My prayer - my responsibility?

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:39:52 GMT

good night and sleep all well...

love.is.

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (bm)

Tue, 03 Nov 2009 04:36:19 GMT

and I am sorry, that I cannot dosomething,
to make it better for you or, better said,
to have an arm long enough to hug you,
maybe to cry together,
but to feel after that better.

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Hildegard)

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 13:40:44 GMT

Dear Jude,

My computer is "heartless" and won't even let me copy these warm hugs here. I can only agree with all that it would be so good to hug you, Isabella, Sandra and all my friends in person. These cyberhugs are not less heartfelt!

Much (((love)))
Edda

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (buttington)

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 12:54:54 GMT

Thank you dearest Sparrow,
and I send the Love and the Hugs straight back to you and hope someone will show you a little kindness today too.
(((((((♥)))))))
Jude

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (lilsparrow)

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 08:22:25 GMT

It pains me
as I have no time to make a thoughtful response this morning,
but I tell you both,
Isabella and Jude . . .
each with your own hurt and sorrow,
my heart reaches out to you
and I wish that I could give you the warmth of a human, physical hug,
but I can't . . .
perhaps though,
you will feel it somehow
in the kind action of someone who is nearby.
I carry you both
very much
in my heart today
with much love . . .
sparrow
(((((((♥)))))))

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (sandra67)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 22:33:23 GMT

Pardon me, if I talk too much about my own pain that it seems

Isabella if you share your pain it becomes lighter 'at times' and please never apologize for sharing ....

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (buttington)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 20:02:56 GMT

and I am sorry, that I cannot dosomething, to make it better for you or, better said, to have an arm long enough to hug you, maybe to cry together, but to feel after that better.

Dearest Isabella,
We may not be able to physically hug and comfort each other, and cry together, but we are doing the next best thing here on this very loving Forum. Thank you for your Love. I shall think of you too tonight.

with Love,
Jude

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:49:28 GMT

Dear Edda,

I know, that we have to be patience in our lives to sort all things, in our own speed and that I am maybe not a patient person... but I try to be one ...

@all
Pardon me, if I talk too much about my own pain that it seems, that I could think, that I am the only one, who has to carry something, thats really not my intention...

much love,
is

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:38:05 GMT

Dear Jude,

I am so sorry for you, and yes, it IS a hard part to loose the love of the own child and it is unfair-even we didn´t make our faults with aim (?)...but we tried to do many good things and our intention was to do everything good
You had a loss in a bad way too, and of course much more.
When I am writing here, maybe, my thoughts are thoughts so many, many people have too,
and I am sorry, that I cannot dosomething, to make it better for you or, better said, to have an arm long enough to hug you, maybe to cry together, but to feel after that better.
I only want to say to you, that you ever, ever can hope, that one day your son will stay with you to start again, and that he knows one day, that he always had and have your love, and he just couldn´t see it. I know, its very hard to wait of this moment.

You will be in my thoughts before I go to sleep, as many here,
only my hugs,
love,
is.

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Hildegard)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:16:53 GMT

Dearest Isabella,

Life isn't always fair, and there is no easy answer to that!

What bothers me even more, though, when "Life is not fair" is used as an excuse for not trying to be fair when and where it is possible. This kind of unfairness adds insult to injury. While I can't change what others are doing, I can try to be fair in my own thoughts and actions!

Dear Isabella, you are more "useful" than you realize. Your difficult life has given you a profound understanding of others who suffer. You have shared this lovingly, and made others not feel so alone.

Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (buttington)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 15:51:13 GMT

We cannot share people we have lost, only in our prayers or thoughts, but nobody can touch thoughts, hug them, feel the warmth of humans...it is so unfair, unfair....

Dearest Isabella.
the word "unfair" is one that I am using a lot at the moment, even though I know life isn't always "Fair"

I think we as humans feel deeply the unfairness of life, not only for ourselves, but in general.

For me it is so unfair that my kind and gentle Son (as he was not so long ago) is now an aggressive unkind bully, and what is worse is the fact that his girlfriend is too! UNFAIR !!!

I envisaged a lifetime of Love and kindness from him. I don't know which is worse, to lose a child or to lose the love of your child.

....My little dog Rosie has sensed my upset and has come to put her head in my lap. That's Love ♥

Sending you Sisterly Love and Hugs dear Isabella.
Jude

(((((((♥)))))))

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (sandra67)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 15:08:06 GMT

Sometimes I ask myself what`s "useful" of me

Dear Isabella I don't think God gives us heavy loads to carry not at all.I guess sadly we all carry so many heavy loads.
We will never understand 'why' but we must try to unload some of the 'weight' of the 'backpack' because otherwise it will cripple us in the end.

You are a very very caring person who does no harm to anyone so you are very 'useful ' to so many people.

Yes it is 'unfair' at times and I wish it were different but sadly this is life.

Take care Isabella sending you some gentle hugs((♥♥))

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Sat, 31 Oct 2009 14:52:54 GMT

Hope Coach...
you´ve told this story a longer time ago, and indeed, ... thank you for this story I´ve read today...

The story doesn't end there. Brenda's father is a cartoonist. When she told him the incredible story of the ant, the prayer, and the contact lens, he drew a cartoon of an ant lugging that contact lens with the caption, 'Lord, I don't know why You want me to carry this thing. I can't eat it, and it's awfully heavy. But if this is what You want me to do, I'll carry it for You.'

If God, or my daughter, or others I love or try to give my really, really good thoughts, wishes, feelings, yes,

if it is, to change your badness into a better thing,
if it would depend from it, that freedom is all over there,
I swore, I would understand, that - not onle me - we all know this - have sometimes nearly the "whole world" as a big backpack on our shoulders, but .. . is it like this?
I am not so wrapped up into my own world, that I would think, that especially m e is t h e
person, who GOD would choose, to change something special and very useful
Sometimes I ask myself what`s "useful" of me.

We cannot share people we have lost, only in our prayers or thoughts, but nobody can touch thoughts, hug them, feel the warmth of humans...it is so unfair, unfair....

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:13:28 GMT

I am sorry, to look at this thread such late again..
especially because I didn´t thank @ By Gray and welcome him too.

And yes, Jude, I read your answer again, and I thought of myself, when I said good night on the other thread, that it would be so relieved (?), to can forget, and that it is a special gift, to can think of person we love from all of our hearts, to see over their and my own faults.
But one year later, after loosing two people in a very short time, nearly nothing came better, and it needs so much strength to push away all thoughts about them, for some hurt, there is no healing, for some loss too...

And yes, By Gray, we grow older, and because of this reason, some parts of our life should change in speed, for we have less and less time, to can stand up, if we can, and I know, that friendship brakes, if somebody cannot stand up or stand up and fall again, in the next moment, just little things happen - friendship must be strong as steel cable, to hold...

In that moment, some love "brakes" or friendship brakes, I know, that it never could have been in the past and than I ask over and over, what it w a s...

This days of remembrences are the days, weeks,where all wounds lay open and it don´t need much, to go down.

I will change the site, and try to save my little strength of this day.

m.l.f.a.
is.

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (buttington)

Sun, 11 Oct 2009 05:32:17 GMT

I too welcome you Brother Graham-Michael and look forward to reading more posts from you,

Blessings,
Jude

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Hildegard)

Sun, 11 Oct 2009 00:15:17 GMT

Welcome to the forums, Br. Graham-Michael!

This forum for groups isn't visited very often except for the German section (GGG). I did noticed that you posted in the Grateful Living forum where more people will become aware of you presence. I hope you will visit often and share with us your experience and wisdom.

With every good wish,
Edda

Re:My prayer - my responsibility? (Br Gray)

Sat, 10 Oct 2009 23:04:54 GMT

Isabelle - one with the beautiful name - all the other responses are so true and I hope you have found strength in them. Being alone can so often be confused with loneliness. When I have my moments of being lonely I pray that all the Angels and Saints - in heaven and on earth - are there with me, of course knowing full well that they are.
This, for me, is the greatest strength in prayer - that the whole Communion of Angels and Saints is supporting me - and every day I get older, I know the long long list has been added to by wonderful people.
Blessings.

RE: My prayer - my responsibility? (lilsparrow)

Thu, 16 Apr 2009 08:04:38 GMT

Sometimes dear Isabella,
I think people are so afraid of their own pain and sickness and fear
that they avoid
or run away from the pain, fear and sickness of others.
A very dear friend of mine was in the hospital,
and grieved terribly,
that her friend from childhood
never came to see her there,
never called to offer support,
never sent her a card of concern.
This childhood friend was no less a friend than I,
but was chased away from caring
by her own demons.
If we can understand this sometimes
it can make our own burden easier to bear,
because it will be our own burden only,
and not what we inflict by feeling
onto others . . .
with much love, dear Isabella . . .
sparrow

RE: My prayer - my responsibility? (buttington)

Wed, 15 Apr 2009 05:52:55 GMT

Dearest Isabella,
I hear what you are trying to say perfectly, and I understand.
I remember, when my ex-husband first left me, how hurt I was (and still am) by people not understanding how I felt.

From a distance now, I can see things a little more clearly. I am someone who always tries to see all and everyone's side of a thing, but then I could only see my side of things. My husband was leaving me, he had hurt me, emotionally, mentally and physically. How could people defend him??

It was this seeming lack of understanding from my friends which hurt me most of all.

But now I see they were only trying to help me see things from a different perspective. It made me angry at the time. I still get angry when people don't seem to see things from my perspective, but I've stopped resenting it. That is them.......this is me. I know in my heart what is best for me (ususally) so it doesn't matter if others don't agree. It hurts, but not so much now.

Yes, of course people and relationships are much more important than 'things' but the people you mention don't want to imagine going through such pain as you are. If they let themselves feel that pain it will be more than they can bear (they think) so they don't feel it. They hide from it.

On the other hand, I can't imagine the pain I will feel if I have to leave the home where I now live.

You see? It's a different kind of pain, not to be compared to losing a person.

With much Love and Hugs,
Jude

RE: My prayer - my responsibility? (Isabella Bernardo)

Tue, 14 Apr 2009 17:56:35 GMT

Hello, dears,

I know that HE do not judge - better - I feel, that HE wouldn´t do it as we, we so "perfect" humans; It is hard to believe in the existence of GOD if I look around me and listen to the people, their meanings, their hopes, their wishes, and of mine.
The most are so different, that I ask myself every day, why I am not like they?!?
The most of them are able to accept: to lose a person the love, but the most are not able to accept to lose their home, to lose their money, to lose their car...
And when we are talking about this reason - because t h e y cannot accept, that I am suffering about my daughter or my partner, they think, I don´t w a n t to feel better,; they think, that I deceive myself when I reply that they "suffer" about lost materials, and beg them to look, what about they are suffering: and they say, that it is different. Different because they must l i v e - and I answer: yes, to live is our assignement, but I also want to l i v e in a good way; and that for m e it isn´t bad to have no car, but it isn´t easy, to have lost someone.
So it goes on, and I lose my words, because I cannot find equal terms...

Sometimes I think, that those people - and some of them I like so much, want to punish me because I can´t goe conform with them.
they cannot understand, that grieve can be more than suffer about lost things.
(The first time the wheren´t with us, when my daughter died - of course - I can understand that they didn´t know what to say, to do;
and now, as they know about my broken relationship to my partner, it´s the same).
They cannot understand, that it´s not easy, to patch up (?) broken hearts like a broken car...
Maybe that I am selfish to cannot find the right level to them.

I hope, that my words are not confusing, especially because of the different language, but also because of what I mean.

thank you, to trust, that I could be a relatively sensitive person, but I am not really sure.

love, Is.