mommacrystal
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Joined: 6/28/2007
From: Virginia
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Your words are so comforting to hear, I have tried talking with them but most of the time it seems as though they don't listen, having four kids I can imagine how hard it is to pay attn to someone on the phone with screaming kids in the background. And quite honestly in the past months I have lost a lot of sympathy and feeling for them and the reason is that my kids were there for the weekend and he had to work on that particular weekend and of course I thought nothing of their step mom keeping them, I have even made it known to my kids that if they loved her enough to call her mommy that I would not object, if she's that good to them then she deserves it. I see it as a true honor to have them say mommy to me, and their my kids, anyhow she put my, then six, oldest boy on the couch which again didn't bother me as kids need rules and consequences. What bothered me was the fact that she left him on the couch for two hours, and this admission came from her, not a rumor. He came home and I knew but pretended not to, I wanted his honest reaction, so like always I sat them down and asked if they had fun, did they try any new foods, my boy breaks down and cries, he says, 'Mommy I didn't do anything wrong, I promise, but she wouldn't let me up and I don't know why.'After half an hour of holding him close and telling him that mommy would ask her her finally calmed down enough for me to take the phone and go call. I went to the basement and my hubby kept the kids upstairs, I don't lose my temper or argue in front of my kids and I try not to do it at all. I was calm, thank God, I was calm. The excuse she gave was that HER kids were cleaning their rooms, she wouldn't get on the phone with me, maybe it was a blessing that she didn't. But I asked why she didn't put my daughter on the couch as well and got no reason so I made it clear that she was NOT to discipline either of my kids AT ALL. And on the weekends that he works they are both at his parents home, where I know they are safe no matter what. I am usually the neutral voice, the defuser of the situation and I find that I am not able to keep this up anymore. I am so mad when they come back and yet another problem has occured, but I still am maintaining some composure which is only by the grace of God. I don't want my kids to say mommy took us away from daddy and only God can help me with that as they no longer have a phone, it's scary to me. I am sending sunblock for my kids so I know they have it, this is a remedy to me and one less worry. She says her kids don't use sunblock, I replied well mine do. As long as I send it they use it but it's a whole host of reoccurring things that are making it so hard for me to be the neutral and nice mommy, still I am hanging on. Thank you all and thank you for the candles, your prayers are very much appreciated, pray for the safety of my babies while their there as they are now.
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