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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/29/2007 7:03:42 PM

jeni

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first i would like to welcome you here, it is a great place, mAy i call you sherri? thank you for your prayers for latrena. it is the first of the month tomorrow and once again she didn't make it to me. only God can help her now. May God bless you and give you His Grace.

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/31/2007 3:22:06 PM

jeni

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my family here at gratefulness, although latrena didn't do well this month either, something happen in my life, something else i was praying for , was answered. What this showed me and made me realize is that God does answer prayers but not in our time his. In this situation i had to back off and stick to my guns. This is what i have to do with latrena, God made it clear to me. I have to stop helping her out finacially when she messes up. so now i am asking for your prayers for me to be able to be strong so that i don't continue to enable her as i have done in the past. love to all

jen

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/31/2007 3:44:46 PM

Hildegard

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Dear Jen, yes, God does answer prayers but not when and in the way we sometimes like. I am glad you had something good happening. Letting go is very difficult; the older you get the more you have to do it and it doesn't get much easier. You are right in not enabling Latrena by rescuing her financially. She may have to really feel the pain of her addiction. It is not always easy to find the balance between supporting someone appropriately and not getting overly invested in them. It hurts, since compassion really means suffering with someone. Most of us like to do something rather than be a presence as needed, which is really more difficult. You have no reason to feel guilty about anything. You have been a good and faithful friend who has done the best you knew and know now.
Wishing you peace,
Love, Edda

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/31/2007 4:05:51 PM

Marie M.

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Jeni. Hello. I am sorry you are going through this with Latrena. From personal experience it does hurt to hold back and not enable someone financially when they are caught up in situations that may not be healthy for them. Even though you love and care about them and want them to prosper at a personal level. In time she may realize why you did it. But at the same time remember you are not contributing to the self destructive behaviors which validates your true intentions as her friend. My prayers are with you both.

Seneca's Mom
Marie

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/31/2007 5:33:20 PM

Lynn

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Hi Jen, You know you both are always in my prayers and I will pray extra hard for you two tomorrow. My phone is fixed...so far, but now I can't find your number. lol Take care. Love ya, Lynn

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 3/31/2007 6:19:58 PM

jeni

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thanks all, this is so hard for me, i hope i can really do it because i am a sap

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/5/2007 5:02:47 AM

Emil

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Jeni: My prayers are with Latrena. It is indeed a good friend who goes out seeking prayers as you do!

God bless you both.

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/7/2007 12:55:36 PM

jeni

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i just want to take the time to wish everyone a wonderful Easter.

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/7/2007 1:58:26 PM

Hildegard

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Thank you, Jen! And a blessed and joyful Easter to you!
My thanks also for your candle!

Love, Edda

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/7/2007 4:24:12 PM

cats

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i will pray for her

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/10/2007 8:58:33 PM

jeni

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To my gratefulness family as always thank you for your support and prayers especially when i just can't seem do it anymore. i am going away thursday for my grandmother's 99th birthday and my family has invited latrena. She was supposed to be here monday and hasn't gotten here yet . i hope she gets here because she needs a rest from the way she is living. in reality, i feel she won't come because it is her abuser's birthday as well and i am sure he will spend a great deal of money this weekend. anyway i am going totry to enjoy this trip. i am going to light candles tomorrow for everyone and then resume on monday. love to all

jennifer

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/10/2007 10:19:08 PM

Hildegard

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Dear Jen, enjoy your visit with your grandmother. Don't give Latrena the power to spoil it. Whatever she does is her choice. Your family's invitation is a very generous offer. Thank you for lighting candles. I wish you a great time.
Love, Edda

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/17/2007 9:45:42 PM

jeni

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well this time i am writing to tell you latrena made it to the trip down south and was very helpful to me. i am not going to say that there weren't any stressful times because there were a few but the fact that she came is showing that the prayers are working. She still has so much more she needs to do and be honest about. thank you all for the prayers and support. love to all my gratefulness family and may God bless you all

jen

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/17/2007 9:49:25 PM

Hildegard

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Jen, I am happy for you!
Love, Edda

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/17/2007 11:30:14 PM

Marie M.

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Jeni I am so glad Latrena went with you. She does value your friendship. My prayers are still with both you. The power of prayer can do things never imagined.

Seneca's Mom
Marie

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/22/2007 8:08:48 AM

jeni

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Good morning and God bless each and everyone of you. i just would like to take this time to thank everyone here who has prayed for jennifer and myself. it has been a struggle and i am still working at this but i am trying to change. The last few weeks i have been enlightened in many ways and i know it was because of all of your prayers.

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/22/2007 9:02:56 AM

Hildegard

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Thank you, Jen! My heart and my prayers stay with you and Latrena!
Love, Edda

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Peace and joy!

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/22/2007 7:03:24 PM

Lynn

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Latrena...that was you that left the last msg wasn't it. How are you?? Honey, we have all been praying for you, know that you have tons of support here and lots of love coming your way. YOU CAN DO THIS. Believe in yourself sweetie. Many good things in life await you, especially that new grandbaby. Be an example for her. Show her the light and the way out of this. Love you both. xxoo

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/22/2007 9:34:01 PM

Hildegard

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Thank you, Latrena, for coming back to the forum. You and Jen have been in my prayers all along and candles have been burning. I wish you all the best on your journey, difficult as it will be.
Love, Edda

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RE: MY ADDICTED FRIEND - 4/23/2007 12:14:20 AM

Marie M.

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Latrena, I am glad you are here. We are all supporting you in prayers. Leave it up to Our Lord and pray for His help. He is here for you always. You are one of His children.

God Bless You
Seneca's Mom
Marie

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