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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/1/2008 8:30:20 AM

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Dear Jude, if this is their fourth weekend together in a row, perhaps there is still hope. It might be help Chloe if it could be explained to her that sometime adults just need adult time together so that they can work on/out adult problems and that their not taking her alone probably has nothing to do with not wanting her around but more to do with the fact that they just need adult time to work out their adult problems. Prayers will continue for all of you.

Gentle hugs and love,

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/1/2008 11:16:13 AM

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Dear Betty,
Yes, I agree with you. I'm not sure he has been with the girlfriend each weekend though, but I'm hoping he is with her this weekend & all is well.

I've been thinking about telling Chloe something like you say.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers.

Blessings, Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/2/2008 12:27:21 AM

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Jude,
I wanted to send Chloe a flower to let her know that I am thinking of her and want to let her know how special I think she really is.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/4/2008 1:46:44 PM

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Dear T.O. Thank you for the lovely flower for Chloe.

It seems that the relationship is over, but as my Son is very upset over it I wouldn't be surprised if he changes his mind.

Please bear with me while I vent my frustration!!!!!!!!!!

My Son reckons I'm cheating him over the phone bill

Plus, because of the high cost of the phone bill I had another try to persuade him to sort out Broadband. He already has it, but wants to change supplier and I can't do any more until he does. But, he says he hasn't got time to do it.

(It was him who told me he wanted to discuss it with me in the first place!!!!!

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My friend got me all wired up and prepared about 2 months ago and believe me, if I could do anything I would. It's not rocket science. But, because this phone line already has Broadband on it, but not in my name, I can't change it myself.
Because my Son has a bee in his bonnet about my friend he won't let him do it for him. Heavens!!!!! He might upset his computer.

The fact that my friend is a computer technician doesn't seem to matter.

Children can be a blessing and are, but I'm convinced now that they are also sent to challenge us, and he certainly is challenging me.

There!!! It's over now......I've got it off my chest. Thanks for listening.

Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/4/2008 10:37:52 PM

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Dear Jude,

I am glad you could ventilate your frustration. It does help, doesn't it? There are days like this, when everything piles up or goes wrong! Sometimes, when I feel frustrated to tears, I start laughing about the absurdity of it all. It is hard not to get exercised over things over which I don't have control!

Wishing you a peaceful day,
Much love,
Edda

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/5/2008 2:02:28 PM

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Thanks Edda!! It didn't end there unfortunately. There was some real unpleasantness later in the evening. Hard to understand.

Now.......yet more computer problems. I am going to have to bite the bullet and think of buying a newer one. It was fine this morning, and just now I discovered that the whole of Office and Outlook Express are missing somehow.

It just hasn't been my 24 hours. I hope the next are somewhat better.

Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/5/2008 2:36:50 PM

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Dear Jude, I am not a computer expert, but I wonder if you could not re-install the missing programs, at least for the time being??

Love,
Edda

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/5/2008 9:43:24 PM

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Hi Jude

The last time something like that happened to me it was because of a virus from the internet. Maybe check your internet security, and do a good virus scan, and a registry clean (there are good free programs for this on the net). Also do CheckDisk, ScanDisk and defragment the hard drive (from Windows).

Hope you sort it all out

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/5/2008 11:51:53 PM

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Jude,
I wanted to send you some healing light for your son.

May your son realize that having a good woman in a man's life is the best thing that could ever happen to him.

As far as your computer goes, Joe has given you excellent advice.

The nice thing about verbally venting your frustration at your computer is that it nevers interrupts you when you are venting and you don't have to apologize later to it.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/6/2008 1:26:29 PM

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Dear Edda, T.O. and Joe, thank you all for your input.

Blessings are due to my computer Angel/Fairy for sprinkling 'fairy dust' on my computer last night and the magic worked.

Joe, it's funny you should have mentioned the registry as that is where the problem was. Fortunately Windows was able to put it right, and several other things which had been doing strange things were restored too!!!!!!!!!
I've never seen such a dramatic looking problem so quickly solved!
Scandisk has been picking up problems with the registry for some time. My trusty P.C. has had more problems in the last 2 months than in the previous 5 years, so guess it's feeling it's age.

T.O. Thank you for the healing light for my Son. He certainly needs it as he's like a wild beast at the moment....lashing out at anyone who's in the way. He's definitley at a cross-roads in his life I feel, maybe an early mid-life crisis.

Lots of Love to all, Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/12/2008 12:16:58 AM

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Jude,
I continue to pray for your son.

I hope he can round a corner and find himself surrounded by light and love for himself and Chloe.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/12/2008 2:37:35 PM

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Thank you T.O. I shall try to take a leaf out of your book and surround my Son with light. As well as his other probelms he is being financially challenged too, which has obvious implications for me.

Sending you lots of Light also in your changing circumstances. It sounds as if you are rounding your corner now too.

Love, Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/12/2008 10:51:33 PM

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Today I felt very gratitude challenged like I have never felt at any time I can remember.

I was, as they say, in touch with my anger. I started yelling out even though I know no one could hear. I cried out at the unfairness and the disregard that has been part of my life lately.

It just all welled up and I was okay to express my anger. I loudly proclaimed to the trees my anger at all of this and how it has affected my daughters and myself in such a profoundly negative way.

I yelled out that I am sorry to my daughters for what sadness and hurt they are going through and that I know it is not their fault. I know that I have done nothing to merit the sorry situation I find myself in or that it is somehow all my fault.

I know anger has got bad press, as Rachel Naomi Ramen says in her book Kitchen Table Wisdom. I also know that anger allows you to own your feelings and be able to process hurts. Thanks for allowing me a space to share my emotions with my friends here.

Thanks to all behind the scenes who make this site work for people who are hurting like me.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/12/2008 11:30:12 PM

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Hello Thankful one, I am sorry you have had such a day. Sending you a "Big tight bear hug" across the miles and the keyboard. You are in my prayers and in my thoughts.

God bless
Marie

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/12/2008 11:46:54 PM

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Thank you Marie.

I can feel the big hug across the distance.

You are a beacon of light in a foggy world right now for me.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/13/2008 12:01:53 AM

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Dear Thankful one,

I am sorry you had such a bad day, but, please, allow me to say that I am almost glad you had this outburst of anger and pain. You have many reasons to be angry. It is good to come in touch with it and release it. There is such a big difference between acknowledging one's feeling of anger and cultivating it. You strive to maintain such a positive attitude that this almost had to happen, and I think you will feel better. Anyway, that is how it looks to me, forgive me, if I am wrong.

Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/13/2008 1:21:57 AM

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Edda,
Thanks for your kind and helpful words. You have a wonderful and delightful way of expressing the truth without hurting anyone's feelings.

I'm not upset that I allowed myself to be angry. In fact, today's feelings being expressed were long overdue.

It takes strength to allow yourself to feel the pain. It is a release to feel the anguish of undeserved suffering. Then it feels better after you courageously feel the pain. Allowing the feelings to overcome your psyche helps to avoid the bitterness.

The alternative is not feeling and that's completely unacceptable.

Edda, you give me a great vantage point to connect with my feelings and see best how to deal with them.

Thank you very much.

As Marie says so eloquently, God bless us all.

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/13/2008 1:44:57 PM

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Dear T.O.

Well, I am going to say I am very pleased you have got in touch with your anger. It is never a comfortable place to be, but in no way should we be feeling guilty for legitimate anger. It has to be expressed, appropriately and safely, but it does have to be expressed. The alternative is, as you say, not feeling, and that turns into resentment and depression.

I am someone who tends to sit on my anger, and then when it does emerge, it comes out inappropriately. Like me you are a 'feelings' person, and we have to bear the 'bad' feelings as well as the 'good' ones. But I would not be any other way, as I'm sure you wouldn't either. You have much to feel angry and hurt about.

Sending you many Blessings and some more Hugs.

Love, Jude

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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/13/2008 5:35:49 PM

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Thankful One,

I can only echo what has already been said. Once you have expressed your anger you can and will get past it. I wish you peace and a new beginning.

Juliana
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RE: Today I Feel "Gratitude Challenged...." - 6/18/2008 7:44:49 AM

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Today I want to be a little kid and go in the corner and “suck my thumb,” and just tell everyone to leave me alone. I am just too tired to “stomp my foot” and throw a temper tantrum. I am tired of the kitchen and all that it still entails and angry that it could readily have happened 10 or 15 years ago when it could have been much more useful. I am tired of ranges coming in and going out either because one doesn’t work or the other is damaged. Between the lawns “DEMANDING” to be taken care of, all the tile that needed to be set and grouted piece by piece and still more to do, and on and on.

I am so tired of all the family conflict that comes with serious illness, the petty little digs, the old wounds that are torn open and the pain felt again. The prayer once again becomes “I don’t want to deal with all this garbage. In the words of the psalmist—‘Oh that I had the wings of the dove and could fly away and be at rest.” But instead, “Sustain me Lord so that my longing for flight not be an attempt at vain escape but honest movement toward your peace.’ I am too tired today and just need to hand it all off to you, my Mother/Father/Sister/Brother Holy One, my “Community of One”. Today, I need to see only one set of footprints. "Shepherd me oh God, beyond my hopes, beyond my fears, from death into life."

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I'menuff

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