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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/8/2008 2:35:01 PM   
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Welcome to the forum, Penny! Thank you for this delightful video. My dial-up connection is slow, but I was able to see more than half of it and it made me smile! The children's questions show just how "real" God is to them! And they are not afraid to ask!

Wishing you everything good,
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/8/2008 6:51:09 PM   
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I would also like to welcome you to the forum.

We all have wisdom to share. You show it whenever you say or do just the thing that someone else needs at the time.


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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/8/2008 8:09:38 PM   
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Dear Penny, Welcome to the forum and please come back often. I read your opening line about not having any (ORIGINAL--my emphasis) "wisdom" to share and wondered how many of us have any real self-created wisdom to share. I am sure for most of us, our "wisdom" has come from reading other individuals' thoughts/stories that made sense to where we were at a particular moment, or "personal wisdom" came from the "school of hard knocks" joined with thoughts/stories/ of others and prayer. Please feel free to post here often. Each of us has little bits an pieces that we have learned from a whole different realm of individuals and backgrounds. What you share may provide some small little pieces for others. Thank you for sharing the video. It is priceless and definitely produces smiles at and gratitude for the total honesty of the little ones when writing to God. I appreciate your posting it.

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/9/2008 6:49:42 PM   
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About Listening

Lucy Doesn’t Listen
©2008 Celeste Billhartz

We manage to have dinner about every month or so. It is always such a pleasure to talk about our very different lives, her family, her car, her mother-in-law, her dog, my recent ---, her advice, her taxes, etc.
I love her, of course. Still, I drove home with an ache in my heart, making peace with our one-sided chat.

As I roam the back roads of aging, I want to spend more time with the listeners and less time with the interrupters. I really do. And, I am not seeking to educate them, one at a time. I want to discover the listeners, one at a time. I want to find the listeners.

I accept those who don’t know how to listen. I just … smile, and we move on to the topics they present. There is nothing else to do. I will meet Lucy next month and we will love seeing each other; and I will know, going into the restaurant, that I must do so without expectations … just … enjoy her, us.

I know she loves the “listener” part of me. She calls it my “smile” … but, it is my silence, my listening/loving she appreciates. She just doesn’t recognize that.

Listening is hard. I didn’t know how to do it, until I was trained to do it, as a volunteer taking phone calls on a suicide/crisis hot line. I am ever grateful for it.

Here’s a mini-test: While you read the paragraphs, above … did you “interrupt” me with your words/thoughts, “Well, you could/should tell her you need to finish what you’re saying.” Sigh …J

See, we just don’t know how to listen.

I don’t have a manual in front of me and I hesitate to tell you something that isn’t “by the book” … but, here are some nuggets of advice that might come in handy, sometime, when your friend just needs a good listener:
• When someone starts telling you something, just listen. Smile, nod, say, “Hmmm” or “Uh huh” or any other short comment that assures him/her that you are attending to the words.
• Your mind cannot hold two thoughts at the same time, so choose to listen to your friend, not to your interior mind-chatter. Focus on his/her words, face, eyes, voice, etc. This is harder than you think. Most of us never do it right. Practice. Try it out on the next phone call you get from a friend or family member. Just … listen.
• Do not change the subject from your friend’s topic to your topic, your thoughts, your advice, gripes, commiseration, solution, etc. This is so difficult because we are not trained to listen. We think we are being a good friend/mother/sister when we give advice, so we rush to tell our friend how we would handle the situation, or how a similar experience affected us, or what advice someone gave us that worked or didn’t work.

Being listened to, really having been heard, for as long as it takes to say it all, is the most peaceful feeling in the world! When you have been heard … whether or not you solve a problem … your energy is better, your heart is lighter, a quiet power fills your soul.

I want more listeners in my life And, I wish that for you – more people in your life who, truly, listen. What a gift of love.
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/9/2008 9:55:26 PM   
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Celeste,
Thanks for the great post on listening. It's a subject that we all need to work on. Thanks for the story.

I would like anyone to recommend a class or a group that teaches effective listening so I don't have to buy this t-shirt.

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/9/2008 10:02:33 PM   
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Thank you, Celeste, for sharing your thoughts on listening with us. It is a real skill, and there is always room for improvement. There is a small book I have found helpful, "The Good Listener" by James E.Sullivan (Ave Maria Press, Notre Dame, IN). It starts out with Helen Keller's story of desperately trying to make herself understood. It was her mother who was sensitive enought to be able to enter her world. "All genuine loving begins with this sensitive listening."

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/10/2008 9:15:27 PM   
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I was telling a good friend about my having found this wonderful web site and having posted two pieces. She reminded me that my "Just Enough" might fit, as well. So, here it is. Best, Celeste

Just Enough
©1999 Celeste Billhartz

How we hunger for things!
To have more than we need,
More than we can use up or wear out,
More than we can afford.
We need so few things to give us shelter and comfort,
Safe passage from here to there and back again.
We need ... enough.
Not so few things that we cannot share with others;
Not so many things that we become fearful of others,
Vulnerable to their jealousy and theft.
We need just enough things to treasure them
And to care for them ...
To use them all up ...
To let them go ...
We need to have lost just enough things to truly miss them ...
And then, one day, to feel aglow with desire for more!

How we hunger for power!
To have more than we need,
More than we can use up or wear out,
More than we can afford.
We need so little power to give us shelter and comfort,
Safe passage from here to there and back again.
We need ... enough.
Not so little power that we cannot share with others;
Not so much that we become fearful of others,
Vulnerable to their jealousy and theft.
We need just enough power to treasure it
And to care for it ...
To use it all up ...
To let it go ...
We need to have lost just enough power to truly miss it ...
And then, one day, to feel aglow with desire for more!

2 continued ... Just Enough ©1999 Celeste Billhartz

How we hunger for love!
To have more than we need,
More than we can use up or wear out,
More than we can afford.
We need so little love to give us shelter and comfort,
Safe passage from here to there and back again.
We need ... enough.
Not so little love that we cannot share with others;
Not so much that we become fearful of others,
Vulnerable to their jealousy and theft.
We need just enough love to treasure it
To care for it ...
To use it all up ...
To let it go ...
We need to have lost just enough love to truly miss it ...
And then, one day, to feel aglow with desire for more!

How we hunger for life!
To have more than we need,
More than we can use up or wear out,
More than we can afford.
We need so little life to give us shelter and comfort,
Safe passage from here to there and back again.
We need ... enough.
Not so little life that we cannot share with others;
Not so much that we become fearful of others,
Vulnerable to their jealousy and theft.
We need just enough life to treasure it
And to care for it ...
To use it all up ...
To let it go ...
We need to have lost just enough life to truly miss it ...
And then, one day, to feel aglow with desire for more!
....................
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/12/2008 12:33:06 AM   
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For any Mom Who Visits This Site (especially for you Jude since this has been a difficult MOM stretch for you).


Baby's conversation with God

A baby asked God, 'They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow, but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?' God said, 'Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you.'

The child further inquired, 'But tell me, here in heaven I don't have to do anything but sing and smile to be happy.' God said, 'Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you. And you will feel your angel's love and be very happy.'

Again the child asked, 'And how am I going to be able to understand when people talk to me if I don't kn ow the language?' God said, 'Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will teach you how to speak.'

'And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?' God said, 'Your angel will place your hands together and will teach you how to pray.'

'Who will protect me?' God said, 'Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life.'

'But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore.' God said, 'Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you.'

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, 'God, if I am to leave now, please tell me my angel's name.'

God said, 'You will simply call her, 'Mom.'

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/12/2008 3:46:36 PM   
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Thank you Betty, I don't think we ever stop needing our Mom.
I try to be a Mom to as many people as I can, although I wouldn't describe myself as very maternal really.

Lots of Love, Jude

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/13/2008 8:46:50 AM   
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All With Love
©2001 Celeste Billhartz

The carpenter, the potter, too
The one who sells new shoes to you
The woman with her comb and shears
The mother soothing hurts and fears

We must do it all with love, we must do it all with love
Everything before our eyes, every action tells our lives

Grandma snapped the beans with care
Auntie gently braided hair
Sister Mary Edna knew
She must love the child who's blue

We must do it all with love, we must do it all with love
Everything before our eyes, every action tells our lives

Chefs in their kitchens and farmers, too
The workers who manufacture glue (!)
All the singers in the Sunday choir
And the storyteller by the evening fire

We must do it all with love, we must do it all with love
Everything before our eyes, every action tells our lives
...............
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/16/2008 1:43:31 PM   
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Two Choices

At a fundraising dinner for a school that serves learning-disabled children, the father of one of the students delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended. After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he offered a question: 'When not interfered with by outside influences, everything nature does is done with perfection. Yet my son, Shay, cannot learn things as other children do. He cannot understand things as other children do. Where is the natural order of things in my son?'

The audience was stilled by the query.

The father continued. 'I believe that when a child like Shay, physically and mentally handicapped comes into the world, an opportunity to realize true human nature presents itself, and it comes in the way other people treat that child.'

Then he told the following story:

Shay and his father had walked past a park where some boys Shay knew were playing baseball. Shay asked, 'Do you think they'll let me play?'  Shay's father knew that most of the boys would not want someone like Shay on their team, but the father also understood that if his son were allowed to play, it would give him a much-needed sense of belonging and some confidence to be accepted by others in spite of his handicaps.

Shay's father approached one of the boys on the field and asked (not expecting much) if Shay could play. The boy looked around for guidance and said, 'We're losing by six runs and the game is in the eighth inning. I guess he can be on our team and we'll try to put him in to bat in the ninth inning.'

Shay struggled over to the team's bench and, with a broad smile, put on a team shirt. His Father watched with a small tear in his eye and warmth in his heart. The boys saw the father's joy at his son being accepted. In the bottom of the eighth inning, Shay's team scored a few runs but was still behind by three. In the top of the ninth inning, Shay put on a glove and played in the right field. Even though no hits came his way, he was obviously ecstatic just to be in the game and on the field, grinning from ear to ear as his father waved to him from the stands. In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shay's team scored again. Now, with two outs and the bases loaded, the potential winning run was on base and Shay was scheduled to be next at bat.


At this juncture, do they let Shay bat and give away their chance to win the game? Surprisingly, Shay was given the bat. Everyone knew that a hit was all but impossible because Shay didn't even know how to hold the bat properly, much less connect with the ball.

However, as Shay stepped up to the plate, the pitcher, recognizing that the other team was putting winning aside for this moment in Shay's life, moved in a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shay could at least make contact. The first pitch came and Shay swung clumsily and missed. The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly towards Shay. As the pitch came in, Shay swung at the ball and hit a slow ground ball right back to the pitcher.

The game would now be over. The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could have easily thrown the ball to the first baseman. Shay would have been out and that would have been the end of the game.

Instead, the pitcher threw the ball right over the first baseman's head, out of reach of all team mates. Everyone from the stands and both teams started yelling, 'Shay, run to first! Run to first!' Never in his life had Shay ever run that far, but he made it to first base. He scampered down the baseline, wide-eyed and startled.

Everyone yelled, 'Run to second, run to second!' Catching his breath, Shay awkwardly ran towards second, gleaming and struggling to make it to the base. By the time Shay rounded towards second base, the right fielder had the ball ... the smallest guy on their team who now had his first chance to be the hero for his team. He could have thrown the ball to the second-baseman for the tag, but he understood the pitcher's intentions so he, too, intentionally threw the ball high and far over the third-baseman's head. Shay ran toward third base deliriously as the runners ahead of him circled the bases toward home.

All were screaming, 'Shay, Shay, Shay, all the Way Shay'

Shay reached third base because the opposing shortstop ran to help him by turning him in the direction of third base, and shouted, 'Run to third! Shay, run to third!'

As Shay rounded third, the boys from both teams, and the spectators, were on their feet screaming, 'Shay, run home! Run home!' Shay ran to home, stepped on the plate, and was cheered as the hero who hit the grand slam and won the game for his team.

'That day', said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, 'the boys from both teams helped bring a piece of true love and humanity into this world'.

Shay didn't make it to another summer. He died that winter, having never forgotten being the hero and making his father so happy, and coming home and seeing his Mother tearfully embrace her little hero of the day!

A wise man once said every society is judged by how it treats it's least fortunate amongst them.
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/18/2008 12:16:03 AM   
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Pray.

Take time to rest and enjoy the company of friends.











Value, honor and enjoy your family, no matter how strange they seem to you.





Help widows and orphans.



Whatever your lot in life, remember God is in control.







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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/18/2008 4:28:35 PM   
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Looking for something else, I found these lyrics to a Cliff Richard song.

"The Love in you and the Love in me is all that matters.
 
All the rest is just vanity that time will shatter.
 
The only treasure in the life we live is in the measure of the Love we give.
 
All that matters in the end will be, the Love in you and the Love in me.
 
It's all that matters, Love is the treasure.
 
It's all a question of priority.

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/18/2008 5:48:36 PM   
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Let me share a story and a poem with which M. B. Rosenberg ends his main book on Non-Violent Communication.

His uncle told him about his grandmother, who at the time of the depression had on many occasions fed and sheltered people in need. Rosenberg knew all of these stories, except the one about Jesus.
One night a poor man came to his grandmother´s backdoor to ask for some food. He had a beard and wild, scraggly black hair. His clothes were ragged and he wore a cross around his neck, fashioned out of branches, tied with a piece of rope. His grandmother invited him into the kitchen, and while he was eating, she asked what his name was. "My name is Jesus". - "Do you have a last name?" - "I am Jesus, the Lord". Her English wasn´t too good; so when an uncle came into the kitchen, she introduced the stranger as "Mr.Thelord". When he said that he didn´t have a home, she asked him whether he would like to stay with them. He stayed seven years.

Rosenberg wrote this poem in honor of his grandmother, who, he says, spoke and lived naturally the language of non-violent communication.

One day a man named Jesus
came around to my grandmother´s door.
He asked for a little food,
she gave him more.
He said he was
Jesus, the Lord,
she didn´t check him out with Rome.
He stayed for several years
as many did without a home.
It was in her Jewish way
she taught me what Jesus had to say.
In that precious way
she taught me what Jesus had to say.
And that´s "Feed the hungry,
heal the sick.
Then take a rest.
Never walk, when you can dance.
Make your home a cosy nest."
Yes, it was in her Jewish way
she taught me what Jesus had to say.
In her precious way
she taught me what Jesus had to say.


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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 3/21/2008 8:53:04 AM   
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From an email I received today for those on the forum who are Christians.

Today is Karfreitag, a German word meaning "Friday of Lamentation." In English we call it Good Friday, but other languages usually refer to it as Holy Friday. In Armenia it's called High Friday, and the Russians refer to it as Passion Friday. In China, it's known as the Day of Christ's Suffering.

In Bermuda, kites will be flown today, all of them using wooden frames in the shape of a cross. As the kites soar into the sky, they symbolize the crucified one who has now ascended into heaven. In England, hot cross buns will be served, and the BBC will introduce its morning newscast with a verse from Isaac Watts' hymn, "When I Survey the Wondrous Cross."

All over the world, Christians will pause today to ponder anew the wonder of our Lord Jesus who shed His blood for the sins of the world. Perhaps each of us should establish a personal tradition. Let's find a way and a time today to direct our thoughts to the old rugged cross and to thank the Holy One for overcoming death and making us more than conquerors through Him.

Easter Obituary (Obituary worth reading)

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 5/30/2008 8:46:25 AM   
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"God loves each of us as though there was only one of us."
St. Augustine

As Catholic Christians, today we celebrate the feast of the Sacred Heart--the Love of the Holy One for each of us. However, there never has been a feast of the "Sacred Head". Jude This is so in keeping with your post above from 3/18. May we all follow its wisdom.

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 6/1/2008 1:39:26 AM   
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Maybe Joe or someone can share their wisdom on the following photo from New Zealand.


Sky Art at the Arts Centre, formerly the University of Canterbury
A photo does not convey the wonder of walking through this courtyard.
The 3 dimensional wire sculpture is suspended high in the sky, and adopts widely varying perspectives as one moves along the ground. This, too, is learning to fly.
Artist: ? (any hints welcome!)
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 6/1/2008 8:43:04 AM   
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I received this in an email this morning and thought it well worth passing on.


An Uncommon Call to an Uncommon Life
by Max Lucado

Each person is given something to do that shows who God is.

Da Vinci painted one Mona Lisa. Beethoven composed one Fifth Symphony. And God made one version of you. He custom designed you for a one-of-a-kind assignment. Mine like a gold digger the unique-to-you nuggets from your life.

When I was six years old, my father built us a house. Architectural Digest didn’t notice, but my mom sure did. Dad constructed it, board by board, every day after work. My youth didn’t deter him from giving me a job. He tied an empty nail apron around my waist, placed a magnet in my hands, and sent me on daily patrols around the building site, carrying my magnet only inches off the ground.

One look at my tools and you could guess my job. Stray-nail collector.

One look at yours and the same can be said. Brick by brick, life by life, God is creating a kingdom, a “spiritual house”. He entrusted you with a key task in the project. Examine your tools and discover it. Your ability unveils your destiny. “If anyone ministers, let him do it as with the ability which God supplies, that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ”. When God gives an assignment, he also gives the skill. Study your skills, then, to reveal your assignment.

Look at you. Your uncanny ease with numbers. Your quenchless curiosity about chemistry. Others stare at blueprints and yawn; you read them and drool. “I was made to do this,” you say.

Heed that inner music. No one else hears it the way you do.

What about you? Our Maker gives assignments to people, “to each according to each one’s unique ability”. As he calls, he equips. Look back over your life. What have you consistently done well? What have you loved to do? Stand at the intersection of your affections and successes and find your uniqueness.

You have one. A divine spark. An uncommon call to an uncommon life. “The Spirit has given each of us a special way of serving others. So much for the excuse “I don’t have anything to offer.” Did the apostle Paul say, “The Spirit has given some of us …”? Or, “The Spirit has given a few of us …”? No. “The Spirit has given each of us a special way of serving others.” Enough of this self-deprecating “I can’t do anything.”

And enough of its arrogant opposite: “I have to do everything.” No, you don’t! You’re not God’s solution to society, but a solution in society. Imitate Paul, who said, “Our goal is to stay within the boundaries of God’s plan for us”. Clarify your contribution.

Don’t worry about skills you don’t have. Don’t covet strengths others do have. Just extract your uniqueness. “Kindle afresh the gift of God which is in you.

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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 6/1/2008 9:19:39 AM   
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Betty,
Thanks for sharing this delightful email.

I think all of us has a "special commission" to mirror God's gifts to us.

My belief goes back to the saying,

"What you are is God's gift to you.
 
What you do with your gifts is your gift back to God."

It is wonderful to see how the many good people on this site share their special gifts of love and compassion with others.

Below is a clock in New Zealand.

 
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RE: PLEASE SHARE YOUR WISDOM - 6/1/2008 9:35:28 AM   
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Thank you, Betty! There is certainly a lot of wisdom in this! We can help each other find these special gifts, because others often can see what we fail to see in ourselves

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