Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (mamaluvskids)

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:53:16 GMT

Juliana, thanks for your post, candles and your prayers as this means so much to me and my family. It really does. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you and your Theresa. My heart goes out to each and every family who has lost baby or child far too soon. Please know that I really appreciate your love and support. I am lighting a candle for you and your Theresa in the all section. Love ALways, Joya

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (J1937)

Sun, 08 Nov 2009 02:35:04 GMT

Dear Joya,

I am also praying for you and your family. Having also lost a baby through miscarriage I empathize with you. I pray you may be able to find comfort and strength in knowing that Kelsey is spiritually present to you like Theresa is to me. A candle is lit. (4joya). May it give you warmth!

Much Love,
Juliana

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (celtic star)

Sun, 01 Nov 2009 03:03:32 GMT

Hi Joya, it's lovely to hear from you, I am so sorry that you are having such trying times at the moment. I can only echo what everone else is saying about needing to look after yourself - easier said than done sometimes! But please do take care of yourself.
Prayers of healing, strength and love for you, your grandfather and everyone whom you love.
Namaste
Glenys x

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (sharon)

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:58:09 GMT

Dear Joya,
Please look after yourself and try and get some rest otherwise you will not be able to be there for anyone else
love sharon

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (lilsparrow)

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 07:03:18 GMT

Dear, dear Joya . . .
It was with much gladness of heart
that I saw you had been here and posted,
but I am disturbed by some of what you write.
We tell you always,
that you must take care of yourself,
and then,
the next thing we know,
you are in the hospital and very, very sick.
Now you have returned,
have not yet been restored to strength,
and are not only continuing to work too hard,
but considering taking on an even bigger burden.
Truly, I do not fault you for this,
but you must be reasonable in your expectations
of what you actually can and cannot do.
I know that you love your grandfather
and will not allow it to happen that he live on the street.
But surely,
you are not the only person who cares about his wellbeing?
Perhaps others in the family 'allow' you
to bear the brunt of the burdens
because you invite it . . .
truly, Joya dear,
I do not mean to criticize or cause you more pain,
but if you do not look after yourself
you will surely not be able to help your family . . .
making yourself a martyr to the cause
will save no one.

If you want to raise your children to be kind and caring human beings,
it is good to show them how to be kind and caring . . .
it is good to allow and encourage children to help.
It gives them the opportunity firsthand
to experience the true joy of unselfish giving.
If we do not instill generous values in our children,
they will grow up to be ungenerous adults.
It is a gift that you as a caring parent
can give them.
Who else will, if not you?

Please, dear Joya,
do not pay lipservice to our pleas.
Think on this seriously.
You do your children a disservice
by not enouraging them to participate in active love and responsibility . . .
I know you must feel that you are sparing them,
but in truth you are not.
Your children--
my children--our children
are the future.
We need to think seriously
of what we want to teach them . . .
what we want to arm them with
as they prepare to face the world on their own some day.
Please be well,
and allow those little hands to help.
It is perhaps one of the greatest things you can give them as a loving parent
with much love . . .
sparrow

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (bm)

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 05:21:33 GMT

I am fighting so much right now as I can't lose another family member

Dear Joya, I can understand that feeling very well,
because I am feeling the same,worrying about to lose my dear dad
who is sick and have strong pains...I can't stand to lose him ,cause in 3 years
I have lost 3 family members, very, very close to me ( my mom,my son and father in law )...
I am going to light a candle for you and your grandfather.
Take good care of yourself because you ARE NOT A WONDER WOMAN!
~with regards~
Buba,Goran's mom

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (buttington)

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 05:00:49 GMT

I guess though us parents think that we are suppose to act tough huh?

Here's one parent who doesn't think so.......me!

Dear Joya, it's as if you really can't hear us all saying, "if you don't look after yourself first, then you are not going to be able to look after anyone else!"

Children need to understand that parents are vulnerable too and need looking after sometimes.

With Love,
Jude

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (mamaluvskids)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:55:57 GMT

Thanks Edda! I have learned to ask more than I used to. Being sick the last few months has taught me that I am not wonder woman! I guess though us parents think that we are suppose to act tough huh?

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (Hildegard)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:35:04 GMT

Dear Joya,

I certainly will keep your grandfather in my prayers in addition to you, of course!
Please, do ask for help! Do your children the favor of being a healthy mother. It takes a bit of humility to admit that one can't do everything, that one has to learn to say "No". I know because I hate to ask and don't like to let go of doing certain things, but the circumstances of my life have taught me to get over this false pride!

I'll light a candle for you and your grandfather!

Much love,
Edda

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (mamaluvskids)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:05:31 GMT

Dearest Jude, Juliana, Sandra & Edda, thanks again for posting. It was good to come and see you post to me. I have to admit that when I came back in from having to run errands, taking Kayla to dance class, then going and seeing my grandfather I was sort of down. I left my grandfather crying as he looks so bad tonight. He has faught hard so many times. He has pulled through so much in the last few years. I can't tell you how many times that we thought that we had lost him. He somehow pulls through. He is so tough. It is so hard though seeing him get so bad. Then we think that he has come through the worst. Two weeks ago I was called and told that we needed to make the decision whether to put him on a ventilator or not. Luckily we never had to but the time is coming. I know it is. I have been fighting my family as they don't want him to be on the ventilator. I have talked to him about what he wants done as far as having a DNR. Right now he wants to be resessitated. My grandfather has had a hard life and he has not made the best choices to make but he is still my grandfather, so that being said I feel like I will fight till the very end. We are trying to get his affairs in order with his will and everything. It is sad to know that my uncles and aunt don't really have nothing to do with him. I can only picture me being in there and no one coming to see me. I can't do that to him. It has been very hard. The rehab place almost put him out the other day as he was not going to therepy and my father was like I don't know where he will go and I told my hubby I said " what does he mean?" That is his father! I told my hubby it would be hard to care for him here but if that means he is not going out on the street he will come here to live with us. I am just scared that I can't take care of him like he needs it! I do hope somthing works out! I am trying to find out what options we have and to see that if he can't do the rehab anymore, if there is a nurse that can help come out to my house and take care of him some or something. Something has got to work out.I am fighting so much right now as I can't lose another family member ! My baby Kelsey was to be born Nov. 9 (that was my due date). This in itself is upsetting, I just can't handle losing my grandfather or anyone else. Please pray for my grandfather and my family as we are just having a hard time right now.

As far as me, I will try as hard as I can to try to rest when I can. It has been sort of hard to but I know that I can't go on like I have been or I will be back in the hopsital. I have a good support team with you and my family and friends here. I have a hard time asking for help as I feel like that I should be the one keeping up with everything. Thanks for you love and support as it is very appreciated right now. Love Always, Joya

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (Hildegard)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:27:45 GMT

Dear Joya,

Thank you for bringing us up to date on what has been happening to you. I can only second all the nice things that have been said to you, and all the good advice as well!
I hope you'll take it to heart! We have a German proverb, "The jug keeps going to the well until it breaks." You wouldn't want this to happen to you! Even someone in the best of health couldn't do what you are doing! Please, look after yourself!

I'll light a candle for you!

Much love and warm hugs,
Edda

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (sandra67)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 14:24:08 GMT

Dearest Joya it's so nice to see you back again

but

I do think that being so busy has it's benefits as I think that it keeps my mind off of how much pain I am in physically and emotionally right now

Joya sorry but Jude & Juliana are right you really need to take care of you first and first and foremost.Without sounding horrid you may well end up back in hospital or worse.Let others care for you it's needed so badly.Your children cried when you were in hospital this is 'normal' as I use to cry for my 'Mother' when she was away , but they would be devastated if they were to lose their Mummy.

Joya you are ill and it's so important for your children to have you in their lives for many many years to come.

Please rest and let your husband and your Mother care for you and your children.Your life is too precious to so many people but most of all to you.

Candles always burn for you and your loved ones.

Take care Joya please xxxx

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (J1937)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 13:57:36 GMT

Dear Joya,

I am also so very glad to see a post from you!!! Only yesterday I was thinking (once more!) what you had become of you! I can only echo what Jude has said: you are a living miracle. But please, please, do take (at least some) care of yourself!!! Delegating some of your enormous load of work and responsibility is certainly necessary, and I do think you will find friends to help you out if you search for them. I have kept you in my heart, but I´m now going to light another candle for you and your family.

Much Love and Blessings!
Juliana

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (buttington)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 13:34:56 GMT

Dear Joya,
It's wonderful to see a post from you as I've been wondering how you are.

But what are you made of?????????????????? With a fraction of what you've been through I would not be looking after anyone....I'd still be in bed. You amaze me and you make me feel tired just reading of all you have to do.

Do look after yourself as you have a lot of recuperating to do yet. Delegate some of that work!

Sending you Blessings and Love,
Jude

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (mamaluvskids)

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 12:21:52 GMT

Dearest All, I have such a great family on here ! I don't know what I would do without you! Each and everyone of you meant the world to me! Thanks so much for your love, thoughts and prayers, concerns and candles. They have meant more then you will ever know.

I am sorry that it has taken me awhile to post on here. Even though I have not posted, I have been reading your posts. It has been a real hard battle for us since April when we lost Kelsey. I would have been due to have Kelsey in 2 weeks now or possibly had the baby by now. Please just keep us in your thoughts and prayers. Me being sick has put alot on my family. I honestly at first just thought that I had a virus. it started at the end of August. I waited a couple of weeks thinking that it would go away. (Obviously it didn't) I ended up at one of 4 hospitals. They gave me fluids, antiobiotics and pain meds, told me that I had a bad UTI and it had went into my kidneys. They sent me home and I didn't get any better. I then went to 5 specialists and in so much pain all the time that I could not do anything. My family and I thought that it might be my appendix but they just kept saying that it was my kidney and they did find 2 cysts on my ovary. So, back to more meds of every kind and fluid and sent me home. I kept going back and forth to my doctor as well and she had me on alot of meds too hoping not to have to put me in the hospital as she was so afraid that I would get other sicknesses with my immune system being so low. When my doc could see that I was just getting worse, she called another hospital and told them to admit me, as you know they didn't and they just did what the other doc had done with meds and sending me home. That is the hopital that sent me home with my potassium so dangerously low. So... by now I have lost 30 pounds and can't move hardly, pick the kids up... nothing just lay in one spot... Finally went to the lst of 4 hopitals... that is when they found out that I had e-coli, pancriaitis, and those 2 cysts on my ovaries had ruptured. I was in so much pain. I don't remember a whole lot about my last stay as I was so out of it by then. My blood pressure was so low. My hubby thought that he would not be able to ever bring me home again. I stayed 5 days then came home (probably too soon), as my kids were a mess! They could not go to school, they were crying alot and it was just not a good thing. I knew that things were just going to get worse at home and the kids would get farther behind in school, so I came home to try to get back to a so called "normal" life. the doctors did say that it would take me over 6 months to get over the e.coli and all that I had. They aren't 100% sure what caused the e.coli as they have their different opinions. I am still going to keep in touch with 2 specialists (internist and urologists) The docs say that my gallbladder might have to come out and that it will take me awhile to get my energy back as my sickness went on so long. I am gradually getting my strength back. I don't have alot of time to rest as you all know that I have 5 kids and I keep another little boy alot for a friend of ours. Also my grandfather is really bad off right now. He has been in and out of the hopsital with double pnuemomia and congestive heart failure so, Needless to say with dance lessons for my daughter, school,taking care of the kids and my grandfather and my farm, and working the weekends there is no time for rest. My grandfather is currently in a rehab place but there is just me and my father looking after him. We have almost lost him twice and everything is touch and go with him. I am on call all the time with him as I can get him to do things no one else can do. I do think that being so busy has it's benefits as I think that it keeps my mind off of how much pain I am in physically and emotionally right now. I do try to get rest when I can.

Thanks again for all of your thoughts, prayers and concerns. Please just keep us close to your heart and prayers as we need this. I keep you all close to my heart even though I have not had the chance to post like I wanted. I do hope that I will get the time and feel like posting more as i so have missed each and every one of you. God bless you all!

Karen, thanks again for keeping every one posted on my health. You are a priceless friends. Love ALways, Joya

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (lilsparrow)

Fri, 02 Oct 2009 06:38:39 GMT

Dear Karen . . .
I pray that Joya continues to improve,
while remembering to take care of herself
as well
with love . . .
sparrow

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (buttington)

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 09:00:05 GMT

Keeping Joya in my thoughts and prayers,

Love
Jude

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (karebear)

Thu, 01 Oct 2009 08:32:38 GMT

Hey there. Joya called me yesterday. She is hanging in there, but did not give me alot of details. she wanted to tell you she has been reading here some and that she REALLY appreciates all the posts and candles showing your concern. It means SO MUCH to her.

if I hear more news I will surely post here again. I plan on calling her next week and hopefully we will have more time to talk.

Karen

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (Hildegard)

Fri, 25 Sep 2009 15:24:06 GMT

Dear Karen,

I am joining everyone else in thanking you for keeping us informed. I am glad that Joya is better but wonder if she isn't doing too much too soon! I, too, hope she'll be reading all the good advice!

I am keeping Joya in my prayers and am lighting candles for her!

Love,
Edda

Re:Joya is extremely sick, urgent prayers needed (dancingdolphin)

Fri, 25 Sep 2009 15:00:29 GMT

its good to hear your update, and hear that Joya is feeling some better. my prayers continue as will my candles. heres praying that she can get back to full health asap. both of you be gentle with yourselves and know we are with you standing in prayer.

wiuth love

dancing dolphin