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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/27/2008 12:11:15 AM   
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I am so lucky to have you all here for me. It does mean alot to me. I read everyone's kind and wonderful thoughts and believe me when I tell you that you do help me. I am finally able to thank God for the beautiful, wonderful and loving daughter that he gave me for 27 yrs. That was the most precious gift anyone could have got. I am trying to move on. But i won't be able to till this trail is over with and there is some kind of justice. Not that Justice will bring her back to me.But at least I know then I'll be able to deal with my pain and learn to take a step at a time. I just pray to God that this will happen really soon. To think about it lasting for yrs is horrbible. Just living it over and over again. But I will do what i have to Everyone tells me i am made of steel. That i am the strongest person they know. At one time I might have agreed with them.But not no more. I just try my best to deal with what I have to and try to stay strong for my Grandson. I would really like to share something that just poped up the other day. I was looking for a song for my daughter and this just pop up. It is beautiful.
   Mom Please Listen to Me
Mom,please listen to me as I take time to write. I see parents struggling daily their pain is such a fight.
All of us who have gone on and left the rest behind. We're ok, Mom, I promise Heaven is beautiful, and God is kind.  You used to tell me that one day God would call and take you home, You told me you'd make me strong so I would stand tall when alone. But things happen sometimes, Mom that does not go in our plans. I wasn't scared, Mom when God held out his hand.  I didn't want to leave you I didn't have time to say good bye. when the angels said,"Come with us" there wasn't time to question why. I've watched you daily,Mom it hurts to see you cry. I don't want you to be unhappy just because we didn't get to say good bye. Tell the others what I'm telling you so many parents need to know that earth was just a lay over we had another place to go. I know you miss me, Mom I knnow our heart was broken in two But God really needed me Because my earthly life was through. I'm always alongside you I smile and touch your hair, I whisper "Mom, I love you" You just can't see me there. I'm the one who gently touches you on your shoulder when your're sad. I'm happy now that you finally found God again, and are no longer mad. Tell the parents, Mom, For me that all of us are okay, God had plans for our lives when he called us home that day. I love you,Mom, I always will and remember I'm not far away We're goign to be together when God call out your name.
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I hope everyone that reads this, help's you. I know it sure did me.
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/27/2008 12:38:59 PM   
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I am praying that the trial does NOT drag on at all and that it ends very soon with a guilty verdict. Also i want you to know that whatever the justice system lacks for in delivering true justice, karma and fate takes care of it in turn. No matter what happens, somehow justice will be served. May you take comfort in knowing your daughter is always with you. What is her name? I am praying for you and wishing you peace and security minute by minute, hour by hour. Take it one second at a time. You're doing wonderful!
Always
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/27/2008 6:36:56 PM   
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Dear Debra, thank you for sharing this song with us. Yes, it is beautiful and says so many things we may hesitate to say.
I do hope the trial will not be drawn out. And it is OK not to feel strong, to feel vulnerable. Sometimes it is a burden, when others tell us how strong, etc. we are, meaning to affirm us. We may feel we have to live up to their expectations. I believe we are given the strength we need each day, one day at a time.
I keep you in my prayers,
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/27/2008 7:18:26 PM   
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Dear Debra,
That is a beautiful song, and I believe, as I'm sure you do, that it was your daughter speaking to you.

When a friend of mine lost her mother a few years ago, she was in the midst of grief when she heard a song on the radio about a mother's love for her child. It spoke to her too and helped her a lot.

I hope this is all over soon for you and you can move forward in your life.

Love, Jude

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/27/2008 8:54:40 PM   
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Dear Debbie, What a beautiful, special gift. There is no doubt that this is Kel's song to you and her very special message to you. What a wonderful message she has given you. Yes, you will still feel the pain of the lack of her physical presence, but how very powerfully she is present to you spiritually. May you be able to hold the words close to your heart and feel her very real presence saying them to you. Comforting peace and sustaining love to you always.

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/28/2008 4:49:36 AM   
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Dear Debbie,

Empath, Jude, Edda and Imenuff have expressed what I feel, too. What a comforting gift to receive this song! Let me just echo Edda`s statement that it is OK not to feel strong, to feel vulnerable. The greater our love, the more vulnerable we are. We may appear strong to others, and in fact in many respects we are, but the wound in our hearts is proof of our love. Let us treat it gently, so it can gradually heal.

Love and hugs,

Juliana
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/28/2008 1:25:04 PM   
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Dear Debra (((((debra)))) I can only express my deepest sympathy for such a horrible loss. My cousin was murdered also by a shot to his stomach close range and also I see the images even though I wasn't there. So in a sense I do understand a bit. It is a very horrible thing that was done to your daughter, yourself and your family. My heart aches for you and I will also light a candle for your family as I remember my dear cousin and the many I lost recently. Just know that God understands our pain. He also gave His only Son for us. So He does understand more than any one on earth, the pain you are feeling in the loss of your dear child. May God wrap his everlasting loving arms around you and bring you His peace and comfort in this. My love is flowing through the keys to you as I type this. God Bless. Love Carolken

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 5/30/2008 12:09:27 PM   
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Hello everyone, Debbie and all who have responded. I am praying for you all and you are all in my thoughts. Remember we are all connected through 2 of the most important things on Earth, our hearts and our compassion for each other. Hang in there all of you, as you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Debra I am hoping the trial will end soon and with the verdict we all know is right. I don't know how you deal everyday, but I can tell you that you've been chosen by the powers that be above to bear this grief because they likely know you are the type to fight back, and you did.
Best wishes to you all.
Always,
Empath
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 6/2/2008 12:49:00 AM   
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Debbie, Empath and all others,
I will continue to keep all of you in my prayers tonight and this week for the strength to be weak.

In weakness there can be found much strength and compassion for yourself during this terrible loss.

Please try to be kind to yourself during this time as much as you can.

I'd like to send you a fritellaria flower to brighten your day in a small way.

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 6/5/2008 11:53:16 PM   
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Flgirl,
Im also new to this forum. It seems impossible to know what the right words would be. Im very sorry for your loss. I have a friend who lossed both of his teenage twin sons in one year in different auto accidents. It's so hard to even comprehend. He and his wife went through two extremely hard times back to back. Somehow they managed to move ahead, but not without alot of heart break and anger. There is one thing only that I could possibly think of to help give you some peace. My friends loved this scripture. ( to be absent from the Body is to be present with the Lord). I beleive we will be with our loved ones again. We never truly perish, but live eternally with him.I hope and pray that your heart ache will ease and find comfort in your faith. You will be in our prayers.
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 6/7/2008 7:25:36 PM   
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My love to you Debbie from downunder. There's nothing I can do to help you except to say that you are in my thoughts and that I care. xxxooo

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 6/7/2008 8:10:24 PM   
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Welcome to the forum, Margaret! Thank you for your compassion. I hope you will visit often and share with us your wisdom and experience.

Wishing you everything good,
Edda

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 6/10/2008 1:22:01 AM   
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Lamby,
Thanks for joining in the discussion here.

I appreciate the way you can share your caring with Debbie.

I'd like to send you a welcome flower.

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/24/2008 11:58:22 PM   
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I just wanted to check in with everyone and let them know I am still thinking about each and every single one of you. Your kind words and your thoughts. I so do appreciate each and every single one you.  We are still going through pre-trial hearing. It is ruff but I finally realized that I have to be strong to be there for my daughter. I am the one she would want to stand up for her and stand by her. that is exactly what I am doing. I wish I could say that things are even alittle bit easier.But that would not be true. I am still living in this nightmare and can't seem to get out of it. Not even close. I do what I have to do. To try to stay strong for my family and my grandson. But  there are times I just feel like I want this pain  to stop. just make it stop. You know I use to be so scared of dying. not no more.  It would be a blessing knowing that I will be able to see my beautiful daughter again and no one can ever take her away from me again. Our Promise to each other will be for ever this time. When that day comes I hope I have a smile on my face. cause it will be one joyful day. To walk the streets of Heaven with my beautiful daughter. No more pain. I pray that I can hold on till I have my grandson raised and make sure he is ok. Then i pray that God will deside that it is time to stop my pain and put a smile back on my face. Let me join my daughter. You know I have so much anger inside of me for what has happen and I about hated everything and everyone. I was so wrong. Cause every single one of you are loved I mean I really do love you all. God blessed me when he sent me to all of you. You have help me though alot of this. God bless you all and I love you with all my heart.
Love
Debbie  Kel's Mom
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/25/2008 2:52:20 AM   
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Dear Debbie,

Let me thank you  from the bottom of my heart for sharing your feelings and thoughts and keeping us updated. I have kept thinking of you and your grandson, praying that caring for him may give you strength, hope and peace. English not being my mother-tongue, I cannot make many words, but I want you to know of my love and compassion.

Many Blessings and hugs,
Juliana
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/25/2008 6:58:04 AM   
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Dear Debbie,
Thank you for coming back to share.

I can't say anything to make you feel better, but I do care, and it will get better a little at a time.

Love, Jude

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/25/2008 8:31:18 AM   
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Dear Debbie,

Thank you for entrusting us with your thoughts and feelings! Your honesty is moving! I strongly believe that you will have the strength to stand up for your daughter, and to care for your grandson, her gift to you, one day at a time. And do remember that your daughter is so very close to you even now!

I keep you in my heart and prayers,
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/26/2008 2:40:34 PM   
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I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. I have to say I don't know what your going through but I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope God can give you the comfort you need that only He can. You coming to the forum is the best thing you could probably do right now. Just know that we are here for you anytime you need to talk.
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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 8/26/2008 5:48:37 PM   
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Dear Dear Debbie(((((((())))))))
 
My heart and soul goes out to you it really does.I can never say I know how you feel.I just want you to know your Daughter is in a place where she will never be hurt again never.
She left behind so many wonderful people .Her little boy will grow up to know just how special his Mummy is , through you.Even though at times you want to be with your daughter you have to hold on I promise you one day you will see light at the end of this very very long tunnel.The loss of a child is heart breaking and it's a fragile road both you and I walk now.Take my hand and all who offer you help as you are so special to so many people you really are.
One day this evil person will be locked up and even then this is too good for what has been taken away from you.
The love you have for your daughter will keep her safe and warm until you are reunited again.
 
I offer you support and warmth for many many long days ahead.
 
All my love Sandra xxxxxxxxxxxx
 

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RE: Loss of my daughter *Murdered* - 9/5/2008 4:59:31 PM   
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flgirl...........I feel your pain I lost my daughter she was killed she was 24 I have the nightmares and I can't sleep as well I know what your talking about. It's difficult because I have three other children she thanfully didn't have any may you find some peace
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