there are always many things to grieve, not only the passing of one person - your world, your way of seeing that world, your innocence, your relationship with reality itself is all changed. Each one of these is a loss.

You don't have to do this alone. Perhaps one of the things you will want to consider is finding a grief counselor or organization that is committed to the grieving process.

You have already take a very important step to sharing your sorrow with others. Holding you in my prayers.

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Keeping the Dream

Dear Heather,
I am going to tell you I k now how you feel! I lost my sister at the age of 15 in 1985, and then lost my youngest son in 2003, he was only 17. The pain never goes away, and we will always miss them no matter what. Both my sister and my son were murdered. That word is the worst I have ever heard! "MURDERED" Neither one of the guys went to jail. I hold a lot of sadness, and a lot of anger., but it doesn't bring them back. Take care sweetie, I know it is hard, and there are no answers. just trust that the Lord knows what He is doing. and that we will be together again with them one day.

Dottie angle mom to Matt

Dear Heather, Blessings for you and your dear Angel ~*~ Brittany. Strength in your grief.

DREAM WITH YOUR HEART!!