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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/25/2007 11:58:18 PM   
Hildegard

 

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Status: offline 		Dear Wendy, I am glad I can give you just a little comfort. Believe me, God is with you in the darkest hours even if you cannot feel it. Faith does not prevent one from getting depressed! God cries with you! Please, seek help for it. God usually helps us through others, friends, pastors, therapists, support groups (there are some for families of addicts). Perhaps you could talk to your pastor or minister, even if you don't belong to any faith community they are there to help.
I keep you in my heart,
Love,  Edda

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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 12:06:15 AM   
Emil

 

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Status: offline 		Dear Wendy: Sometimes when we feel really down, we tend to question God, our faith, and even the sincerity of our loved ones and fellow human beings. That has happened to me to some extent, and I have heard it mentioned that it happens to everyone. Did it not happen to Jesus when he said, "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" Matthew 27:46. On a spiritual level, I would say, "Hand it to God. Pray that he help you and show you the way, and hang on to your faith: tie it down and don't let it go."

On a different plane, that of a mother and wife, you might have to make some decisions, especially if your children are being exposed to arguments and generally troubling scenes. I am not implying you file for a divorce since I'm not much in favor of it, but you must look out for the safety of your children, and your own.

If you think you can, without causing major problems, tell Melvin to drop me an email. I have had experiences with drugs. Although I basically only smoked marijuana, I had friends who delved deeper into the culture. I might be able to help. And, if nothing else, I'll continue to pray for you and your children, and your husband.

With love,
Emil
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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 8:15:00 AM   
Faith

 

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Status: offline 		Hello, I had though about everything already, he doesn't do it everyday, and I believe is because we are together all the time, we work together, we go shopping together, he don't carry any money or have access to the bank account for a long time,  he had try to get better, for a long time, he had followed all the steps to avoid the problem but nothing helps, we belong to a beutiful church, we have bible study here in our home every friday, he even belong to the church's softball team, he takes terapist on saturday to deal with his problems, I do my best to try to be the best wife and mother I could be, but nothing works, out of the blues he just go and come back high, without any reason, motive, excuse, for example today was our daughter's graduation, it was a really big day since our baby is going to high school next year, he was with us all morning but later in the afternoon, I saw him a bit mad, for no reason, them he just told me that he was goin to take a walk, and came back a few hours later this way.
it hurst so much, I want to trust him, I want things to be right, I pray so much, so much and I know deep in my heart that god has a beautiful plan, but I am afraid that in the waiting this situation will impact our children in a future.
when he felts I then get into a depression state, that is really hard to hide from my kids, I don't want to eat, or do the things I usually do and easyly cry.
I don't know what to do, should I separate of him for a while? what about if he gets worst and them I will feel guilty because I left him, when he needed me.
I don't talk to my pastor because, I am really ashame, it is so embarazed.
please tell me that there is a way and I will see the light at the end of this tunel.
I appreciate so much what you all do.
I don't talk about my problems with anybody, when I feel like this, I don't even pick up the phone or talk to anybody for days.
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart
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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 8:31:47 AM   
Star5776

 

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Status: offline 		May God's grace shine down upon you and may your heart be filled with peace. I pray for you and your husband's healing. For love and light to shine around you both. I pray for your faith and strength during this time. May Angels wipe away your tears and lift you up.
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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 9:05:19 AM   
Hildegard

 

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Status: offline 		Dear Wendy, reading your post tells me how hard you try. There are some things that occur to me. You are NOT responsible for your husband's behavior. Also, it seems you get all bottled up in not talking to anybody you can trust. You don't need to feel embarrassed, many people deal with similar problems. There is NOTHING your pastor has not heard before. Your husband goes for therapy, but YOU need help to learn how best to deal with your siutation. I am glad that this forum is an escape valve for you, but it cannot be enough. Please, think about this.
Much love,  Edda

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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 9:22:41 AM   
Vicky

 

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Status: offline 		Faith, You have to trust in God. Drugs are horrible and tear families apart. Your husband is a different man when he uses drugs. Do not let the drugs ruin your family. You must be strong and protect your children from the drugs. You need help and you can't do this alone. We are here for you, but even tho you are trying to shield your children from this all.... believe me they know what is going on and they need your strength, and nurturing. Please contact someone. Check the phone book, I am sure there is free help available for your family : contact social services, Catholic Social Services, Salvation Army, or your local priest, pastor or rabbi.  God will guide you.  I will pray for you & light a candle for you. Please note: you might have to leave your husband so that he will be forced to get the help he needs to save his family from the drugs! But, please, please get help for you & your children. God bless you 

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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 9:37:03 AM   
Vicky

 

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I just checked out your webpage. You are an inspiration! Your webpage is beautiful. You have gorgeous children. God has blessed you. Please see a therapist for you & you wonderful children. Do not try to shield them from what their father is doing. Maybe if he realizes how he is hurting them & you he will get help. You can't do this alone. You derserve better!! You are a STRONG woman & great mother!!  Take one day at a time.
I will pray for you!
Vicky

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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/26/2007 4:15:40 PM   
DSH

 

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Status: offline 		Hi,
My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I understand a lot about your situation.  My late husband was an alcoholic and for years we treated his alcoholism until we found out he actually had a mental illness.  He was diagnosed in a rehab center.  He fought so hard for years fighting an addiction that was disguising itself as alcholism. Most times people will self medicate with drugs or alcohol when actually they are ill.  Try to get him to a Doctor.  Not a therapist or socialworker but a physician that treats mental illness and they will check for mental illness.  And remember, no matter how much you love someone, only they can make themselves better.  Treat yourself with love and care becasue that will get your through the scary and lonely times and will get your kids through it too.  What you are going through is terrifying, I've been there.  But remember, it's their addiction/illness. 

My husband passed a year ago and it's taken a long time for me to realize that not even love can save a person that doesn't want to be saved.  Love yourself and take care of yourself because your children need you!!  And try to convince him to get to a doctor.  Any hospital will take him in the ER if he says he is depressed and they will get him help.

Hope this helps....My prayers are with you.

DSH
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RE: Please pray for my Hudsband - 6/27/2007 11:04:35 PM   
Emil

 

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Status: offline 		Dear Wendy: Like Edda, I think there's nothing your pastor hasn't heard before. I think you need to speak to someone who can step in and help you and your children. And, if you are so embarrassed that you don't want to talk to your pastor, go to another church and talk to that church's pastor -- go to a church 20 miles away, for instance. Being a Catholic, when I was young and troubled, I would pull in to the nearest church and ask to speak to a priest; and I found the visits to be very helpful.

My best,
Emil
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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/28/2007 12:15:56 AM   
Bluemoon

 

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Status: offline 		Wendy,
I have read all your post, my heart goes out to you. Have faith and do not give up heart. We are all with you in thought and prayers. Will light a candle for you. Sending you love and many hugs. Take care Wendy.
God Bless you,
Blue
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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/28/2007 10:25:19 PM   
Faith

 

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Status: offline 		Thank you so much to all, I will go tomorrow and talk to a pastor.

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God didn't promise days without pain,
laughter without sorrow,
sun without rain, but
He did promise
strength for the day,
comfort for the tears,
and light for the way.
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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/28/2007 11:19:24 PM   
Hildegard

 

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Status: offline 		Dear Wendy, good for you! I'll be thinking of you!
Love and prayers,  Edda

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/29/2007 3:22:45 AM   
Emil

 

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Status: offline 		My prayers for a good outcome are with you, Wendy.

My best,
Emil
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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/30/2007 9:38:43 AM   
Lynn

 

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Status: offline 		Prayers for strength for both you and your husband.

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 6/30/2007 2:18:45 PM   
Vicky

 

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Status: offline 		Wendy
I hope you went to see your pastor and that you are feeling better.
 
You have 3 beautiful children who need their Mommy. Take them to a park this weekend and enjoy the outdoors. Just a walk in the park does wonders for me. Sometimes you just need to get outside. The sunshine is good for you! I guarantee that it will make your children smile and then you will be SMILING!!
You might even LAUGH!!
 
I will light a candle for you!  

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 7/9/2007 10:36:17 AM   
Lynn

 

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 7/10/2007 9:30:53 AM   
Star5776

 

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Status: offline 		Continuing to pray for you Wendy and your husband.
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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 7/10/2007 11:44:53 PM   
Vicky

 

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Status: offline 		Hi Wendy
Just checking in to see how you are doing. I hope that everything is getting better for you.

Vicky

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 7/11/2007 1:45:19 PM   
Lynn

 

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Status: offline 		Prayers for strength and healing for you both. Love, Lynn

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RE: Please pray for my Husband - 7/13/2007 11:46:57 PM   
Faith

 

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Status: offline 		I am doing a lot better, he is attending a program twice per week and I believe thats helping.
Ladies what you all doing for me is priceless, I can say enough, I don't really have friend and the ones I have I don't tell my problems, what I do is that aislate from everyone so I don't have to tell lies that I am doing fine or nobody feels pity of me.
like I said before, my english is not perfect and hope that you understand me.
I pray everyday and Thank God for sending me friends like you, I had found answers and conford, in all my prayers are everyone of you.
big hugs


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God didn't promise days without pain,
laughter without sorrow,
sun without rain, but
He did promise
strength for the day,
comfort for the tears,
and light for the way.
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