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Eric, my little brother - 7/14/2008 5:55:05 PM

Angelique_Delaplane

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I had your website from a Suicide Grief Forum. Ive been reading some of the posts and some candle comments. Thank you to have created this website to help us through the wandering times.

I lost my brother Eric, by his own hands, on February 12th, 2008. He was only 21. He had no history of depression.
He was the most grateful and joyful person Ive ever known. He truly was.
We were close, merely more as friends not as brother-sister. I died the day he left this world. Dealing with death is also the journey of life and we all grieve differently. But grieving from suicide has been the most terrible journey Ive been through.
On this message, I just wanted to thank you the creators of this site to have given me the chance to light a candle of Life and Love, and also to write about Eric. It does not ease the void he left, but It eases the wandering times.
To all, I also want to send all my gratefulness and some hope.

Angélique

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/14/2008 6:27:30 PM

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Dear Ange, I am so sorry about your brother Eric. I have no personal experience of losing someone to suicide, but one of my close friends lost her husband in this way, and I know how much she suffers because of it, so my heart goes out to you at this time.

Grief takes it's own time, so be patient with yourself. Do you have any access to grief counselling? I think there are organizations who offer support to families in your situation.

Do come back and talk some more. Many of us have found comfort and support from others on this website.

I also wish you hope.

Jude

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/14/2008 6:42:38 PM

Hildegard

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Welcome to the forum, Ange!

I am so very sorry for your loss of someone so close to you under such difficult circumstances. My heart goes out to you! Like Jude, I have not experienced this kind of loss, but I have friends who had to deal with suicide, one lost her teenage daughter, the other a brother. What makes this often especially difficult is the pain of not having been able to prevent this from happening.
I am glad you found this forum where you can feel free to share your feelings, thoughts and concerns and always find someone glad to listen to you.

Perhaps you would like to start a candle group for your brother. The instructions are in the top threads of the candle forum. In the meantime I will light a candle for him in the ALL group.

Wishing you comfort and peace,
Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/18/2008 3:26:09 AM

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Dear Angélique,

My heart goes out to you as I read of your grief. I will light a candle for you, praying for the peace and wisdom you are hoping for. I trust they will reach you in due time. Meanwhile "One day at a time" may comfort you!

Love,
Juliana
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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/20/2008 9:08:30 PM

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Suicide is such an agonizing ordeal for loved ones to accept; my youngest sib suicided at 27, ODd. She was not well, though, suffered so much from mental illness & drugs. It is so difficult to swallow when we see those we most want to help deteriorate before our very eyes. And, of course, when it's sudden, unexpected, at an early age, it's devastating, so hard to comprehend, endure.

Now, working w/ people who're highly disordered and often suicidal it's always difficult because there for the grace of God it could be any one of us who could go off the deep end. The best & most comforting thing is to pray & call upon God that his eternal soul may be at peace, resting in solace, & neverending relief from any anguish.

All souls evolve spiritually and those who depart from physical life are only in another dimension which we, too, will all eventually enter. And as we are all evolving and growing spiritually, we're on this same spiritual journey fulfilling God's divine plan whatever He's chosen for each and everyone of us. It's generally not at all easy to figure out what our role or mission is; however, as we unravel this mystery called Life we may gradually discover the underlying meaning & purpose that's ours to live through for better or worse.

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/21/2008 11:21:52 PM

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Dear Angelique,
I am now 53 years old and on here primarily to get strength about my baby grandson but your topic got to me. I understand what you are going through. When I was 15 years old (it was Christmas) my daddy decided he could not go on and took his life. I wish I could help you because I know your journey will not be easy. My brother Donnie just last Sept the 8th went to sleep one night and never woke up. It was not by his own hand but it hurts just the same. I, like you were very close to my sibling and am still struggling with this in a huge way. Your brother Eric was so young and I know you are just broken inside. Honestly I do not know how to tell you it will get better... it just does. I can now "make" myself not cry but it's a struggle. Even after 10 months. I would do anything to help you right now...I am hurting all over just for you. I don't know if you believe in prayer but mine are with you. Time is the only thing that will help and how do we speed up time? I wish I knew that answer.
Jenny

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/21/2008 11:48:19 PM

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Dear Jenny, thank you for sharing so generously your experience with losses in your life. My heart goes out to you as you mourn your brother. Your words express your feelings so well and touch me deeply.

I just read about your little grandson's deafness.
Perhaps it would help to start candle groups for your brother and grandson. The instructions are in the top threads of the Candle Forum.

I'll keep you in my prayers and will light a candle for you in the ALL group.
Wishing you comfort and peace,
Much love,
Edda

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/22/2008 6:37:22 AM

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Dear Jenny,
You have just discovered that we are all linked. I am so sorry that you are carrying so much grief. I know you probably get fed-up with it, but don't always stop yourself from crying. Tears unshed just get stored up and have to come out somehow.
Sharing your feelings is very therapeutic and we are very willing to share with you.

Candles will be lit for you and your brother, father and grandson.

Blessings, Jude

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/26/2008 8:59:09 PM

Angelique_Delaplane

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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR COMPASSION AND HELP.
I ve been on vacations, and jus logged in, hence the delay of my reply.
All my healings, I am also very much thinking of you all.
THANK YOU.

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/27/2008 7:24:14 PM

Angelique_Delaplane

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I again what to thank you all for your support and compassion.
I didnt have time enoug to write a more developped message yesterday, so Iam correcting this right now.

Id like to emphazize that as sucide beaverment is such a different grief, there are many good books - let me know here for some book recommandation if you are interested- and avery niece suicide forum grief has also greatly helped.
Reading a lot about beaverement and loss has helped so much.
Ive lit up a candle to to honor the wounded victims and their families.

Take care all, and thank you again for your words of concern and support.

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Pour Eric: Http://a-mon-frerot.skyrock.com

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/27/2008 9:43:53 PM

Hildegard

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You are most welcome, Ange!
Thank you for offering to provide information to those interested or in need, and sharing with us what has been of help to you.

Wishing you comfort and peace,
Much love,
Edda

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/28/2008 10:51:34 AM

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Dear Ange
I am so sorry to read of the loss of your brother Eric to suicide
love sharon

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 7/28/2008 10:54:38 AM

sharon

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Dear Jenny
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother also
love sharon

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RE: Eric, my little brother - 8/18/2008 2:13:49 PM

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Ange, my heart goes out to you and the others who have blogged on who have lost love ones due to suicide. I will pray that God will comfort ya'll in the only way He can.

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