DreamSinger
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Hi Heather,
To lose someone you are so close to so suddenly can be very traumatic. If you did not have the time to fully grieve, if you did not have the space to go into the depths of your sorrow, then your wound can be a very present wound even though it may have happened many years ago.
Sometimes people think that children do not feel as deeply as adults, but I think that often it is the other way around, as children often haven't developed the sheer volume of defense mechanisms to protect themselves from the pain they feel. Maybe the people around you at that time felt they were protecting you, a child, from further pain by glossing over the event. Maybe the people around you did not feel comfortable with the topic of death.
Whatever the reason, there doesn't seem to have been any resolution within you. The good news is, you are now at a place in your life where you can give yourself and that beautiful child you were both the time and space to finally grieve, which is not the same as aimless sorrow. And there are always many things to grieve, not only the passing of one person - your world, your way of seeing that world, your innocence, your relationship with reality itself is all changed. Each one of these is a loss.
You don't have to do this alone. Perhaps one of the things you will want to consider is finding a grief counselor or organization that is committed to the grieving process.
You have already take a very important step to sharing your sorrow with others. Holding you in my prayers.
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