Marie M.
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Hello Sharon. I am glad to see you are here. We missed you. Sharon, first of all please listen to what I would like to say. Trying to bring change about, you MUST stop hating yourself. You are a gift God has created, as unique as all of us here. Do not hate yourself, we don't feel that way towards you. For one day as a start look ONLY, at the positive things about yourself, try writing them down, look in the mirror and forgive yourself and try saying I am a good person, I am loved, I can offer things to others, knowledge, friendship and love.
Changing a mindset that has been there is not easy to change, but can make your life more fulfilling. You are a good person, an important person and you deserve to be happy. We all do.
This story had brought about a change for me. It had changed major thinking, giving me confidence.
I have always been quiet, shy you could say when I was younger. A few years ago, I had a job where I would talk to many people via phone, from many universities and government held companies. Talking to them was not a problem, but then a major convention was offered by the company, our customers were all coming to town. I knew I would not meet them, I was in the office, and they were meeting at a local hotel for the convention. After lunch, the president of the company I worked for came to me, and I asked her how the convention was going, her response was, "Marie they are asking where you are they want to meet you." I almost fell over, I could not do this. No way, 200+ directors of university departments and government employees. What would I say? UGH. I forgot to mention I had to go on stage and speak in front of 200+ people, UGH, in 1 hour without advance notice. I was not dressed right, too casual, my hair was wrong, I will stutter, I may faint. OK stop, I went to the restroom and thought it over, I looked and the mirror and said it is OK you will be fine, you are a good person. I went back to my desk and wrote a quick mini speech and thought, if you mess up or trip, laugh, it is ok. The meeting went good, nothing bad happened. But I had to change a mindset to get through, I was warmly welcomed and got a standing ovation with the company president at my side. Whew! I built up the situation in my mind it was going to be worse than it really was. I no longer talk myself down, I remember how wrong I was that time.
My point is: Sharon, we all have things going on in our life, but we can get through them and at one point be happy or try to be and have a fulfilling life despite obstacles.
Love yourself and believe God has a purpose for you. It is not easy to change patterns of thinking, but small, slow steps first. Please consider what I have said. God loves you and you can love yourself.
I only have good intentions, please believe that.
God Bless
Marie
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RE: my mum - 
Eventually your mind will start to believe it. After all, our minds believe everything we tell it. I'm not just saying this to keep you going.......IT'S TRUE. 
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