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RE: my mum - 6/22/2007 2:25:53 PM

Hildegard

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Here is a link to Sharon's candle group sh .
Edda

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RE: my mum - 6/22/2007 7:49:41 PM

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We are with you, Sharon.

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 10:20:02 AM

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Sharon, I will light a candle for you. Your parents raised a beautiful daughter, they are lucku to have such a wonderful daughter in you. I pray for your parents and for God to give you strength. God bless.

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 5:28:36 PM

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i feel so lost without my mom she past away on feb 21 2007 .. she led a gr8 life she taught me well .. i very proud to say tht i was the baby of the family and my mom n i were close together i lived with her she had a stroke 5 yrs ago and i am the 1 tht took care of her .. missing her much

R.I.P mom love you ... ur Angel lise

july 24,1935 - feb 21,2007

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 8:26:24 PM

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Dear Angel,
Welcome to our forum. I understand your loss, I too did the same with my mom..I was the youngest, I moved her in with me, and I took care of her for over ten years. I know how much you miss her and feel so lost. You were both caretaker and daughter. The caretaker in you has lost an especially special person you were the one she depended on for all her needs her very survival, the daughter in you is missing the love of her mother. It has been a while and still to this day I'm still lost with out her and I miss her so very much.
But with time and prayer I have come to realize just how wonderful it was that I was able to help this blessed mother in her last days. To go through it with her,she was NOT alone. How blessed I was and didn't see it for a long time......
But now I realize God choose me to go on this journey with my mom, and I'm so happy I did. With time I began to feel so much more love from her, I embrace all that I learned about Gods will. He used my mom to teach me patients, love, kindness, understanding, compassion and the list goes on.
Yes I still miss my mom, I'm lost and yes I still cry for her. But God will heal you in his time... embrace what you are going through right now don't loose it! He also chose you Angel, you are special. With time you will be able to remember and feel the love. You will be happy that she no longer struggles with life. She is well and watching over you. And there are times I think mom puts in a good word for me!! And believe me I need it!
So Angle the world will have color again, you will be able to remember with joy and laughter and how grateful you will be for memories.You have only to gain. It might help to think...What would your Mother want for you right now.Open yourself to feel her love come to you. A step at a time. And remember you have the right to grieve as long as it takes.
I will be thinking about you and will say prayers for you, I will light a candle for you and your mom in the Jesus group. If you should start a candle group for her please let us know. There are others here who by the grace of God are more then willing to help you, and keep you in prayers and candles.
I send you many hugs and much love Angel,
Blue

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 8:44:48 PM

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i have a candle lite for her under lo n i feel sooo blessed tht im the 1 tht took care of her but alot of ppl took advantage of her i tried to tell her but u know moms lol

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 11:06:07 PM

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Dear Angel, I, too, welcome you to the forum. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved mother. Blue has already offered you some very good suggestions. My own mother died many years ago in my home country. I could only care for her while I had vacations and could travel back to Europe. I last talked to her on the phone on her 80th birthday, three days before she died. So many details remain in my memory so many years later!
I am sorry I can't find your candle group. Could you please spell out the name? You might want to check if not someone else is already using it.
With every good wish,
Edda

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RE: my mum - 6/24/2007 11:51:50 PM

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URRad is the right 1

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RE: my mum - 6/25/2007 12:21:12 AM

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Sharon,
I have been off for quite a while and was just catching up on what's going on. I am so sorry to read about your mom. I know it feels like a real burden now, but no matter the outcome, you will have peace because you have stuck by your mom and done your best for her. All of the effort now will turn into a blessed memory later. You will be glad you were there.
Ellen

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RE: my mum - 6/26/2007 1:42:48 PM

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today isnt a gd day for me nor was yesterday i feel so down n i dunno why

thts all ive been doin

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RE: my mum - 6/26/2007 2:02:31 PM

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Dear Angel, I am so sorry that you are having some bad days. There are times when the loss of your mother will hit you more intensely. Tears are good; let them flow and carry out your grief. There are many here who understand. No one can fill the empty place your mother left, but it is also a place where you can gather the good and happy memories. You honor your mother when you let them bring a smile to your face!
I'll light another candle for you and pray for peace and comfort,
Love, Edda

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RE: my mum - 6/26/2007 2:46:33 PM

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Candle Group: SH

I'm still pulling for you, Sharon! And your mum, as well! I'm saddened to hear that the future ahead of you is so bleakly drawn. You do not carry this burden alone; we are here for you!

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RE: my mum - 6/26/2007 2:54:50 PM

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Angels with mom's candle group: URRad

< Message edited by arows1faith -- 6/26/2007 5:27:22 PM >

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RE: my mum - 6/27/2007 6:33:00 PM

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ty all for lightin a candle glad i found this site its helpin me a lil at a time

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love always,Angel O'Brien

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RE: my mum - 6/28/2007 8:29:21 AM

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Hi to everyone
sorry I haven't been here a few days, my heads all over the place. I am feeling so so low today mums results tomorrow I can't begin to say how I'm feeling right now. I wasn't to bad when I saw her yesturday but when I was leaving it hit me the next time I see her we will get the results and know where her future lies. I am so scared and I can't stop crying at the moment. I need to somehow find my strong head by tomorrow when I meet her at the hospital and we see the oncologist. We have two options either the cancer gone back in remission like it did before or that the cancers cells in her body have already started growing back and the chemotherapy will have been a waste of time. Obvisouly we want the cancer to be in remission but we've been there before and it came back and took away any hope we had left, I just don't know what to think at the moment. Whatever happens tomorrow I will be there for mum however long this journey is. I feel honoured to be supporting her through this and I don't just do it because I should as her daughter but I do it because I really want to and to show her how much I care and love her even if I don't always say it. I feel after 4.5 years we are living on borrowed time as at any time she could be gone so the time I have with her now is precious. Its ironic we were not close when I was younger but when she first got ill we became a lot closer and now we are as close as we have ever been, we don't have fallouts like we used to have about really silly things life is just to short. I think when you have faced death as I have with mum three times it really does change your outlook on life and whats important. For me now nothing is more important than my mum. I have been there from day one and I will be there til the end. Anyway I'm rambling on so I will stop now and I will let you all know about mum as soon as I can. I hope everyone else is coping ok love to you all sharon

Angel
I was so so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. I hope you find some comfort from the lovely people on here you take care and I'm thinking about you sharon

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RE: my mum - 6/28/2007 11:14:58 AM

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Dearest Sharon, my heart goes out to you. The uncertainty of waiting can be more difficult than to have to deal with whatever the results are. I am sorry you feel so badly, but I am glad that you feel free to share your feelings with us. It is at least one safe outlet. You mention that your mother's illness has brought you closer to her than you were ever before. Perhaps this is the gift in this illness. You have a chance to care for her and won't have any regrets of never having had a close relationship with her. This day will go by and tomorrow you will know the answers. I pray for you to have all the strength and courage you need. My candles are burning for you!
With much love,
Edda

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RE: my mum - 6/28/2007 12:42:51 PM

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Sharon:
Albeit my heart is heavy for your burdens, the devil's advocate in me has found goodness in your situation.

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I feel honoured to be supporting her through this and I don't just do it because I should as her daughter but I do it because I really want to and to show her how much I care and love her even if I don't always say it. I feel after 4.5 years we are living on borrowed time as at any time she could be gone so the time I have with her now is precious. Its ironic we were not close when I was younger but when she first got ill we became a lot closer and now we are as close as we have ever been, we don't have fallouts like we used to have about really silly things life is just to short.

You find it a blessing that the Creator has entrusted you with such a special and important task. You know what so many people forget; and you're reminded daily: Life is too short! The possibility of each moment being the last one is immediate to you; and you are not wasting it! Kudos to you!!!

(I've a ridiculously cheesey smile plastered upon me face, now!

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I'm very much still praying for you and your mother. I'm also sending you some energy to reclaim some of the stillness that's been shaken out of you at this time.

We're here for you, hon. (And your mum, too! Have you shown her the candles, yet?)

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RE: my mum - 6/29/2007 9:20:44 AM

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Hi all
thank you so much for your messages. It was a long night yesturday had about a hours sleep. met mum at the hospital and saw her oncologist. We had to wait about 45 mins for the scan result as it hadn't been reported. But I can tell you that the scans were clear no sign of any cancer. So she is offically back in remission. Obvisiouly the future is uncertain as the cancer could return at anytime, but I'm going to try and not dwell on that and just spend some quality time with her however long we have left, although I do find it hard to stay positive as we have been here before and its gone wrong, but hopefully this time she will stay in remission at least for some time. She has to see the oncologist in three months and then she will need a ct scan in six months which hopefully will still be clear. Thats my news for today, I hope maybe what my mums been through with this illness may give other people hope for there loved ones. I send my love to all sharon

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RE: my mum - 6/29/2007 10:56:03 AM

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Dear Sharon, I am delighted with your good news! You are right to dwell on the "now" and hope for the future. We all tend to worry about the future, but it is really wasted energy since we are not in control of it. I have a hard time learning this lesson myself!
I'll continue for pray for you and your mother.
Wishing you and her everything good,
Love, Edda

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RE: my mum - 6/29/2007 12:41:29 PM

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Dearest Sharon:
I'm so happy for you that the 'now' can be filled with relief and rest. I'll light a candle for you and mum with the hope that this 'reprieve' turns out to be permanent.