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*Happy Face* -> Is This Wrong? (2/28/2008 1:11:30 AM)

My cousin and her husband have been separated for almost
a year now. But,I still consider him as a good friend.
He was always so nice to me whenever we greeted each
other. Would it be wrong if I still talked to him. I fear
my cousin will be angry if she found out that I still
did. Separation is like divorce,Right? I mean the two
former spouses don't ever maintain contact,Do they?



Hildegard -> RE: Is This Wrong? (2/28/2008 8:39:56 AM)

Dear Leanda, you are asking a delicate question to which you may receive different answers. Separation may be temporary or lead to divorce. One can't know how much communication there still is between the spouses. Basically, the problem is between them. You should not feel compelled to take sides. You might want to tell your cousin that you like them both and want to feel free to remain friendly with both. She may not like this and expect your loyalty. You then have to decide, but I would not remain in close contact, beyond social occasions, behind her back.  This is just what I think! Others may see things differently!

Much love,
Edda



buttington -> RE: Is This Wrong? (2/28/2008 1:27:04 PM)

I would agree totally with Edda here. I remember an occasion when one of my dearest friends gave a cheery wave to my ex-husband whilst visiting me. I was totally hurt and outraged that my friend was being nice to the man who had behaved abominably towards me.
At first she said that both of us were her friends, but when she thought about it more, she remembered how she had felt in the same position some years before with one of her close friends, and apologised to me.
From the distance of 10 years I don't have a problem, but at the time I was still raw and vulnerable.

So, I would agree that, if you want to remain friends with both parties it needs to be talked about.

Love Jude



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