my mum

Re:my mum (lilsparrow)

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 10:03:56 GMT

Dear Sharon . . .
Yes, the passing for my precious Phoenix was peaceful . . .
I am happy that I was able to give him this.
He loved me
and trusted me to do the right thing,
and for that I am grateful . . .
he lives now, safely,
and free from pain
in my heart,
as does Rye
with you . . .

As you begin to heal
(and you will begin to heal)
the happy memories will return.

I am afraid that dying is a part of living,
and some day
we all must die.
It is an intended part of our journey here . . .
it is the nature of things,
but I know that you would not wish the grief upon your mother
by wanting to die before she does.

Live as fully as you possibly can,
dear Sharon . . .
it is the best gift you can give to yourself,
to those you love who still live,
and to those who have left before you.
A candle burns
and I always pray
for healing of your broken heart
with much love . . .
sparrow

Re:my mum (sandra67)

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 06:51:47 GMT

Dear Sharon,

I pray your heart hurts will lessen soon.I use to worry about my Mother dying before me and still do in lots of ways.Sharon before I became 'ill' I did not realize what I had it's only now looking back I can see this.I don't mean you I mean me Sharon.So now I am trying so hard to live for today I really am.

You are a kind and gentle soul Sharon and no one would ever want you to leave this world before your time no one.

I hope today is brighter for you.

Take care Sharon ,love Sandra xx

Re:my mum (buttington)

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:35:34 GMT

Dear Sharon,
What you are experiencing is what everyone of us goes through at some time or another. Losing someone we love is one of the most painful experiences we will have in life. Often it is something we don't ever really get over.
It will be very hard when you lose your mother, but she would not want you to be dreading it while she is still alive. Believe me when I say, your feelings of grief will get a little easier with time.

23 years after losing my Mother, I still miss her and wish she was still here, and losing a pet is no different really. But the pain does become less.
You must honour your love for your mother by getting on with your life and living it to the full. She brought you into the world and wants that for you. She doesn't want the terrible pain of you dying first, and I don't think you would wish that on her either.

Honestly Sharon, I do understand,

with Love,
Jude

Re:my mum (Hildegard)

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:34:55 GMT

Dearest Sharon,

I feel for you! Grieving is hard work! You WILL feel better with time. It isn't helpful to anticipate how we are going to react to anything in the future. We have no control over our future. Things usually don't turn out the way we fear!

Be patient with yourself, give yourself time. Rye remains close to you in your heart. You did a very loving thing in allowing his suffering to be ended. Finding an animal dead, as once happened to me while looking after my neighbor's cats, is not easy either!

Candles are always burning in your group!
I pray for strength and hope for you!

Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Re:my mum (sharon)

Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:31:35 GMT

Dear Edda Sparrow and Jude,
Thank you for your messages and Sparrow I am so so sorry to hear you lost a beloved companion too I hope it was a peaceful passing for your beloved friend and that you are beginning to heal from the loss.
I just can't contemplate having another one ever I don't want to feel this pain ever again from loosing one it is too much to bear. I will never get over watching Rye be put to sleep when it was the last thing I ever wanted for him. Why o why couldn't he have gone to sleep without the need for a vet to do it for him. I know its probably stupid but I sleep with his collar under my pillow it makes me feel that he's near me if only he was. If I am so upset over losing Rye how am I ever going to cope when its mums time and there will be nobody there for me. I just have to make sure that I go first
love sharon

Re:my mum (buttington)

Tue, 02 Mar 2010 07:55:44 GMT

Hello dear Sharon,
My heart goes out to you in your grief for Rye. The death of a loved companion is no less than for a friend or family member really. Love is Love.

I agree with all that Edda and Sparrow have said. It's early days for you and of course you are heart-broken, because Rye was so special to you.

One day another animal may enter your heart in order to share Love. I have found that the pain of loss is far outweighed by the happy and loving times spent while they were alive. Soon you will be able to remember the happy times without so much pain.

With Love and Hugs,
Jude

Re:my mum (lilsparrow)

Tue, 02 Mar 2010 06:42:21 GMT

Dearest Sharon . . .
Like you,
I have recently lost a beloved companion . . .
and I still miss him so.
He will always be a part of me,
as will the dear ones who have died before.
They are all a choir of light and loving faces in my heart,
and they sing to me in my dreams.
I will never forget them,
but they have broken my heart open so wide
that eventually,
there is always room for another animal
in desperate need of love.
The new faces appearing
do not diminish what I feel for my lost ones,
but honour and enhance that feeling
more than anything else can . . .
so be kind to yourself,
and allow yourself to grieve.
Rye is now within you
with love . . .
sparrow

Re:my mum (Hildegard)

Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:18:29 GMT

Dearest Sharon,

Good to hear from you! You are grieving Rye; nine weeks isn't such a long time. It will get better! Several of us have gone through losing a beloved companion. Rye was extra special to you. You feel your heart is broken. As has been said elsewhere, a broken heart is an open heart, a heart from which love can flow. Right now you can't even consider going through something like this again. You might change your mind in the future. There are so many dogs and cats wanting to be loved.....

Candles are always burning for you!

Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Re:my mum (sharon)

Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:11:09 GMT

Nine weeks on since Rye died the pain of loss feels as strong as it did on the day he left. Miss him so much he really was my best friend I've lost relatives and the loss of them dying is nothing compared to loosing Rye why I don't know he was a dog not a person. I will never have another dog I can't go through loosing another one or having to make the horrible decision to have a loved pet put to sleep it just hurts too much. My heart broke when Rye went and it will never be mended

Re:my mum (Chicagoshirl)

Mon, 15 Feb 2010 01:57:28 GMT

Oh Dear Sharon,

I am quite new to the forum, and only just read quickly through some of your first and then more recent posts. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Rye, but believe Sparrow said it best when she wrote

remember that you honour Rye's life by living with love.

Two days ago, my beloved kitty Ketsl, who has been with me for over 15 years, suddenly died. I am still very much in the shock and denial stage, and tears are plentiful right now. I did, though, find some very helpful and comforting words at this website: http://www.anaflora.com...ing/beloved/beloved.html

Please know how loved you are, and that however dark today may feel, a beautiful dawn awaits.

Re:my mum (lilsparrow)

Fri, 29 Jan 2010 07:08:06 GMT

Dearest Sharon . . .
Yes,
I know this is hard and painful,
and it is easy to secondguess your decision.
I think it happens to all of us . . .
it happens to me
every time I go through it.
It will take time,
but a day will come
when you will have a happy memory of Rye
and your lips will curl into a smile unannounced,
and then
you will feel the full circle of love.

Indeed,

Other cats and dogs need love too, and you and I are needed for that purpose. Imagine how important you might be to another dog who needs you. It would be in honour of Rye too. Maybe?

that is how little Sophie has come into my life . . .
she needed a home
and no one else wanted her.
And my love for her
is a tribute and a memorial to my beloved little tiger
who I lost to cancer almost two years ago.
Weep, dear Sharon,
but remember
that you honour Rye's life
by living
with love . . .
sparrow

Re:my mum (buttington)

Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:10:41 GMT

He trusted me with his life and I repaid that trust with ending his life.

Dear Sharon,
I do so understand this feeling, but it's misguided. You knew when the right time was and as Edda says, you did the right and brave thing for Rye's sake. You did it because you love him.
I kept my cat Willow going for far too long. His liver and kidneys were failing, but his heart was so strong he just wouldn't let go. He had fits towards the end and I knew I would have to have him put to sleep. It's a very hard thing to do, but we do it out of love for our animal companions.

As much as losing them hurts, I know, Godwilling, I will have other cats after mine have gone. Other cats and dogs need love too, and you and I are needed for that purpose. Imagine how important you might be to another dog who needs you. It would be in honour of Rye too. Maybe?

with Love and understanding,
Jude

Re:my mum (Hildegard)

Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:39:15 GMT

Dearest Sharon,

Please, don't do anything to hurt yourself! You did the loving thing for Rye. It was a very difficult and brave thing to do. There is no reason for you to wish you had gone back on your decision. It will get better with time, when you can remember with a smile the good times you had together and be grateful for them!

Much love,

Edda

Re:my mum (sharon)

Thu, 28 Jan 2010 19:26:40 GMT

I can't do this anymore miss Rye so much it hurts I've spent most of tonight in tears thinking about him. I wasn't ready to lose him can't help thinking I did the wrong thing in letting him be put to sleep maybe he should have been given more time I just don't know. He trusted me with his life and I repaid that trust with ending his life. I so wish he was still here and well but there's no point wishing for something that will never be he's gone and I need to go to him so I know what I have to do to make that happen
love sharon

Re:my mum (lilsparrow)

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 07:07:49 GMT

Dear Sharon . . .
This arrived in my email this morning
and I think it is pertinent for you as well . . .

"Align your personality with your soul.
Until that happens, you won't be able to give the gifts you were meant to.

Remind yourself daily of the following:

You are a soul first and a personality second.
You are worthy. You are not on this Earth by accident. You have a reason to be here. There's a difference between accepting that in your mind and accepting it in your heart.
It's not an "it" that you're looking for—it's your life that you're living.
You are here to create an authentically empowered life. There is no guarantee you will do it. It's up to you."

You have a reason to be here . . .
All things happen with purpose.
Choose life
with love . . .
sparrow

Re:my mum (sandra67)

Wed, 27 Jan 2010 03:26:18 GMT

Praying for you Dear Sharon daily.
Love and understanding ,Sandraxx

Re:my mum (Hildegard)

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:06:41 GMT

Dearest Sharon,

Rye is still with you in your heart! It is a different way of being with him, but then this how it goes for all of us, when we lose a precious companion, human or animal.
No other dog can replace Rye, but I am sure there are others waitiing to love you, when you are ready!

Much love,
Edda

Re:my mum (buttington)

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:51:17 GMT

it would make me happy to be with him is that so wrong

No dear Sharon, of course it isn't wrong, but your life is precious too. Rye's love will never leave you. He is with you in spirit....you only have to call him.

I do know how painful this is. My little Blackberry is very ill tonight and I could be losing him. My heart breaks and I don't know how I will cope. Sometimes he has been my only loving and faithful friend. He's been there when others haven't, just like Rye was for you.

Choose life dear Sharon.

With Love,
Jude

Re:my mum (sharon)

Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:12:25 GMT

Dear Sparrow edda and Jude,
Thank you all for your messages you are all too kind. I will give up with putting anymore photo's on here since they don't show only by a link.
Jude you say Rye wouldn't want me wishing I was with him but why not since he loved me no matter what. Nobody else has loved me like he did he would want me with him as he was my best friend. All I want is to be with him nothing else matters life is much more empty without him and it would make me happy to be with him is that so wrong
love sharon

Re:my mum (buttington)

Mon, 25 Jan 2010 18:36:58 GMT

Dear Sharon,
If at first you don't succeed! I think most of us have had trouble posting pictures at first. I only managed it after others here helped me.

Of course you still miss Rye. Like Sparrow says, we never stop missing pets we have loved, even if we have others afterwards.
Rye loved you and would not want you to be wishing to be with him. He is still with you, only in another form. He's still wagging his tail at you.
Thinking of you, with Love,
Jude